What can I do about my sister not taking care of her kids ?

Question

My sister never takes care of her kids. Everytime one of my family members would come and get them for the summer they come back under wieght with durty clothes smelling like cat piss. They have bruises on their legs and backs. They always say how their mom hits them and her boyfriend and they never want to go home. They don't see their original father because the my sisters boyfriend doesn't want them to. They are at my mothers house and Now she says that she can't come get them because she has no money. But she called me telling me that she brought a brand new computer. But she doesn't have any money to buy her kids school clothes. What should I do thats right for the kids. I'm not sure but I think she is using drugs. Theirs alot to it but I can't explian it all. to much to write. But I love my sis and I don't want to hurt her. But I love my nieaces and nephews to. Please someone help me !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

You know you need to do what's best for the kids. I know you love your sister, but the welfare of her children is more important then your relationship with your sister. Gather all the information you can, then contact child protective services. These children are being neglected and something needs to be done immediately. Good luck.

Answer 2

you don't want to hurt your sister? She is a big girl, but not her children. They are what is important here. I would call social services and make sure that the kids can stay with family members. Keep VERY close contact with the kids at all times. Call them daily, visit them, have them stay with you as much as they can. The less time they stay in an unhealthy environment, the better. This boyfriend obviously has to go too. The biological father, he shouldn't care what this boyfriend says, he should get the kids anyhow. It is his right as a parent and he would be involved if he was any kind of father to these children.

Answer 3

You could turn her into the child welfare in your state. I'm sure you could find a number in your local telephone book. I know it's hard to turn a family member into the state but you have to think of the children. If your sister is taking drugs,you could be doing everyone a favor.There is help for her also.The first step to do this will be very hard because you will have guilt about doing it.But this needs to be done as all their life's could be in danger. Also the emotional side of it can scar the children for life. Good luck to you in what ever you decide.

Answer 4

The kids come first. Your sister needs to get a clue as to who is supposed to be important. How would you feel if something really bad happened to the kids. It is up to You and the family to first let her know to do better or else. Let the Kids know they are supposed to let the guidance consular know if something is wrong at home if they are not allowed to contact You or the family. Hopefully getting Your sister straight on what lies ahead if she does not get her act together will be enough but don't drop the ball.

Answer 5

sounds to me like the best thing right now for your sister would be to get the kids away from her for a while until she cleans herself up and comes around. that way the kids are being taken care and your sister can do whatever she wants without anyone worrying about the welfare of the children. she may not like it, but it may be in the best interest of all parties at this point until she makes up her mind on her own what she wants to do with her life.

Answer 6

I would put the kids first. your sister may get hurt but do whats best for the kids. If she is on drugs and if she around the kids whats to say she couldn't hurt them really bad or even kill them. By what you are saying the kids are like when people get them it sounds like neglect

Answer 7

If it were me, i must be speaking with different relatives that do not stay on your loved ones about the problem, and perhaps they can lead some form of "intervention" with your moms and dads about not making it your duty to visual demonstrate unit her toddlers. that's ridiculous. yet another difficulty i ought to do, isn't be the position you oftentimes are even as she needs you to visual demonstrate unit the youngsters. Be someplace else. study at a acquaintances domicile after college so as that when she comes domicile, or expects you domicile to visual demonstrate unit the youngsters, ....marvel...you're literally not there. yet another more beneficial evasive thanks to regulate it, is to describe to a counselor in college what is going on, and that you've college to spotlight and ought to't because you're being compelled to visual demonstrate unit some different person's (your sister's) toddlers. Then the college will contact toddlers facilities and intervene.

Answer 8

I would get in touch with the father and let him know whats happening. If this is not going to get anywhere it is time to call childrens services. Sister or not these children need an adult to step in and take care of them. If something was to happen to them in her care because you did nothing could you forgive yourself

Answer 9

Report her to the local authorities. Get photo documentation of the bruises and etc.

Have the Child Welfare people remove the kids.

Stuff your sister in an old refrigerator in the landfill, that's where trash like that needs to be.

Answer 10

I would call child protective services get those kids outta that situation , those kids don't need to be beat on and tortured that's just plain wrong, otherwise call the police and they will let you remain unanimous, I am a pediatric nurse for 13 years..