Im 16, but ive got a son who's one month old. I live him to bits, but ever since he's been born everyone's been making me feel like crap, calling me common and just generally lowering my self esteem. It wasn't my or the mother's fault she got pregnant, it was dodgy protection (ie split) and im just trying to be a half decent father. Does anyone know how i can get more self-esteem? At the moment i just feel really, really low.
2006-08-28 12:06:12 · 6 answers · asked by Brummie Geeza 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi there,
Firstly.... Congratulations on becoming a daddy! Wow! Such an exciting time for you, however it's ashame that the people around you have created negative surroundings for you.
Let me start by saying no-one is common. We're all unique human beings! And it will be your uniqueness that will help shape and teach your new son to grow.
Remember now, you have your own family unit and you can build create on it any way that you see fit.
Take what's spoken in your stride and prove them all wrong by not just being a "half decent father" but an unforgettably FANTASTIC father that beats all the odds!
Wishing you all the best in life.
Warmly,
Jo
2006-08-28 14:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Joesy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wasup dawg. I can feel low at times too but what you really should do is dont care what other people think and just laugh about it sometimes and know that you are a good happy father that enjoys being a dad. That should be special enough wanting to be the good dad because most kids your age cant handle the pressure and dont be a good father, but trust me dont worry about what other people think just do what you do and have fun on your own time.
2006-08-28 19:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing great, mate. Honest.
Think of it this way. How many guys out there at your age could honestly say they themselves would be able to take such good care of a child, love him to bits and keep a good relationship with his mother? Most would either run for the hills or blame the girl and wash their hands of it...life threw you a bit of a curve-ball in giving you a child, but the fact you're doing your best makes you a top father in that and I know your son will love you for it!
Don't worry about them...they criticise because they themselves are jealous. Ask yourself - how many of them could do what you're doing?
Not many, I bet! Keep up the good work mate...doing great. Ignore them - and remember...they're just jealous. Just do what you feel is best...smile and enjoy life - and they'll have nothing to pick on...
Best of luck!
2006-08-28 19:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Bert from Oz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your son; he loves you and needs you and that makes you important.
People will always judge you and try to make you feel bad about yourself, but once they realize that you don't care what they think and you are happy with your life, they'll leave you alone.
Just keep your priorities straight and high school will be over before you know it and these kids won't have time to make fun of you. You'll be a great dad.
2006-08-28 19:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by marciastar8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, as long a you are taking care of the child, you have nothing to worry about.
you are doing the right thing by taking care of the child, and thta is a really mature decision, even a decison that anyone of your age wouldn't take.
don't worry about what others say, and just worry about being a good father.
2006-08-28 19:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by emilioredhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them, dude... who's opinion do you care more about? yourself's or other's? i'd go for the former....
2006-08-28 19:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by misery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋