How do i tell my parents that i want to see a counselor?

Question

I dont have any serious problems but i fell like id be a lot less stressed and id be a better friend and a better person all together if i had someone helping me out. i just dont feel like my friends are enough support anymore. i just dont know how to ask my parents about going to see a counsoler.

ok duh! talk to them! but how do i bring it up. ive had to go to one before but they forced me and i got angry at them.

Answer 1

I would pretty much come right out and tell them.

"I'm feeling depressed/anxious/sad/confused/whatever. It's been going on for XXX amount of time now and I think maybe I should talk to someone."

Remember also that there are people in your school who are specifically trained for dealing with the problems that people your age have. Most schools have a psychologist, a social worker or a counselor of some kind. If you approach them, they'll usually talk to your parents for you (because they can't see you on a regular basis without their permission). They'll keep most of whatever you say confidential, although they will talk to your parents in nonspecific terms.

I say "most of" because they are legally bound to report some things, such as if you tell them that you intend to hurt yourself or others. But for the most part it's considered privileged communication.

Answer 2

Hi.

Sometimes its easier in some families to open up a subject by writing a letter. That way you don't have to look anyone in the eye when you're saying the words, you can edit your statements, and you can be assured that you're whole message will be heard/read before they talk with you about it.

You can do this via email or leave a note on the milk carton. If either of your parents have been in counseling before, it may make it easier to talk/write to that parent first.

Also, if it would be easier, talk to a grandparent first.

By the way, this question indicates that there are things that are difficult to talk about in your family, so maybe that's a topic you could talk about in counseling.

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

You were angry at your parents for trying to force you to see a counselor, this shows they are paying attention to the fact that you may need someone other than than your parents for support and counseling. Tell them how you feel and some of your stress is bound to fly away!

Answer 4

It sounds like you may need a counselor for reasons not mentioned, but that's OK. I would sit down with your parents and explain to them what exactly what you said in your question. ALthough counseling can be expensive if you don't have co-pays, I know if you were my child I would be supportive and help you to make the right decisions. If you're in school, there are also school counselors and school psychologists that can help too.

Answer 5

Try telling them that when they made you go before you weren't really ready to work at it, but now you are. Tell them that things in your life are gettting more complicated because you are getting older and you need some tools to deal with things. Tell them that even though they are great parents, sometimes a person needs someone not connected so closely to be able to really get it all out without fear of hurting anyone's feelings or causing them to feel inadequate or fearful for thier child. Tell them that if your life so far has been a "Ford" (that is, a common car that most people understand how it works and how to fix it) lately it has felt like a "Porche", and you need to go to someone who knows how to fix those! As you get older, life gets more complicated and not always knowing what to do just proves that you aren't too arrogant and egotistical to learn. , but of course the most important words in my answer are the words: "Tell them!"

Answer 6

Tell your parens that you have been having a light-headed feeling in streeful situations, and you want to see if they are panic attacks. Then tell them that you are sorry about being angry and resistant to their help before, but you think that they were right and you are ready to be receptive to counseling now.
Tell them that you have learned this:
A counselor is just another person, not a magician or a judge. A counselor is an objective party that is being paid, not only to keep total confidentiality, but also because they are completely objective. They are not your friend, parent, teacher, judge, or any other authority. They are there to tell you what they see you doing. They are also there to help you explore some different coping skills, new ways of looking at things, and help you set some goals for yourself. They educate you on how your self-talk can hurt your performance.

Sometimes we cannot see what we are doing to ourselves, and our friends are too emotionally invested to tell us (sometimes the truth hurts, and they don't want to hurt us). Our behavior is guided by our feelings. Sometimes we are not seeing things clearly because we are too close to them. Sometimes we hold onto things and they leak out of us by ways of headaches, panic attacks, insomnia, low performance, etc. Sometimes we project them onto others by ways of aggression and micromanaging other people, etc.
We only do the best we know how, and we never seem to realize how we deal with things. A counselor will help guide you toward making some new choices in your life.

Tell your parents that you now understand what they wanted for you and that you love them for it. Tell them that you are ready now, and thank them for caring so much. Tell them you want to see psychologist, not a psychiatrist. Tell them you do not need to take any medicines, and you don't want to deal with side effects of them. Tell them that your "panic attacks" may be frustration with something. Tell them you want to learn how to achieve your potential.
Good luck!

Answer 7

You say; Do you remember when you guys wanted me to see a counselor; and i got so upset with you? i have to apologized for that incident; i was not matured enough to handle it; but now i see it clear and
i think you were both right.
do i still have that choice today ?
let see where that leads; see what their respond to it ; if they say, sure you still have that choice; tell them the reason you want to see one.i have friends and all that stuff; but
if a problem arrives;i like to
be established with a counselor to guide me. I'm not anticipating anything to go wrong, i just will feel better about it. try it.
good luck!!

Answer 8

If they made you go before, they will probably be more than happy to help you. Just tell them that you have some things that you need to talk about and that you think seeing a counselor would help you. Just be honest with them.

Answer 9

Do you have a couselor at school or a peer counseling group. You might try talking with the guidance counselor first.

You might also tell your parents that you have been feeling down and would like to talk with a professional about it.

Answer 10

Go to the parent you feel more comfortable with and just say that you've been stressed lately and you would like to go to a counselor for a little bit, just to help yourself and explain why you would like to see one, I'm sure your parents would be very understanding if you explained why you would like to see one