Have you ever felt tired and snapped at your kids and husband more than usual?

Question

I am a stay at hom mom and have found recently that I feel really tired and tend to snap more at my children especially. I don't have as much patience and I feel terrible! I have a 5 year old, 2 year old and a 10 month old. I have had a difficult year, had my baby by c-section 10 months ago and then had an emergency hysterectomy this past May. I guess I just feel like I don't have any time for me..... Does anyone have any advice????

Answer 1

You're human. My advice would be to take a trip out of town by yourself for a whole weekend. It doesn't even have to be out of town, just something you can do by yourself to relax and recharge. Your husband can take care of the kids. You need the break so take it.

Answer 2

I feel the same way sometimes. I am a stay at home mom too. I have an 11 month old and 5 year old. It does get really tiring. I just try to get some time to myself. I always take a bath, go for a walk or even grocery shopping by myself. It seems to help. I still lose my patience sometimes but i just try to take a deep breath and try to relax. If you would like to talk e-mail me or im me. Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

I am a stay at home mom too, it can be hard to get the time we need. Start small, it's easier on the hubby and kids, take a 20 minutes stroll after dinner, or when it works best for your husband. I find that sometimes staying up just 30 minutes past the kids and watching my stuff or reading can help too. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well,I understand how do you feel,I had a difficult year as well and I found myself to snap at my kid (4 years old) and my husband very often.
What I can suggest you to do,is maybe take some time during the day for yourself,away from everybody,no kids,no husband.Go shopping,go to have your hair done,go for a pedicure or just go for a car ride.
In the other hand,if you really feel down,it could be depression,so I would suggest to talk about it to your doctor.
Don't feel bad,don't feel a bad mom or wife.Everybody need a break sometimes.
Hope you will feel better soon!

Answer 5

My best advice is to sit down with your husband and formulate a plan for the future. Don't feel guilty. You see what's happening and you're reaching out for help.
You probably feel badly about asking your husband for help since he works all day. But these are his children too and a loving husband will only benefit from a calm, relaxed wife at night. Teach the children early that when daddy comes home - it's their time to entertain themselves - even if it's for 10 minutes so that you can spend quality time with your husband. Hopefully, your husband can help entertain the kids while you're putting dinner together if he sees you're trying to devote special time to your relationship with him. Maybe bathing the kids can be some quality time for him or reading a bedtime story and putting the kids to bed for you can be his nightly job. He should be your biggest source of help right now. If you have a mom or mother-in-law they can help too -don't hesitate to ask. Don't try to be the 'do it all myself' mom - not with 3 kids!

Answer 6

How is your diet? I am also a stay at home mom and when I'm not taking my vitamins and drinking enough water that I tend to be a little on the cranky side. How often do you get out and spend time alone? This can also help. Leave your husband with the kids every now and then.

Answer 7

You basically answered your own question, you don't have any time for yourself. So make the time. You have to think of yourself as a bank account, with your children and husband making withdrawals and writing the checks against the account. It's your responsibility to make the deposits into the account, so there's "money" for them to draw against, otherwise their checks will bounce. And that's why you're snapping at them, and have no patience with them, because your bank account is overdrawn. Talk to your husband about this, and enlist his help, he needs to spend 1 evening a week with the kids. This is not babysitting, he's their father, he needs to care for them and do the physical caring for them as much as you do. Find something you want to do, even if just 1 day a week, put the kids in day care center for a day if you need to, but get out and do things for you. You have to take care of yourself so that you'll be able to care for your family.

Also, because of the hysterectomy, I don't know if they left your ovaries or not, but if they removed your ovaries as well, then you're in menopause as well, which is stressful, you might need to make an appointment with your gyno, and discuss treatment options for menopausal symptoms. Good luck, and please take care of yourself.

Answer 8

I agree with reunionrowdies. Make some time for yourself. You are a wife and mother second, a person first. Book in to a health spa, go for a girl's weekend away.

Do you have any hobbies or interests? Do a class or study group once a week. Anything that expresses your individuality, even for an hour or so.

Tell your husband you still love him lots, and you are sorry if you snap at him.

Answer 9

You need time out.
Go to a doctor, jus to make sure everything is okay.
Then start doing some form of exercise. Try yoga or tai chi - you will most certainly notice the difference.
Also, make sure you are eating well. Bad foods will not only make your body unhealthy, but in the end will affect your moods too. You are a busy Mum who has had a busy year and everyone needs you. You need to look after yourself or you are no good to anyone!

Answer 10

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