What are the most negative things that you took from your mother and father's relationship?

Answer 1

Oh geesh, I can't even get into some of it it's so bad. Cheating. Lying. Yelling. Name calling. Physical abuse.
Watching them together was like taking a course called: Marriage for Dummies, Things Not to Do, course 101.
Luckily they divorced before I began to think relationships were supposed to be dysfunctional.

Answer 2

Smoking.
My father holding his feelings inside. He didn't know how to take care of his children. He just went thru the motions of daily living, work, eat and sleep.
My mother and father fought a lot. Too much, actually. And my father was never brave enough to speak up and stand up for himself, so Mom always ended up looking like the bad guy, which she was not.
I felt the burden of keeping them together, ever since I was a little girl.
What I brought with me today, from them, the negative things? Gosh, even though my parents fought and my father did not know how to show his emotions, I don't think I took anything negative from my parents. Parents are people, too. They make mistakes, just as we do. And, when we grow up, and have our own children, (unfortunately, I cannot have kids), we will see that they did the best they could with the skills they had. My dad is still quiet, and my parents still fight. And, it is still hard to remember all of this without wincing in emotional pain, but it is what it is. We cannot change our past, we can only accept what is, and move forward.
Also, keep in mind that they sometimes may become like their parents. If you are right handed, can you write with your left hand legibly? Some can, but most cannot. So, if they had a bad life growing up, then they may have brought unwanted skills into their parenting. Remember, we are all humans, we all make mistakes...

Answer 3

Even the most seeming negative can be converted back to a positive if you look hard enough. Distorted views about love, money, sex,etc. etc..if I took those from my parents I can surely give it back, not mine to own today and feel free because of it!

Answer 4

my parents were negitive. they werent married at anypoint and my mom took me away from him for the first 4 years of my life. then shed tell me how much of and azzhoe she thought he was. he cursed at me about him. i loved him i thought he was great. any idea how horrible it was for a 6 year old to hear that. he was the only person that understood me all the time no matter what. i dont thing i got anything good nore bad out of there relationship because there really wasnt one in the first place

Answer 5

I was so very lucky! I can honestly say that I grew up in a very loving family. My parents didn't fight, yell, nothing like that.
I did not take anything negative from my parents relationship.

Answer 6

No trusting men. Took me about 15 years into my marriage before I figured out that I could trust my guy.

Answer 7

Well, they got divorced early on and didn't have a relationship that I ever saw. That by itself is pretty negative.

Answer 8

They divorced when I was younger, so what I got out of their relationship was it's not working and we don't want to try to make it work... oh, and cheating was another reason...

I actually learned everything not to do from my parents relationship to make my own marriage work.

Answer 9

My parents were horrible parents, cheating, drugs, abuse, everything bad- I took the experience of what not to do. Bad parents don't mean bad kids.

Answer 10

Screaming and name calling while arguing... in their defense, they were very young. But, nonetheless, it's been something that I've been trying to 'unlearn'.