this kid that lives next door keeps starting on my son the kid comes form nothing mother and dad no good in and out of jail. the kid hit my boy tonight and my boy hit him back but this kid just wont stop call me names to my boy flicks my boy off just anything to get my somn mad then later he will want to make up with my son and then the nextday be the same way all over again i can't stand the kid and am fed up what do i do? can't wait to move
2006-08-28 12:34:55 · 29 answers · asked by LOLO 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Even if you don't like the parents, you need to talk to them.
2006-08-28 12:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever strike you that he kid is jealous? Perhaps seeing a loving mother and son hurts his feelings so mcu he physically takes it out on your son. Why don't you try taking this kid under your wing? Have him stay the night one night, make him feel special, rent movies with him and your son. Let him pick out his own movie. Ask him to help you get drinks and pop corn for the movie. One weekend take him with parents permission and just ride along and chat about every day things. He is acting out and getting the wrong kind of attention so help him. I had the same problem, but whne you show you care it works, takes awhile, but it will work. Even if it isn't your place, make it that way.
2006-08-28 20:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by dontfreakintalktome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pack your suit case and hit the highway here you already have stated you are moving and cramming your suitcase and dragging t downe the stret i assume like most people you are moving first of month there hons?? were is the man in your life too control this siutatioon there hons?? this boy needs some male attention a strong arm, too defuse the siutation with , etc, you say you are fed up are you throwing dishes around the room hons pulling hair out?? so why dont you pack son off to a relative and pack or cram your sitcase and move down the highway now hons?? you need to get out now and i mean hit that highway fast nevr look back!
2006-08-28 19:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't allow him over to your house. Your house, your rules. If they can't get along make him go home as soon as a war breaks out. Let them both know that is it not okay to handle disputes with violence or name calling. Tell him you will give them three more chances to make it work and then you are pulling the plug and the boy will not be allowed in your house again. Have you ever tried to approach the boys mother? Are the things you said about her based on your opinion or fact? Maybe she will surprise you? Good luck.
2006-08-28 19:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by mom_of_geniuses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had sorta the same problem with the kids that live around me and my children...they are always wanting to pick and call names so I just forbid my kids to leave my yard or from in front of my house and I have let the neighbor kids know not to come around or bother my kids anymore and they have eased up, and if his mother has a problem with what you tell her son, then just have her put in jail again, she doesnt seem to mind being there anyways!!! We are also in the process of moving and I cant wait either...GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-28 19:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your son what he wants you to do, Then, do it. Explain that even friends have fights, but if he doesn't want to be friends, he does not have to be abused. Tell your son if he wants you to stop it, no contact with the kid is permitted. He is to come to the house immediately if the kid even speaks. Tell the kid your son is not permitted to even talk to him. If the abuse keeps up, contact school official or police, and if satisfaction isn't obtained, go up the ladder in rank as high as you have to. If your son doesn't cooperate though, it is useless.
2006-08-28 19:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by choo-Choos Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police to charge the kid or the parents or put a restrianing order on the kid. If that doesn't work, move, if the kid follows then you can run him over with the car...self defense.
Hope that helps you out
2006-08-28 19:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep them apart. If the kid persists, call social services.
He sounds desperate for attention, so much so that even BAD attention is better than none
You could try to be a parent figure to him, but if he is older than say 11, it's probably too late.
2006-08-28 19:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kid is screaming for attention! Screaming for love!
You may not like my answer, but why not try to be extra nice to the kid! Next time they fight and make up, invite him to dinner! With the way his parents are, he just need some attention/love. His fighting is the only way he knows.
2006-08-28 19:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have decided....your moving?? If not call the police next time he lays a finger on your child and perhaps file a restraining order on his household. This would involve the parents as well. I have heard of this very thing on the news...some thing about "bullying". Good luck.
2006-08-28 19:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definetly look into moving....until then, explain to your son how messed up this kid is, and that he will not change his behaviour, and not to talk to him at all. Tell him to just ignore him, and if that doesn't work, have him read scripture from the bible to the bully!
2006-08-28 20:16:02 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋