take some time and think about this seriously for me please. its a personal dillema.?

Question

first off, i understand that God created everything and nothing i can do will ever even compare. it really doesnt matter what i do as long as my heart is right with God/Jesus. that is what i believe.

but still, i have trouble being comftorable living the good life here in America when i could be doing something to help people somewhere. and God has given me a tremendous amount. im very smart, the army pays for all my school, and as of right now im single... think of all the good things i could do with what God has given me. but that would entail giving up some of the things i would really like. a wife.. kids.. a comftorable home.

its spelled out pretty clearly in the bible that i should bear my cross. i really do think i could find happiness with a family here in America. but im equaly confident that i could be doing some kind of good in Christs name somewhere else in the world. ..like as a mi

Answer 1

It is our duty on this earth to act in a beneficial way. This does not necessarily exclude things that make you happy as well. There are plenty of things you can do right where you live. Try joining a volunteer problem, volunteering at church, volunteering at a local homeless shelter, or even running for school board or city counsel. You are obligated to make your community better, consequently making the world better. This is a much more affective, efficient, expedient way of helping others. Not to mention it entails less sacrifices on your part :)

Answer 2

I think a lot of us have felt the same pull in two different directions. It is hard to justify being so comfortable here in the U.S., when you know there are others out there with so very little. And I think what you're saying is that you feel like you have a lot to give, but struggle with the idea of what a life of service to others might require you to give up, right? But I think you know that to those whom much has been given, much is expected. Serving God is always the right thing, and it doesn't neccessarily mean you won't get to live the good life. I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. I can think of several men that have gone into the missionary field, and are now married or getting married. If that's in the plan for you, I imagine it will happen, even if you're in Timbuktu. So, for those of us who have been given gifts, whether that be physical strength, intelligence, or material wealth, then we need to use those gifts in a way that will serve God and benefit others . . .I think the rest will take care of itself.

Answer 3

Don't badger yourself with a guilty conscious. Religion is healing, life, and faith. You have a role and position while living, whereas you will know if God has called you out to handle an important missionary duty. I don't agree with how now adays they install "the fear of God" rather than preach the knowledge from the scriptures. Its too extreme for a sinning world we live in. I would say donate some of your time to help out your community. Or maybe help during holidays, times of crisis, and/or at church functions. I have learned, its hard to change the world, but you can start by a community. I have lived in poverty for nearly my whole life, straying myself and others away from crime and violence. Its hard trying not to make a mother steal baby clothes when really the baby WILL go naked. I have touched around 2 dozen lives, from insight on simple psychology from relations to personal development. All that while still trying to develop myself, no matter where i was living in the world. As long as your giving, spreading the word, i believe you are bearing your cross. God bless and good luck.

Answer 4

The best recomendation I could give you is to read a book by Gary Friesen "Decision making and the will of God." I think it will profoundly help you in this area. As far as the celibicy vs. marriage thing. If you can serve God and lust not become a complete distraction than you were given the gift of celibacy, if not, you should get married. It all boils down to how you could serve God best. A single man can serve God more effectivly, but if you're constantly distracted by the idea of a wife or simple lust, then you are to distracted to be serving God effectivly and you should get married to remove that distraction. I hope I've conveyed this well. But I can't recommend the book enough. God Bless, and you're to be praised for putting God ahead of yourself.

Answer 5

I dont think you need to leave this country to find the worst poverty on earth, its right here in the good old USA. You seem to have discovered the secret that helping others is the path to happiness. Don't let it Go. Carry your cross and You will find that God will provide. It may be differant then what you think it should be, Or what your will is. but at the end, when you look back, you will not have wanted it any other way. you will be glad that its Gods will not ours that gets done.
YOUR future wife is standing behind a soup pot ladling out soup to the homeless Go find her.
Life is an adventure and the hero takes the hero's path and its a hero's path because he doesn't know whats on it.

Answer 6

First, may I say I thank God that there are young people like you who are so conscientious and caring. I know He has something special for you to do. That could be in your community in a family setting, or at the far ends of the wide world. My advice is, consider what you want to do, and what you are good at, and get the best training or education toward that goal until God lets you know just what He wants you to do. God made you as you are. Your basic interests and talents, He gave you. Figuratively, he doesn't use a hammer to do the work of a hoe, or a pitchfork to do the work of a pencil, so He won't call you to do something He hasn't or doesn't give you the talent and ability for. Pray, keep your life clean and honorable, stay as on track as you are, and He will let you know. Seek advice from your Pastor. I think you are in fellowship with God close enough that you will recognize His call when it comes. Bless You.

Answer 7

I feel the exact same as you. I am kind of in limbo with what I should do, and have been volunteering at a missionary to see if that is what I should do. I think that you should just pray, pray specifically. I have found that when I ask God to show me something that He would show it in a way that I would understand. You don't have to give up a family, God wants us to be happy, Do what you are called to do now, If God has a family planned for you then it could be planned for later on. Take comfort in that He is in control, and we don't know what might be just around the corner. Keep praying, You have a true heart for God.

Answer 8

You do not have to give up anything to do something good. You and your future wife could volunteer to help in a food ministry for the poor. Even the kids could get involved with that. You could take time to be a big brother. You and the wife could adopt a child from an underpriviledged nation. You could all get involved in the church of your choice and either help current efforts they have or initiate new ones. Ask GOD to show you the way and you may be surprised at the answer you get.

Answer 9

Jesus commanded us in his Great Commission. We have been raised in 'the ways of the world' which we are told not to embrace. I have also started to question the meaning of life other than just pursue of comfort and fitting into society standards and expectations.

Read 'The Purpose Driven Life' by Rick Warren. It is a good start to understand what is Gods plan for you.

Second pray everyday to ask God for guidance and to be the centre of your life. But be prepared for the changes ahead.

Third get involved with a church and its community activities. Be a volunteer.

Fourth go on a mission trip.

Thereafter you should have an idea of what God wants you to do with your life.

Answer 10

It's really excellent that you feel so strongly about helping others, but you shouldn't give up your personal happiness for it. If you do, you won't be much good to anyone. There are many ways you can help without giving up your dreams. You can do volunteer work. It's very rewarding and really helps people. If you have extra money, old clothes, talents to share, these can all be given without giving up your dreams. You need to finish your education, figure out what area you most want to help with (children, youth, women's health, developing industry, etc.) and focus on that subject. Who knows, you might even find a like minded person who will share your dreams and ambitions! Stay focused and good luck!