i'm head over heels in love with my boyfriend (at the time he is my ex, it's getting hard to take the things i've been going through) and the one thing that causes doubts in our relationship is his mother. she has made it very clear that she doesn't accept me, she has uninvited me to several events and seems to look down on me, as well as my family. i think it has a lot to do with society and class, she thinks i'm not good enough for him. help, any suggestions on how to act towards her, or how to open my boyfriend's eyes? i've tried talking to him but he always makes excuses for her. i don't want to lose him, but i don't know what to do any more!
2006-08-28 14:22:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unlikely that you'll change her. Just make sure to move to another state if you marry the guy or she will make your life miserable until you break up.
2006-08-28 14:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why didn't you dump him when he snapped? Is this the kind of man you want to be the father of your children? Is his example one they can look up to? He is probably on drugs and not telling you. Do not enable him in his down hill slide any longer. There are much better fish in the sea. Look for someone with a real job, an eye on the future, discipline in his life. Have you never watched 'Judge Judy?' Bums like this are on there all the time thinking everyone else in life owes them the world. They are not facing reality. You deserve much better. Be proud of your accomplishments and don't give your hard earned money away to a bum.
2016-03-17 03:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change her, so do not try. All you can do is change her mind about you. If you can't do that, and your boyfriend takes his mother's side, you need to move on. Somebody will appreciate you enough to tell his mother YOU are HIS CHOICE and accept it.
2006-08-28 14:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that can't be changed.As for your boyfriend of course he is going to take up for his mom.Probably the best thing to do is try to distance yourself from him and his mom.If the situation doesn't change you just may have to find a new boyfriend.
2006-08-28 16:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate you wanting to change people to be more like you. I don't think it will happen and it may make your life more miserable than it already is. Don't take on more than you can handle or more than is necessary. Your job is to be the best YOU that you can be...not to change other people. If you continue to do that and still lose him, it will be more of a loss for him than you.
2006-08-28 14:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, dont ever try to change anyone becos u cant change people. U can only live with them.Leave thee dude alone, If he really loves and appreciates U he wont let his mom do that to you and U cant force him to change what or how he feels. My advice to you is Take good care of yourself and one day if he dont realize his mistakes then U will meet someone who cares for you and appreciates U.
2006-08-28 14:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by beezebee25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he makes excuses for his mother, then he's not worth the time for you to be with, you should move on and find someone else.
2006-08-28 14:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋