CHRISTIANS..::: Is it okay to get married the second time??

Answer 1

A second time? You mean like "some people never learn"?

Answer 2

I am tempted to throw a fit, but I will not do so.

Not one of those that have answered has answered the most basic of questions, when do you marry?
A biblical marriage is not the paper marriage, ask Adam and Eve. This was explained by Jesus when he explained to his disciples that there are only three groups of people that do not marry. (And the third can be invalid if the reason is invalid.) The eunuch discussion is this explanation. Putting away a wife, even when not during a paper marriage, leads to the same result "save for fornication." Or else you commit adultery, which is what happens when you do not marry again anyway.
This is the second reason that I feel a need to throw a fit, because no one explains what fornication is. Now, we know that thou shalt not commit adultery. Adultery occurs when you have untied relations. It also occurs when one looks upon a woman to lust after her (and vice versa). At neither point is it distinguished whether that person is married or not. This mean that any relationship for untied relations is adultery. This means that the use of the word fornication does not mean extra-marital relations.
What does it mean?
To answer the question proffered, it depends on why you have to marry again. The reason, who was at fault, who divorced, and a few other things that may not be spoken or admitted to.

Answer 3

The bible says if a person divorces for any reason other than marital unfaithfulness and remarries, it's adultery. I'm not condemning anyone...just giving you scripture. A person needs to take their own situation before God. By the way, the scripture below from Matthew was quoted only in part (about the bill of divorcement). He went on to say this USED to be allowed because they had "hard hearts".

Make sure if people tell you things are from the bible, you check up on it. Lots of people take things out of context or misquote.

Answer 4

Between Matthew and Mark, there's a part where it says, if one of them commits adultery, the other one has a right to Divorce.

Read Matthew 5:26 especially verse 31, whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement.

Answer 5

It depends on what denomination. In Catholicism it's ok to remarry if either the spouse dies or if you get an annulment as well as a divorce.

Answer 6

1 Corinthians 7 "But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.

If the husband dies than it is right to remarry

Answer 7

yes

Answer 8

It depends on whether the first marriage was "valid".

Answer 9

A warning against improper remarriage

Fourth, Jesus now gives a stern warning against improper remarriage: I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery" (9).

For a moment, set aside the little phrase "except for marital unfaithfulness." We'll come back to that soon. If you leave the phrase out, Jesus is saying that a man who divorces his wife and then remarries another woman commits adultery. (By the way, in the parallel passage in Mark 10:1-12, the exception clause does not appear, suggesting that sometimes Jesus included it and sometimes he didn't.) How can that be? Because in God's eyes if the divorce is improper, so is the remarriage. This means that God takes our wedding vows seriously. When you stand before a minister and pledge to be faithful "till death do us part," God says Amen from heaven. And if you divorce on unbiblical grounds and then marry someone else, in God's eyes you have committed adultery because you are still bound to your original vows.

Let me point out that the real issue here is not divorce but improper remarriage. This means that divorced men and women must be very careful about remarriage lest they end up committing adultery by the very act of remarriage.

E. One clear exception-porneia

Fifth, Jesus here gives us one clear exception to this total ban on divorce and remarriage. He says you are not to do it "except for marital unfaithfulness" (9). The Greek word is porneia. It's a very common word (from which we get the English word "pornography") and has a broad meaning. Sometimes it is translated as "adultery," sometimes as "fornication," and sometimes as "sexual immorality." All those translations are correct. It basically refers to any pattern of sexual sin that has the effect of breaking the marriage vow. It certainly includes premarital sex, extramarital sex, adultery, prostitution, homosexuality and pedophilia. I would suggest that it may also include the habitual addiction to pornography.

This simply means that sexual immorality does provide grounds for divorce from God's point of view. But remember, this is a permission, not a command. While God never commands his children to divorce, he does permit it when one partner has flagrantly violated their sacred marriage vows.
V. A Practical Application: 10
Where does all this leave us? Precisely where it left the disciples. The Pharisees had tried to trap Jesus into some kind of argument that would force him to choose sides. But Jesus rises far above that by emphasizing the divine intention that marriage is for life. Divorce is never anything other than a desperate last step to be taken when the marriage vows are broken by immorality.

As the disciples ponder all this, they uttered words we can all understand:

The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry" (10).

That happens to be entirely correct. Even though most people want to be married, it's better never to marry unless you are willing to abide by God's standards. It's better to be single than to wish you were.

Let me step aside from this passage and in light of the entire New Testament summarize the three legitimate biblical grounds for remarriage:

1. Death of the spouse (1 Corinthians 7:39-40)
2. Sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9)
3. Desertion by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:10-15)
I do not believe there are any other legitimate grounds for divorce and remarriage given in the Word of God. If the question of spousal abuse is raised, several points might be made. First, the Bible does not directly address this issue. Second, nothing in the Bible prohibits a wife from removing herself (and her children) from an abusive situation for her safety-and theirs. In most cases, this will be the prudent thing to do. Third, a pattern of abuse may in the end be regarded as proof that a husband is in fact an unbeliever masquerading as a Christian. If he rejects all attempts to help change his abusive behavior, then he might fall into the category of an unbelieving spouse whose sin has the effect of destroying the marriage. Wise spiritual leaders and godly Christian counselors can help a wife make proper decisions in such cases.

To the Divorced

I would like to add a special word to those in our congregation who have been divorced. The words of Jesus in Matthew 19 apply especially to you. I know that many of you yearn to be married again-and for some of you, the sooner the better. But marriage isn't necessarily better or easier the second or third time around. If you are divorced, no matter what the circumstances were, I urge you to seek the Lord, not another mate. You need time to heal, time to rebuild, time to learn to walk alone through life, time to grow spiritually, time to discover the riches of God's amazing grace. If it is God's will that you should remarry, then in God's time he will bring it about. Don't rush the Lord; he's never in a hurry.

To the Never Married

That same word applies to all the singles in our congregation. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul plainly urges singles not to seek marriage but to serve the Lord right where you are. He even says, "Do not seek a wife" in verse 27 (although he also adds that if you do marry, you have not sinned-verse 28). Then he advises those who have wives to act as though they have none (29)-which means that dedication to Christ must come before dedication to your spouse.

None of this is meant to downplay the value of a Christian marriage. Hebrews 13:4 clearly tells us that marriage is an honorable estate. But you must not make an idol out of marriage and raise it to the point where your desire for marriage controls life. When that happens, something good (marriage) has become an idol for you.

To the Married

If you are married, I have two suggestions for you. First, commit yourself to be a man of God or a woman of God in your marriage. Husbands, that means loving your wife and laying down your life for her. Wives, that means respecting your husband and looking to him for leadership in your home. Second, put the word divorce out of your vocabulary. Just get rid of it. Rip it out of your personal dictionary. For the believer, it should simply never be an option. If you are truly committed to God and to each other, you can survive any storm that may come your way. I would like each husband to say to his wife, "Sweetheart, there is nothing you can do that will ever cause me to divorce you. And let the wives say that to their husbands. Then say it to each other in front of your children. This will cement your commitment by making it part of your family's shared heritage.

Answer 10

yes.