My love has stayed and we are still together, but I have doubts on her loyalty to me.What should I do?

Question

My love and I are in high school seniors now and have been going out together since the end of the last school year. Since that time she has cheated on me once with one of her ex-boyfriends.
She felt like she owed him something, thus exposed herself. They were together for three years and been friends for six years. He is her oldest friend and since then dated three other guys including me. Her other ex stayed with her at her house for two weeks while visiting from out of state. He came only to steal her from me and quote"to satisfy my couriousity."
Since then I asked her to stop talking to her ex and found out that she has been talking to him online, it was here that they meet. I talked to her and put my trust in her,but I sill have no idea what to realy do. I said that if it ever happens again then it is over, but her other ex felt that she was just tring to prolong the relationship until she moved, but she didn't. Now she is staying and still talks and complains about me to them.

Answer 1

start sleeping around on her, that way when she cheats you won't feel as bad.

Answer 2

You need to sit down first with yourself and ask what you want form this relationship and do you feel that you can trust her. Then take in account her reaction after she cheated on you, what she said, how she treated you, how remorseful she acted ect. Then you have three options and which one you choose will depend on what was decied by you in the before questions. Each one has it pluses and minuses. You can 1) Cheat on her to give her a taste of her own medicine. If you do this however be prepared that it could end your relationship so if you wish to do this you might want to be drunnk as an excuse. 2) Let things go as they are. If you do this though you will still be plagued by the insecurity questions. 3) Sit down and talk to her not just about the trust issue but about the sate of your relationship in general. Since you will be a senior this is a very big year for both of you and you both need to decied weather or not you will want to or can be together after highschool. Be prepared though that even though this is by far the most mature and best choice of them all it is also the hardest and before you sit down with her you need to make sure you know exactly how you feel.

I feel your pain bro cuz i have gone through the same thing with my gf cheating on me and i chose the third option though i was very tempted to choose the first. The doubts and insecurities will never go away cuz once she lost your trust she wont b able to gain it back. I still wonder at times if she cheated on me again since then but i sencirly belive that she didnt and wouldnt do it. Never the less u can never truly shake the feelin.

Answer 3

straight up from a woman- not a girl.....it's time to move on. From all that you've said she is stringing you along.

No girl/woman in love EVER feels she owes another man when she is with/in love with one.....and no girl/woman should ever have another man in her house spending the night...or 2 weeks- especially with a romantic history.....looking from the outside i don't see a guy spending 2 weeks with a female and having no sexual contact -not when they have had relations before.......never heard of that happening.....ever- sorry

Answer 4

You need to tell her goodbye. She obviously is not ready for a committed relationship, If you stay with her, she's only going to hurt you more.

Answer 5

Try to find someone who values you more, and can bring honesty and integrity into a relationship. She's still searching, man..

Answer 6

SOUND LIKE IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO BREAK UP BECAUSE IF SHE ALREADY CHEATED THEN SHE WILL DO IT AGAIN AND IF SHE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOU THAN SHE NEEDS TO TAKE IT UP WITH YOU AND NOT WITH THEM