2006-08-28 12:07:51 · 16 answers · asked by gurl_balla14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He can't be with you 24/7 and neither can you. It's good for couple to spend a lot of time with each other, but too much is not good. There needs to be some space and something to keep you preoccupied, like work or school or some type of activity you enjoy.
2006-08-28 12:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by niceguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same exac thing. My girlfriend left me and well, I trully felt that life was no longer worth living. However, here is some advice that I think can help you dealing with the situation. Its just pretty basic, but it helps.
First thing you have to do is throw out all te letters he gave you along witht he pictures and what not. Try to put everything that reminds you of him in a place where you don't go every day. I mean, in the darkest realms of the basement or something. This is just so you avoid looking at the letters every day and weeping and what not. Letters, stuffed animals, mix CD's, gifts, pictures, everything goes in a box and into the basement. Second of all, try to hang out with your friends as much as possible. Even if you don't feel like going out, do go out because being surrounded by people in a different enviornment will allow you to breathe fresh air and you won't be concentrating on your former relationship. Thirdly, try to grab a hobby, like running an hour daily and whatever comes to mind. Don't just sit there watching T.V. and listening to music. The less things you do, the more time you have to think about him and therefore the more you are going to be hurting. Fourthly, try to sleep in a different room in your house or at your friend's house every now and then. This has proven to relieve nightmares and helps deal with the depression; because when you hange your enviornment the vibes change... that's what I read and it DOES work.
Just remember that nothing passes from one day to another, not even from one week to another. But after a couple of weeks you'll start feeling better and better and before you know it you'll be fine. Just remember, keep your head up high and keep yourself busy. Change your surroundings and hang out with your friends as much as you can, but try to stay away from places where you and your former boyfriend used to go. That's not really going to help. Don't rush into dating, it won't work. Just take time for yourself and focus on you. Go to a Spa one of these days and just relax. Time will heal the wounds and with due time not even the scars will be noticable. Just take your time, and keep yourself busy.
2006-08-28 12:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by ChAr-LeE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you need something in your life besides your boyfriend. You are entirely too dependent on him. Go out, meet new friends, join some clubs, get a life. Your boyfriend should be part of your life, not your whole life. It's very dangerous to let a relationship be all you have in life because if it ends, you have nothing.
2006-08-28 12:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes girl I 2 felt that way , my heart was thumping and i felt like there wasn't anything to live on for..and I looked at my self in the mirror and said what the heck he is not worth it ..jumped in shower went out with Friends ate dinner danced and had a great time...mean while founds some nicer looking guys who where more sweet to me and also better in bed life is so good to me ..just let it girl
2006-08-28 12:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depart it a fantasy in time you will look back and be grateful you probably did. shall we predict of of in case you probably did, how might you sense having your bf look at yet another woman like he does you at that factor? Jealous even a splash on the assumption, you will possibly desire to. it may bring about basically problems for a speedy thrill which would be over in one night. Your existence does not rely on it besides as his
2016-11-05 23:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never felt that, seems you may be a bit insecure in yourself.
Best to spend more time with your family and friends until he returns.
You may need to look into yourself, and see why you should be so dependent on him being there with you.
2006-08-28 12:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, and it's always because I didn't say the things that I should have said the last time we were together. The right time in these matters is always Now.
2006-08-28 12:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by derek4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i went out and found myself a new girlfriend. Amazing how i got over the absent girlfriend.
2006-08-28 12:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by John J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it will feel this way for awhile but time heals so be patient it will get easier, su, but it will just hang in and try to keep busy good luck and hope ya dont have to long but remember it depends on how long its gonna take only by you.
2006-08-28 12:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must like and love yourself more than a boyfriend....you cannot base your happiness for the day based on if you see him or not.....what you asked is nutty.....do what you want....
your self worth is what you need to be concerned with,
2006-08-28 12:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋