Here is the deal. My boyfriend...who told me he loved ...always wanted to be me...wanted to marry me...just one day out of the blue stopped calling. We went together for two years. He won't return my calls or text messages for the last three weeks. I talked to his mom...she says she can't figure him out either. We are not kids...we are in our thirties... We were true to each other. . Now I want closure with him...there are few things I would like to say about this....how to I do it...send a letter...call him at work...Help. How do you get closure in a relationship that had no problems...and you still love the guy. Thank you in advance.
2006-08-28 12:53:55 · 8 answers · asked by rita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something had to happen or go wrong??? Are you sure hes ok ??? Mabey something happened hes ashamed of ??Either way id attemp to call and if nothing comes from it, put it on paper all the things you would say to him if you had the chance ...You have no idea how much beter youll feel, and then just move on ...
Good luck
2006-08-28 12:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say ask once then let it go . If you repeat the questions he will push you more away. Right now he might not know the reason. You are hurt and feel betrayed. Just be glad he was your bf and not your husband when this happened.
I would send a letter that is simple. Tell him you need closure.
Ask for just a simple letter explaining why. And tell him if he doesn't know why then at least tell you that. Then you need to stop calling and texting him. You have given him a chance to communicate with you. And if he chooses NOT to then that is his problem. You will have to just let it go. You have no power over him but you do have power to change yourself. He probably fears long explainations with you crying and begging to keep trying with the relationship. He is immature to not face you, but you can't change what has already happened. You will definatly hurt no matter what he says or if he doesn't get back to you. Then it is time to grieve the loss, then pull yourself together and start fresh.
The pain will lessen with time and you might be better off by not having the relationship continue.
Don't call him at work. That could be cnsidered harrasment.
Mail a letter or an email. Then if he does n't answer...let it go.
For some reason he is avoiding you. And you might never know why and yes I think you deserve an explaination. But you may never get one. Please don't let this destroy your life.
Things like this happen in life. It sucks, but it is reality.
2006-08-28 13:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well today i just read this email from one of my mother's friend and it was T.D Jake's saying that if someone wants to walk out your life LET THEM GO!!!! and that's what you should because if he cared he would at least call and say baby the reason i haven't called or answered is because I'm really busy but he haven't so just move on and if its really meant to be he knows his way home! but until then LET IT GO!!! sorry to say that but just get away from the pain that's coming you feel me?
2006-08-28 13:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by CuRiOuSmE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this about your wants and needs – not the memory of your relationship.
2006-08-28 13:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by ★Greed★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relationship did have problems, but you were just to selfish to see them. you should stop thinking only of yourself and start thinking of the other half of the relationship.
2006-08-28 12:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by joe_smo_red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunn,he was probably cheatin on you or i/d/k........i'm only 12.but you should call him askin wait is with him and you have no idea wht you did but your sry.and yall need to talk.....and soon
2006-08-28 13:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him come to you.
2006-08-28 12:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by timothy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋