I met a girl. She's 17 years old. In her one and only previous relationship, the guy she was with was being a jerk. She wants to go out with me (I'm 20) and I really like her. Since she's still 17, we wanted to make sure everything was ok with her parents. Her mom is one of her best friends and from what she has told her mom, her mom likes me. She asked her dad about it, and he flat out said no. He's never met me and knows nothing about me except that I'm 20 years old. He wouldn't even discuss it. While she was asking her dad, her mom was there and didn't say anything to help her, and when she was asked why, she said she didn't want to get in the middle. Her mom knows how happy this girl is when she's around me or talking to me.
Is there any way that we can go about getting together or getting her parents approval before moving on? Somehow we just click and I don't want to give up. Any advice would be very helpful.
2006-08-28 14:01:24 · 15 answers · asked by Brandon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has also invited me to a dance. We're thinking that's not going to work now either. I know that right now we're not in love, but we both really like each other and want to spend time together. This seems like something that could turn into a very meaningful relationship. All I want right now is to find a way to have her dad at least meet me and find out that I'm not talking to her to try and have sex. I was raised with the idea that you don't have sex until you're married and I'm sticking to that. Her dad just doesn't understand why a 20 year old would want to talk to her without wanting something more than a relationship. Her ex is also 17 and her dad liked him. All I want is a chance from him.
2006-08-28 14:08:56 · update #1
I know that her dad is protective. It probably doesn't help that he's in the National Guard full-time. I'm just worried that her dad won't want to talk to me at all, even if it is just so he gets to know me. Is there any way I can convince him to meet with me, considering the fact that he is dead set against me going out with her?
2006-08-28 14:12:45 · update #2
Have the papa whacked
2006-08-28 14:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her father is like any other father and knows men because he is one. He knows he has a sweet, cute daughter. All fathers with daughters are scared ... in this day and age, too much is happening. And especially if her last boyfriend was a jerk. Give some time. But thank you for trying to do things the right way. You sound like a great guy. But be patient. Let her father see that you are respectful and patient. He will appreciate that and so will she. Good luck.
2006-08-28 21:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Recreantess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
K the reason her dad said no is because one in his eyes you are wayyy to old for her. (Even though you aren't) And no he doesn't know you so you need to find a way to meet her dad and give him the chance to like you. Maybe go out to dinner with her and her parents. Somehow get her dad to have to meet you. You can't just leave all the work to the girl and her mother. Good luck and hope I helped!!! ;)
2006-08-28 21:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 20: you're a man so be a gentleman. initiate contact with her father, but do not corner him. Give him the option to hear you out, NOT his daughter. Once you talk to him, you become more than a "guy" that his daughter is meeting but "mark", "jack", "andrew" etc. now you just have to talk, the truth, and be confident. If he doesn't like you as a person, tough luck. chances are he'll respect that you've come directly to him.
2006-08-28 21:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by yzstrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her and her parents out for a dinner at a Steak House..and get to know them.
Obviously her parents are really important to her,and she is being very protective by her parents and rightfully so.
While at dinner charm her parents socks off,and talk about football ,fishing ,or anything that her dad is interested in.
Take it slow..and eventually you will be picking her up at her house and going out.
Good luck! :)
2006-08-28 21:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her father of course. maybe you could first get the girl to help you talk with him. you probably need to prove to him that you're truly able to protect and care for his daughter. Maybe he's a little over-protective, but seriously chat with him.
2006-08-28 21:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, does the father own a gun?
well either way RUN
2006-08-28 21:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Little Bit the Ferret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for her, you have to wait until she's 18(hopefully it's not too long) then there is nothing that her dad can say about it.
2006-08-28 21:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware of Father's ! If he, thinks somethin's up ~ you could get in real trouble cause ~ she is a minor !
2006-09-05 13:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont EVER EVER go behind a dad's back.
that said, you should probably wait until she is not living with her dad anymore. dad's can be really protective of their "little girls", and they dont like to see them grow up.....
and remember she's a minor.
2006-09-03 23:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋