How do I find out the exact age of a female in a society/culture that forbids a man to ask?

Question

The ideal girlfriend/wife I am looking for should be 2 years younger to 2 years older than me.

I heard it is forbidden for a male to ask about the weight of a female too. I don't care too much about this factor, but how would you go about finding out the weight of a girl or a woman without being rude?

Maturity is in direct relationship with age isn't it?

I just don't want someone who is too young or too old, for physical reason and psychological reason.

I want someone around my age who I can relate and talk you.

To me, two years difference is my maximum standard that I look for.

Have you ever consider "generation gap" in your search of relationship?

Answer 1

Move away from that strict culture. Go to Canada or the Netherlands where anything goes.

Answer 2

You aren't selecting a prize pumpkin at the state fair, and you're not selecting an dog that you'll be able to enter in the Westminster Dog Show.....

Your choice of the word "female" rather than "woman", "girl", "potential wife" or "girlfriend" doesn't say much about your attitude toward women.

If you find a young woman attractive then what she weights isn't your business. All you need to know if that you find her attractive.

If there's someone you think you'd like to date why don't you just ask how old they are if the exact two-year thing is so important you. If the person thinks you're a jerk for asking she isn't the future wife for you, is she? If she thinks its fine that you have this rigid little rule about who the idea girlfriend or wife is then great.

Most women - because they are human beings - have no particular problem with being asked their age in the right context or by the right person or the right reason. In general, society doesn't "forbid" asking. What you may run into, though, is that while you believe its the matter of age that makes the question an insult the reality is it is your boorish need to narrow ages down to plus or minus two from yours before someone may be right for you is ridiculous.

So, give up the notion you have that you have a right to know what someone weighs, and go ahead and ask how old someone is if its that important to you, and let the chips fall where they may.

Most good relationships are a matter of people meeting people who are roughly in an appropriate age range and who are attracted to each other and discover they have something special between them. You have a right to have your ideas about what you'd like a potential girlfriend or wife to have, but you come across as someone who has some growing up to do and who is in need of attitude adjustment when in comes to having respect for any of the young women (not "females") you might consider asking out.

Why don't you try a dating service that allows you to enter your specifications because the in-person approach to asking someone out (with all the elements to the process of seeing someone who catches your eye, approaching her, talking, asking her out, etc.) isn't conducive to your wish to specify age and weight.

You have to decide if you'd like the "romatic approach" which means seeing someone you're attracted to and following up, or if you'd like the "cold, calculating, specifications approach", in which case you take that approach (the dating service). You generally can't successfully mix approaches to finding a person you will see as ideal.

Answer 3

Does the weight or age really matter so long as the person is healthy and you find her attractive? I think this question is rude for a reason. Women who apear about the same size can vary by up to twenty pounds just on bone density, muscle, etc. If you have some pressing desire to know her age, its best to attend her birthday celebration or sneak a peak at her driver's license.

If you're too picky on the physical statistics of your desired mate, you arn't focusing on the more important issues of compatability and personality.

If you really must know her weight, however, you can throw her in the bathtub and measure the volume of weight she displaces (assuming, erroniously, an average human density). Also, you can measure her surface area, drop her off a building and record the time it takes for her to fall. Then you can put this data into a freebody equation with the drag force, and determine her approximate mass. Or you can use a fulcrum... but I digress.

In response to your update:
Maturity is NOT in direct relation with age! There are some people who never grow up (or take a long time) and there are some who are wise beyond their years.

I think 2 years is not reasonable. You can have someone 3-5 years younger/older than you who doesn't have a "generation gap." Also, I know some women in thier early thirties who look better than some women in thier mid twenties- a healthy diet, exercise, and good genetics are more important. The only time 2 years makes a good cut off is when the person is very young, like in his teens.

Basically, don't sweat too much on age/weight. Find someone who attracts you and interests you.

Answer 4

In fact, age should never be an obstacle.

Younger or older, it makes no difference.

Good women could be old or young, ugly or pretty, mean or nice, honest or not, clean or smells like dead fish.

Marriage is like winning the lotto, you would think you married the perfect person and later you find that this person is worse than garbage itself.

Ask her what year did she finish High school, that is if she did.
Ask her employer, ask her friends, know what she likes, study her, keep your distance, and listen and learn.

Remember to avoid women with past history even if they were young, and find out if there are any attachments to their past.

Women are like an expensive China Plate, if it is broken it may never be fixed, and if you fix it then you will always notice the scars; a broken China Plate will have very low value, and a broken woman her value to society is depreciated highly.


Good Luck

Answer 5

There is no laws and regulations that should be obeyed by forbiding someone to ask female age.But in ethic there is a usual treatment that we should avoid ourselves to ask directly the age of a woman especially when you are just intoduced to her..If she is your old friend you should try to know her birthday such as from her close friends,from her identity card ,from her driving license,from her family etc.You can take a walk with your girl friend to a mall and if you find a weight measure service you can try weighing yourself and try to get weigh also for your girl friend..You thought that a two years difference of age is ideal.But to me it is ideal if its difference is five years..Our prophet Muhammad married with a widow whose age was 15 years older than him.He lived happily and they had children . You said that normally her maturity is proportional with her age.But sometimes a younger woman will be more mature than the older one.The immature one is called a childish woman...This childish woman usually a spoiled girl .Her parents loves her too much and over protected so she is dependent to others especially her parents.She is afraid to make herself the important decision..She will ask for her parents advice
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Answer 6

I hope you mean maturity-wise rather than strictly age in years, because otherwise you are in for some surprises. Bring up topics of interest to you with the woman and see not just what she has to say, but how she expresses herself. That will tell you some important things.

There is no polite way to ask a woman's weight, unless you are both interested in health and fitness and feel equally open about it.

Answer 7

My ex was 10 years older than me.... now, I would love to be with a man 10 years younger than me... (smile). It is rude to ask a man or a woman their weight unless you have a clinical reason to do so. As far as age is concerned...It is just a number.

Answer 8

Date the woman for a few dates, and watch what she does.. if you're still not sure that she's close to your age requirements, ask.. the worst she can do is to tell you it's none of your business, and then you can either deal with that, or leave.. or, she may leave first.
Or, you can wait till you get the marriage license and look on there. LOL

Answer 9

Bring up the fact tha tshe looks wonderfull in that outfit. Does she work out? She must be ...........(give a pant size close to what you think she would be) She might volunteer her size/weight. a sfar as age goes ask her father....lol. I dont know I do not believe age matters so i dont know how to breach that other than mutual friends of people you know might be around the same age.

Answer 10

ask her birth date or the year she graduated, what age she moved and then how long she's been there. i know this won't get exact numbers (especially of your math is bad), but probly pretty close.
weight, well... (not that it should matter!) just try to guess i suppose, try telling her your weight first and she might be more willing to tell you (women can be very sensitive about their weight, you know)
good luck :-)