my friend is 21 years old and has a 15 year old gf, she use to do drugs, she was raped a lot by her moms bf, and she cheated on my friend, she dosent think sucking on some guy is cheating, she calls it making out, my friend got really hurt and he has tried to be just friends but he just couldnt leave her, he really loves her and wants to be with her, he wants to help her learn that she should stay with just one guy, i dont know how to keep him away from her, he needs to find someone his own age but i cant help him, i have told him to leave her and he says it is too hard, i really need ur help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-28 14:06:46 · 23 answers · asked by vampire girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The 15 year old has issues that she needs to deal with. Dating a 21 year old guy is not helping her. Your friend needs to move on and find someone his own age. Not only is it wrong, it's illegal!
2006-08-28 14:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one who should stay away from her - he is a man and she is a child. He has no business having a relationship with someone who is 15. And that goes for you too if you are 15. She is like this right now because she was abused.
2006-08-28 21:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bellina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him that she is still young and needs to play her games with the boys her age, he is too old for her and if they got caught by the police he will go to jail and then he won't even be able to help her if she got in trouble. I think that he is old enough to be her friend and mentor, but not her bf. She is just being her young self, and the fact that she was rated isn't helping, she needs to be placed into therapy for that problem.
2006-08-28 21:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU don't need our help. Your 21 year old friend does. What the hell is he doing with an extremely screwed up 15 year old anyway? They both have problems. He needs to run, not walk, away from her before HE ends up in prison for rape. Besides, what's to love with this girl anyway....!!!!!!
2006-08-28 21:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by suzycrmchz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be passed the point of changing. Its comendable that your friend wants to be there for this girl, But he is going to get hurt alot. But you cant protect your friend from everything. Sounds like you love this guy. He is an adult and i am sure he knows what he want to do. Hey all you can do is be supportive cause when the both of them are going well you dont want to seem like the one who was fighting down their relationship. Seems to me like he is just a good guy at heart. All you can do is be there for him to fall back on.
2006-08-28 21:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by candylishus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it illegal for a 21 year old to date a 15 year old? Why did he start dating her in the first place? I don't think I can help you, sorry.
Oh, and one more thing, that girl is seriously messed up!
2006-08-28 21:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get her some counseling. With the trauma she has been through she has some false beliefs about relationships. this is not something your friend can fix himself. He really needs to just be friends and get her help. He is just going to make things worse and cause more drama in her life if he gets caught for statutory rape.
2006-08-28 21:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by lschuler22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done all you can. He's going to have to find out the hard way (no pun intended). I would remind him though that she is jail bait, and he is now of legal age to be tried as an adult. Besides that, as hard as I know this will be, you're going to have to step back, let him find out the hard way, and then be with him when he picks up the pieces.
2006-08-28 21:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to let even friends make their own mistakes in life. I know you are trying to protect him but I truly don't think there is anything you can do or say to change their situation. They have to figure it out by themselves. Just be there as a friend when he needs you, that's all you can really do.
2006-08-28 21:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 21 year old "friend" needs to stop dating little girls, especially ones that have mental problems as it is. Your "friend" is going to end up in prision (rightfully so) before this "relationship" is over.
2006-08-28 21:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋