My wife is sick of not getting any help at night. My problem is that I sleep too hard. When my kids are crying or upset I don't wake up and don't help. What can I do to wake up to help? How does one sleep lighter? Thanks.
2006-08-28 12:47:47 · 39 answers · asked by Guy In California 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There really isn't any way to condition yourself to be a lighter sleeper without causing you more problems. The only solution to your problem in the short term is for your wife to wake you up when she hears the kids fussing. She may still wake up, but at least she doesn't have to get out of bed and deal with them.
2006-08-28 12:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by tjjone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her cry for a couple of nights and she will stop. You are reinforcing the crying by letting her sleep with you. If you can't stand to let her cry, go in and comfort her but don't get in the bed or let her get out of bed. I think that makes it much harder and makes the process take much longer though. The quickest results will come if you don't go in at all. I like the idea about a stuffed animal- also a special night light and a CD player with lullaby's does wonders for both comfort and the constant noise will keep little noises from waking her if she is a light sleeper.
2016-03-17 03:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wife wants you to help then she should wake you up.. My thoughts are this: God made women with that ability and their husbands sound sleepers so that they can get up and go to work the next day without being deprived of sleep. It would be nice if you would take a turn on the weekends to allow for her to sleep in or have her nudge you and you get up. I don't think you should have to worry about getting up during the week. There is no way for you to sleep lighter. Stop feeling bad and let her read my opinion. Wish you well.
2006-09-05 12:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First are you sleeping hard because you are so tired? Then you should go to bed earlier and get more rest. If you are just a heavy sleeper unless you sleep in the room with the kids. I'm not advising that you sleep in their room. That creates a whole different problem.
Ask your wife to wake you up and send you in to help before she gets out of bed. Chances are she'll wake up anyway whatever you do.
2006-09-01 18:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 stages of sleep,the falling asleep, the rapid eye movement (when you dream) and the waking up. Each stage last 2 hours.
I find that when I regulate my sleeping habits by setting a bedtime and a get up time.Each and every night with the exceptions of special occasions. I base my shedual in accordance of six hours sleep every night. I find that I am more alert, more energetic, more focus. I find that I am optimist,an calm. I have less nightmares,and night terrors.I deal with stress better and more productive. I handle my responsibilities and meet my families need.
I find that when I deviate from this shedual, I can't cope! I fail to meet what I expect out of my life. Family and Co-workers suffer.
I believe that if you regulate your sleep that you will find that your family needs will be met.
Put your bedroom T.V. on a timer. Play a Natures Sound Cd
I find that I tend to wake up before the alarm goes off in the morning.
I really believe that this habit will improve your life.
2006-09-05 07:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a nap during the day this way, you won't have "hard rock" sleep at nitetime! Or the other solution is to have a small cup of cofee an hour before going to sleep. Otherwise buy one of them walkie talkie sh*t and leave it next to your pillow. If that doesn't work, that means you are doing what most husbands do: You open one eye and secretly wake her up so you can go back to sleep.
2006-09-04 20:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sherluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He dosn't wake up once he is asleep no matter how loud the kids are and I understand that baby monitors dont' work cause they are usless for my man to. Sorry to say I dont' think that anything will help. I try and wake up my old man and he says one more minute I need time to wake up then before you know it he is sleeping again. I have yet to find a solution but I am making him a appointment cause it is scary how hard he sleeeps.
2006-09-04 11:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by babykins1025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey the guy in California, Ana is a smart girl. There is nothing wrong with you physically. You just tuned your kids out knowing your wife being the mother will drag her out of bed even if she is exhausted.Your brain actually hears everything while you are snoring away. Yes have a ground rule and have your wife pinch you a bit you you can Wake up start sharing the chore. You will get used to it. Sorry buddy, as much as I am a guy, I have to say what is fair.
2006-08-28 13:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your body is trying to tell you something. Maybe get a babysitter for the kids and you & ur hubby goto a hotel for 1 or 2 nights. I'm sure you'll catch up on all the sleep you need then. Or try taking naps when ur kids are napping
2006-09-04 01:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by babysweetvee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not idea how to make you a lighter sleeper. My husband is a heavy sleepier as well. How we handle it is that I have to shake to wake him when I need help. I usually don't mind getting up with the baby, but every now and then I need some rest, so he made me promise to wake him whenever I need him.
2006-09-04 15:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by aly_girl501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋