Okay, the people I talk to keep telling me I'm unhealthy and very antisocial. I hardly talk to anybody, I always have my nose in a book or staring off into space thinking about particularly nothing, I hardly talk to anybody, hardly smile at all anymore, all of that good crap. But I've been living with it--- loneliness? depression?--- for a few years now to the point where I hardly notice it... the problem is that i hardly trust anybody (long story) and I'm just wondering if I should go see somebody and if that will bring any good results.
2006-08-28 11:53:16 · 16 answers · asked by misery 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
if it's a phase, it's been going on for 2 years now... sure i try to talk to people but they seem to be too wrapped up in their own lives...
2006-08-28 12:03:27 · update #1
I do not really believe that you have a problem. I am a very outgoing person by nature and sometimes I will never shut up... but other times I may shut myself off from the 'real World' and do as you do such as putting my nose into a book (which I would do anyways) and listen to my music.
I am actually in the middle of one of those spells now where I do not really wish for much contact. I do not chalk it up to depression or loneliness, I just want some alone time to reevaluate what is going on in my life. I have never went two years (I think 6 months at the most) but each individual is different.
As for your trust in people, I will agree that it is harder now a days for people to open up, but if you meet genuine people you will find friendship in no time with them.
Do not feel bad, there are others like you. If you deem it a bad enough problem, then see professional help. If not, just be happy with what you are doing and who you are...
If you ever need a friendly person to talk to, feel free to get in contact, I always have time to hear new stories...
Love and be loved,
PoIsOn MuNkEy
2006-08-28 13:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by no munkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could seek counseling or therapy if you feel like you would benefit but my guess is you won't becuase you already admit to a lack of trust in others. My suggestion would be, before you go and piss your money away on things you probaly already know about yourself, is allow yourself genuine exposure to society. That doesn't at all mean you should change your feelings about things or how you precieve the world right now or even alter your general lifestyle. All it would do, and only then assuming you honestly placed yourself in broad exposure without reservations or pre-existing expectations, is to allow others the chance to exchange with you and see you for who you really are. I somehow doubt you're either an introvert or an idiot but more likely a person of somewhat exceptional intellect and reasoning powers so you'll be bright enough to understand that by doing this you allow yourself the chance of meeting someone who in fact does accept you for who you are and what you stand for. Someone or someones has in your life cheated you of love, respect and mutual considerations and you stopped giving a ****. Try again.
2006-08-28 19:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you??? how do you feel about it? if you feel okay (or great) about being lonely etc then stay as you are. But if you think that other people can make a difference in your life, its nice to smile, talk and communicate. There is no need to tell your deepest secrets to anyone. People can make you happy but can also make you sad, but you chose these people...
If you smile the world will smile with you but if you cry you will cry alone (I found this written on a table at work, i think it makes sense).... SO its all your choice, see how you'd feel by socializing a little bit, if it does not work and you feel depressed and down, take some professional advice ! Good Luck !
2006-08-28 19:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely fine. I think that maybe you SHOULD go see a school counselor, just to see if there is really something wrong with your social health. But I think that you should also get a few good friends that you can talk to. You don't have to tell them anything you can't trust them with, but just people that accept you for who you are and you can let your feelings out to.
2006-08-28 19:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nothing abnormal either your in a shell like hwne you were younger or you might just be growing up I feel the same way sonmetimes bnoone undersatnds me the can't label me and they want to and thats there prob. with me but it's nothing abnormal you either need to get up and put of your shell or call up an old friends and/or relative and talk for a while catch up on some of the good ole times ya know?!
2006-08-28 19:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt to talk to someone. Just talking can help a great deal. I suffer from depression and other stuff,it isn't easy but I take it one day at a time.
2006-08-28 18:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by LilahFairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, i wouldnt bother.. its probably just a phase you are going through or something... dont sweat it.
A good way to solve this is to just when you are talking to someone, try to add on more detail to what you are saying.. that will make you talk more...hence making you more "social" lol.
2006-08-28 18:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by m_s2k7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda in the same boat as you. i'm always reading, always fealing depressed. I hope you find a way to get better
2006-08-29 13:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it, really. I've been like you. I'm going to go back to being that way. I've serious doubts people are worth trusting.
2006-08-28 18:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't speak to your mental condition. If you can tolerate it, it will probably pass. If not seek help.
As far as talking to other people, talk about them. They'll more than gladly talk back.
2006-08-28 19:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by rlw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋