My bf slapped me!! But he said "sorry" and i think he really means it...what should i do??

Question

Hes always like this when hes mad, but this is the first time he slapped me,,what should i do??

should i leave him? or accept his apology and try to wrk things out??

Answer 1

Trust me on this one. If he's slapping you now, it's NEVER going to stop. Get out now, or you'll regret it. He may say he's sorry, but he's full of it. ~

Answer 2

Hello !!!! Get a clue.....Leave. The minute anyone slaps someone regardless if their boyfriend, girlfriend its automatic "game over". How can you even entertain the thought of staying with the guy. What's going to happen when he really gets pissed off, think about that. He's not worth your time and effort , for one thing he doesn't respect you. He broke all the trust issues you established as a couple. If you were my sister, I would return the favor right back on him.

Answer 3

Its simple to sit here unaffected by emotions and say that this is abuse and it is don't get me wrong it is abuse , and that you should shoulder your bags and get the hell out of dodge, But you love this Guy and he has said sorry and you think its not happening again . In my opinion it will but that's my opinion .

What can you do . Make sure he knows that hitting you is totally unacceptable and that if he ever lays a hand on you in anger that all he will hear is sirens and your *** swinging that screen door shut as you and your bags head south .

Ask yourself do you deserve better that this guy or is he able to be trusted not to do this to you again. remember a fist in the face can be no less abusive than being shouted at and made to feel belittled

Answer 4

At the first sign of violence you need to end the relationship. End it early in this situation, before it gets out of hand. I was in an abusive relationship that started out innocent I thought. He supposedly accidentaly hit me in the eye. The next thing I know he's taking a bat after me. He even stabbed me once. Men who don't hit women, "Don't hit women" The guy I'm with now, won't even play ruff when we are wresteling around on the floor. That's a sign of a nonviolent man. You don't want to get caught up with a guy like that. Breaking free from men like that is like trying break free from heroin. His love becomes an addiction you need no matter the cost and you suppress the memories of his violence to get through the day.

"MEN WHO DON"T HIT< WON'T HIT YOU EVER"

Answer 5

I've never been slapped, but its not right that he hit you. Was he drunk? You have to defend yourself otherwise it could get worse. Don't let him hit you again. Guys always look like they mean something , but they really don't. They will give you those puppy eyes and some will even cry, but its bull, its all fake. Most guys are jerks. Just be careful.

If I was you I'd leave him. I wouldn't put up with that.

Answer 6

every guy who hits eventually says he is sorry and sometimes these guys are so charming and so very sorry that women stay with them. the problem is that these guys chip away at you until you there is nothing left of you and you need him to surrive....or at least you think you need him to surrive. Hon, you don't need him to surrive.

Personally I would instantly leave a guy who hit me once. If he does it once it is part of him to hit. He was probably hit and his mom beat while he was growing up. He is just repeating history of abuse. Don't be part of that abuse. NO one deserves to get hit. Pull youself together and get that man out of your life.

He will try and convince you that he will never do it again. The chances are huge that he is just starting his rage of abuse.
Don't hang around for the next time. If you do, call 911.

I think he really means he is sorry. But that won't change his behavior....some heavy duity counseling and his desire to stop the abuse will change MIGHT change him.

You deserve bettter. move on hon.

Answer 7

Ok hun, there are three kinds of abuse, verbal, mental, and physical--none of above are acceptable in a realtionship, especially physical--Verbal abuse is when someone talks down to you, curses, tells you that you are inferior etc., then there is mental abuse, mental abuse is correlated with physical abuse and usually has a domino effect. Thats when you start to believe all of the crap that your partner is feeding you--the best way to escape that, is to leave. Then there is physical abuse, which will begin wiht a push or a shove and end in you being dead or running for your life one day--my advice to you is to run....Abuse/trouble is like a cancer, you have to get it quick and get rid of it--maybe he is sorry for hitting you, but that doesn;t change the fact that he did hit you

It all runs down to the temper, your partner obviously has a bad temper and cannot control his behavior, thats a problem...any man or woman who loses their mind enoug to hit their partner is trouble--my advice is to get out of htis relaitonship, the only way you should stay, is if he gets therapy, he needs anger management--i konw it sounds like im exhaggerating, but if you research this topic, the signs point to exactly this.

Answer 8

there is a first time for every thing ! looks like you really love him so have a talk with him and tell him if it happens again your gona leave him for good ! it may not but wont hurt to let him know that his actions has consequences if it dose leave him and never get back even if he begs you coz he might do. don't think about him think about your self and what you feel

that's my advice for you hope you take care of your self and don't be easy on him !

Answer 9

hey my advice to you is run and dont look back because first a slap then who knowss what else he sounds like he has a problem and soon will feel he has a human stress reliver he says he fs sorry for now but what happens when he gets mad again please get out that relationship

Answer 10

It doesnt matter that he said he's sorry. No guy should ever physically hurt you in anyway, I would leave him before it gets worse, it's hard, but if you stick around, it's telling him that it is ok to do these kinda things, so please don't! Theres some wonderful guy out there without the temper, & who would never dream of hurting you. You don't need to take that, hun, you need to leave him before it gets worse...