i can't even apologize b/c they won't listen to word. they just walk out of the room......
2006-08-28 13:01:54 · 12 answers · asked by hawkette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not going to say what I did because then the only answers i'll get will be insults... if you really want to know, it's back there in some of my older questions. bleh. but i'd like to not bring it up in here.
2006-08-28 13:12:27 · update #1
I hate when that **** happens.
First of all, try to gauge your own willingness to listen.
Then approach them & ask if you can talk about this. Don't expend too much energy trying to convince them of the "why's" of your situation. Try to understand where they're coming from.
Express your understanding of their perspective. Don't try to change their minds. Just ask for a dialogue & see if y'all can reach some kind of agreement or understanding or compromise.
2006-08-28 13:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by oaksterdamhippiechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd sort of have to ask what it was that you did. I've given my children the silent treatment, but only until they apologize or make things right again in regards to whatever they've done wrong. Chances are, they are doing it, because you haven't learned from what ever it was that you did and they are simply tired of hearing the apolgies. Apologies are just words until you put some action behind them, such as changing your behavior.
Try this. Write your parents a heartfelt letter explaining your situation, admit to your wrong doing, apologize profusely and then tell them you wish to make it up to them. If you've done something you can't change or can't take back, then tell them you are growing up and would like to discuss whatever it was that happened in an adult manner. Somewhere in that letter, tell them this is killing you, and that you miss the family interaction and would be willing to do whatever it takes to get that back.
Chances are if you take a more grown up approach, so will they.
Good luck honey!
2006-08-28 20:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, my mother was the queen of the silent treatment. When I was 18, I went out with a guy and he kept trying to get me to have sex with him so I told him to take me home. On the way home, he took me down a back road and pulled into a parking place in the middle of no where and told me to put out or get out. I got out and walked home. I walked in the house at 6:30 in the morning and my mom was so mad at me she told me to get to bed before my dad got home from night shift and she didn't talk to me for two weeks. When I got to explain to her, she believed me but she was so worried about me that she just shut down. I hated that.
I hated the silent treatment so much that when I had my own kids, I talked too much. I still can not shut up and give anyone the silent treatment
I don't want to be nosy, but I'm curious to know what you did to make them that upset.
2006-08-28 20:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoo.
What kind of treatment is this?
If there is no communications there is no foregiveness.
I do not know what they expect you to do? Freak out? Start talking to yourself? I do not know what you did - but to not deal with it is not very mature a punishment. No one can move on and the punishment is ??? - you have no parents to guide you?
I think you have a tough situation as your parents need to make sure you know what the issue is and how to solve the issue.
2006-08-28 20:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I used to live at my parents' house when I was younger. My father was very abusive verbally and emotionally. He occasionally hit my family. One day he hit me and my mother for no reason, I had to call cops on him. He stopped talking to me for a year until I moved out. I didn't talk to him for another three years. When I visit at my parents' house, he'd talk to me sometimes. Eventually, he backed off from my family a lil.
2006-08-28 22:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me when I was 16. I came home and told my parents that I was pregnant. My dad didn't talk to me for almost a month. I would have rather he screamed and yelled(like my mom did), not talking to me hurt me more than anything.
2006-08-28 20:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish
try writing a letter & explain, apologize if you need to, etc. & leave it on the table or somewhere they will find it
2006-08-28 20:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl100405 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sucks major ***! You just have to wait it out, one day they will realize how wrong they were for doing it.
2006-08-28 20:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a very sad situation to be in
2006-08-28 23:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself lucky.
2006-08-28 20:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by joe_smo_red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋