I have a religious question I would like a pluralistic perspective on?

Question

My boyfriend and I are madly in love with one another and we care for each other deeply. We live with each other and plan on getting married. Is there anyone who thinks we will go to hell because of our actions? Keep in mind I would like a pluralistic perspective.

Answer 1

Nope

Answer 2

The only sin is what you personally believe in. If you think you are "sinning" and need to rectify it (like getting married) to be seen as "good" in your God's eyes, then by all means go for it.

As long as you are following safe procedures (like protection, the pill, and all that jazz) so as not to make a family before you really want (or can afford) one, then I feel you are fine and not "sinning".

Mind you, I'm not Christian, so sin does not hold the same meaning for me. If a couple are in love and continue to progress along in this manner without fighting and beginning to hate one another's company after a few years, then all the best to them. This alone is worth more than a simple piece of paper from a church saying they are "allowed" to be together.

I know of so many marriages that fall apart after a few short years, while others who have lived together (not married "yet") for decades are still as in love with one another as they were when they first met. Also there is the cost of getting married... then the cost of a divorce later (which can be almost quintuple the cost of the marriage).

The choice is yours AND your boyfriend's. You BOTH need to sit down, think it over a long while, talk it out (share with each other the pros and cons of both scenarios) and proceed with what you feel is best in your beliefs. If you feel the need, bring in a neutral third party (I would suggest a good friend and NOT a priest) to add in a comment you both hadn't thought of.

Answer 3

I am in the same boat actually. We had not come to Jesus when we met and moved in with each other though.
We had sex and didn't think anything of it. Then, when we found the Lord...things changed. We still live together, but we live more like room mates. We still love each other, however, we sleep in separate rooms, and we plan to until we can afford to get married.
We both agree that this is the way it should be. But, I'm not saying that we are perfect. We have slipped up, and have regretted it after wards, but we are human, and humans sin. What we need to do is get married as soon as possible to prevent any future sinning in that area.
I would suggest the same for you!!

Answer 4

Its TRUE that there is no such thing as a PROPER WEDDING in the Bible and this is for a reason. For one thing, these things change with laws, and God is big on following laws. As Christ himself said: "render unto Ceaser what is Ceaser's and God's what is God's." He also said, "Obey the laws of the land where it is not in defiance of God's law's." And marriage is neither in "defiance of God's Laws" or against Ceaser. In fact it would both be rendering unto Ceaser (as Christ asked us to do when he paid his own taxes) and unto God, since Marriage is a "Civil matter" and not a religious matter in the United States, you MUST "get registered" at the City Hall, etc., and get a license, then find someone "recognized by the State" that is registered to marry." This is usually a religious person, or Justice of the Peace or someone at City Hall.

So, yes, God does indeed consider ANY SEX outside of marriage fornication and any child born out of wedlock a b*stard. Sorry, we are going by the bible here and its not exactly forgiving. Are you going to hell? Hun, we are ALL going to hell and then hoping for a resurrection after Armaggedon, that's what the Bible tells us. Even Christ HIMSELF WAS IN HELL FOR 3 DAYS, do you seriously think he was fanning the flames?

Answer 5

My wife and I (both Pagan) lived with each other for three years before we got married. We've been together ten years now. Everything's great. I think that if you're planning to spend your life with someone you should know them very well. Living and sleeping together(not necessarily with sex) help you learn their quirks and habits. In fact, you learn alot about a person sleeping in the same bed with them. It gives you time to work out problems that would otherwise become a surprise later on.
An interesting story. I have a couple of friends, both devout Catholic, who dated for a few years before they got married. They would occasionally spend the night at each other's place. Since they are Catholic they remained celibate. They flirted with each other, hugged, kissed, and slept in the same bed, but otherwise - no sex. They waited for they're honeymoon. I really had to give them credit for their endurance and perseverance. To my knowledge it paid off. They're marriage is still young but very strong.

Answer 6

In the pluralistic religion only one of you goes to hell.

Actually you aren't going to hell, but you are not living in the way you know is right. There is no reason to delay getting married.

Answer 7

No where in the bible does it say you must be married to be together.. in gods own words it only says "pick one"..marriage was created in the middle ages by royalty to declare dencendance to the throne and cement relations (political and economic) with other nations.. You are perfect in the eyes all that is good married or not as long as you are true to the union

Answer 8

There is probably someone in the world that thinks you are going to hell, but I personally don't think you are doing anything wrong, and I am happy for you! I am doing basically the same thing except we aren't living together yet. I don't see why someone would think we should go to hell, but I suppose it is reasonable to assume that SOMEONE thinks that we are sinning, but I am happy and you are happy so let's not worry about what they think!

Answer 9

No you will not go to hell because of your actions.Your actions is the
fruit of your nature.I am a BORN SINNER when I came into this world
I had a tendency to do things I shouldn't do and the things I knew was
right I didn't do all the time even though mother and daddy taught me
different.Sin in you is the heart of everybody's problem!Notice Adams
nature passed down to all of his linage and death follows all that are
born of a woman.Rom 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
Rom 5:13 (For until the law sin was in the world: but sin is not imputed when there is no law.
Rom 5:14 Nevertheless death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over them that had not sinned after the similitude of Adam's transgression, who is the figure of him that was to come.
That is why Jesus came to suffer death and be BODILY RESURRECTED for me and you and cleanse or pay the wages of sin for us and ANYBODY JEW OR GENTILE that will Believe THAT GOD
SENT HIS SON ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE WILL BE BORN-AGAIN
AND HAVE ETERNAL LIFE.If you will put your Faith In Jesus while the
Holy Spirit is dealing with you WILL BE SAVED .(I know that He is
because Gods Word will not come back void)
>>quote-Is there anyone who thinks we will go to hell because of our actions?<< The only thing you can do and go to hell is REJECT JESUS
AS YOUR SAVIOR,everything else is forgivable.I KNOW!!
Joh 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.
Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Joh 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
Joh 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
It IS YOUR CHOICE!
In Christ in Love,
TJ57

Answer 10

No, read The Gospel of John Chapter 6 about the woman at the well. The woman at the well was divorced and living with her current man. Jesus had a long and patient conversation with her. Inviting her to follow Him.