I was adopted, and know who my biological parents are, should I try to contact them?

Question

I was adopted was 7 years old and I have a biological brother that was adopted by the same people. I dont get along with my adopted parents. they treated me and my siblings badly. so I feel like I dont have parents. I know that my biological parents are looking for me and I dont know weather or not to get in contact with them. I know why I was taken from them, they were both alcoholics and felt they couldnt care for me and brother. Im not sure if their good people or not. I know that I loved them when I said goodbye to them when I was 6. but its been so long that I dont know how i feel adout them any more.

Answer 1

That is completely up to you. If you would like to meet them, you should. It doesn't mean you have to keep seeing them, or even like them after you meet them. One of my best friends was adopted as a baby and he went to meet his biological mother when he was 18, just to see who she was and what she was doing. He hasn't gone back to see her since, but he is glad he went to see her that one time.

Answer 2

You don't say how old you are now.. but.. if you want to contact them.. then do so. Just remember that grass is not always greener on the other side. If I were in your shoes, I would have no choice but to contact them. I have 3 adopted siblings, 1 of them has gone off to search for biological parents, the other two, are simply happy where they are and feel no need to stir up bad feelings. Look inside your heart, not here... there is no wrong decision for you to make.

Answer 3

Oh, Sweetie, what a tough question with no easy answer. Let me first tell you that I placed a baby boy for adoption 12 years ago and that my husband is adopted. With that said I have experience on both sides. You have nothing to lose by contacting your biological parents,but please keep in mind that their feelings about your "reconnection" may not be reciprocated. To be honest with you I do not want to be found by the baby i placed for adoption. Its all up to how you feel inyour heart and if you think that them being a part of your life is beneficial.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 4

Well, it doesn't hurt to see who they are now. They may have completely changed. Then again, they might put you thru more pain than you thought possible. You should talk it over with a friend or your brother. Try to think of all the possible outcomes of making contact with them. Maybe even see what your adoptive parents think. But ultimately, it's your decision. You could do it & they could turn out to suck way more than your adoptive parents, then you could just get on with your life. You may regret not getting to know them.

Answer 5

WOW!! I was adopted when I was three yrs old by adopted parents that didn't treat me too good either. By time I was 18 I was ready to search for my biological mother. I always knew in my heart she was out there looking for me but had no idea how to go about it. By time I was around late 20's someone who knew someone told me how to go about getting the information on my biological mom. As it turns out I was adopted through the state so I went back to Dept of Human Services and asked to put in application to search for my parents. Since they're usually kind of backed up, they go through "first call first serve" kind of deal plus they'll have other forms for you to fill out. All is simple pretty much. Then there's a waiting period. Mine was about 2 and half years or so and then I got the letter that they contacted my mom and she was indeed looking for me! WOOHOO!!!! So now nearly 14 years later, we're very close, my bio mom and I. I have 2 sisters and a brother and we're all in close contact.
In fact when I divorced 7 yrs ago, I moved to the state where my biological family lives.
So yes, if you really believe in your heart that your bio parents were/are looking for you and you have the information, contact them! The worse they can say is "I don't want ......" It'll hurt... I contacted my bio father and he did that to me. But that's when I realized it's HIS loss.....not mine....besides he was the reason my bio mom lost me in the first place!
So there.... a wonderful story with a wonderful ending!
Good luck!

Answer 6

If it became an adoption executed formerly the baby's delivery then i imagine it may be useful, in certain if is an adolescent giving delivery concern. this would supply the youngster mom a danger to ensure that she made the great decision for her newborn and it might reassure the newborn that he in truth became loved from the start through his organic and organic mom. No melancholy, no rigidity, no ifs, no questioning if he's danger-free, no questioning if "my mom ever loved me". Now, if the newborn is followed through an corporation like the dep.. of Social amenities because of ignore or abuse of any variety, then i trust it really is contained in the interest of the minor now to not have any contact with the organic and organic mothers and fathers.

Answer 7

im adopted, a relinquished baby infact,so i was adopted at 6 weeks old .. i have no body memories of my birth parents, i traced my birth mother a yr ago .. its the most amazing experience of my life. i was lucky enuff to have a fabulous adoptive family. i cant answer yr question .. because only u know the answer .. but if u wanna talk and share experiences feel free to contact me, GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

It's a good idea to look for your biological parents. If your adoptive ones aren't treating you well, then you should report them to a social worker.

Answer 9

I think you should contact your parents as long as you try not to have really high expectations of them. They may not have changed much and that may be very disappointing to you. They may be great people on the other hand and have themselves cleaned up, but you will never know unless you try. You know if you don't try you will always wonder what if...

Answer 10

Only if you feel that you will be able to handle it if they don't want to see you or continue contact with you.