Ok about a year and half ago after my mom passed away my dad and big brother and I moved to Texas from Minnesota. I am 15. My big sister goes to college. My dad works for an oil company. He is not home much and we get along pretty well.
However, I am always getting yelled at by my friend's parents, teachers, the principal and vice principal. Usually for talking back or doing something else they think is "inappropriate." They will say stuff like I am lucky they are not my mom (which is very offensive) or my dad, or I would really "get it." Sometimes they threaten to call my dad or they do and they tell him stuff like "around here if someone does not raise their kids properly maybe someone else should" or that I dress inappropriately, jeans too tight, thong out whatever. My dad just tells me I should watch my mouth and show respect but if one more weird adult tells me I need to shape up or that I need a "butt whoopin" I am going to scream!!!! I am at my breaking point! What do I do?
2006-08-28 15:17:01 · 16 answers · asked by Lori 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first all i am so sorry for your mom being gone..
now what i would do is see it like this..everyone in your friends house has different rules what you have at home may not apply everywhere..what i would do is do a little bending especially if i enjoyed being with my friends..
From the parent aspect maybe they think you will influence there kids or maybe they are just trying to help you they think so the best thing is to just realize everyone has different rules and you have the freedom at home to express yourself and go on..
I know it could be hard but its worth it..it will also help you cope with situations when you get older to listen to people you don't wanna hear and come up with ways to get along..its great practice really
2006-08-28 15:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by away right now 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough situation. I'd listen to Dad and not give the other adults a reason to yell at you. It sounds like they are fed up with you as much as you are with them. Being a teen is tough because you think you know a lot and challenge authority figures. Adults don't give you a lot of respect and you might not give them the same. No one likes being challenged so the adults retaliate. Mouthing off (or worse) will only make the adults pressure your Dad so cut him some slack and lay low. Study hard and you can escape to college in three years.
Good luck.
2006-08-28 23:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you haven't explained what exactly you do, in details, what makes adults so "mean". I think how you want to dress is technically upto you but you should put other people into consideration. Not everyone wants to see a beautiful girl wearing tight clothing because it creates lust which goes against some peoples moral issues. So you have to respect what other people want to see. Usually tight clothing looks nasty on nice looking people anyway. Wear dresses, they will suit you much more I bet and they will be more "appropriate" ;)
I know you probably still feel really down about you mum and I don't blame you, but you shouldn't take it out on others (which it sounds like you might be doing). Other people are generally there to help you and guide you and be the extra parent you are missing (as in my experience). They know they can't tell you what to do but they are hinting that your manners need a sorting and when you are around others, you behave a bit differently. You don't have to but maybe you could make the effort because it sounds like people are just trying to help.
I think most people go through this stage of "knowitallism". I know I did and I answered back to a lot of people but you will grow out of it when you start to listen to what other people are saying and when you start to hear yourself.
Just bare with people. If you don't like them and think they are going to be "mean", just ignore them and don't answer back to them.
2006-08-28 22:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by anon1mous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People from Texas are very different than northern people. I find that people from Texas tend to get offended easily and threaten others frequently. I learned this just from vacationing in Texas and being my sarcastic self. I never mean to actually offend anyone. Also, I have friends that moved to Texas from Michigan and they say the native Texans are offended easily, especially about their home state. Personally, people could make fun of Michigan all they want and I won't get offended, they can say what they want as far as I'm concerned. I think they need to show some more respect for you and they shouldn't be saying anything about your mom. Maybe you should try talking to a counselor at your school. I've traveled all over and I do find that the most laid back people are in the North.
2006-08-28 22:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nate 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why not accept the fact that if "everyone " is saying you have a problem you probably do. I'm sorry that your mom died. Have you received counseling? If you haven't then you should. Not to try and change you, just to help you cope and deal with it a little better. Maybe ask your dad if he could start staying home with you a little more.
2006-08-28 22:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
take it easy!!! Stay out of the way of adults since it seems you clash with them....and listen to your Dad and save yourself any more grief. Also know that everyone one thinks they can raise kids better then the next guy and with your Dad being away alot they feel they can run him down freely...so make him proud and don't let any have a reason for getting in your face good luck!
2006-08-28 22:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could it b bcos u lost yr mom n u r rebellious at this point in yr life? + the constant absence of yr dad, so u have no one to turn to for emotional needs? Talk with yr school counsellor ... I'm sure they can help set u on the rite track again. But u must try to change too ......... help yourself n love yourself bfore others can help u. Good luck young lady !
2006-08-28 22:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg nxt time u go 2 skool were a trench coat with just bra and thong under and just drop the coat in the middle o class all he guys will like u and then the adults will get mad and itll be funny
2006-08-28 22:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by x1yofuzzy1x 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
o god u dont no how many times an adult said that 2 me
just ignore them and in ur head picture a hot guy...works for me!!!!
2006-08-28 22:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by [blahh] ™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about the others, The southern Babtist in Texas just think they know everything. Carry on young lady
2006-08-28 22:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by myothernewname 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋