Is my relationship with God good? Is he dissapointed in me?

Question

durin the past few weeks ive been goin out with this guy and like i love my bf and everything, but im scared that God is upset with me because i dont think bout Him that much i dont really give him that much time anymore, i do read the Bible everynight and all but it just feels like im farther apart from Christ than usual, and im afraid that Christ wont let this relationship work out with me and my bf, i dont know that if this feeling is normal because this is my first bf since i became a Christian..., but i dont think that God would never want us to have a bf so i dont feel how he would be mad at me but then the other half of me is just like feelin bad...

Answer 1

Question 1: is this guy a Christian? If not, why are you going out with him?

Question 2: is this guy someone you would one day want to marry? If not, again, why are you going out with him?

The best advice I can offer you is to dump him if he is not a Christian. Don't fall into the trap of "Well I can bring him to Christ." As much as we all want these things to work out, sometimes they don't. Pray for his salvation.

Now if he IS saved, then he should be spurring you on towards God, and you should be spurring him on as well. If you find yourself so wrapped up in this guy that you can't come to God with a clear conscience, something's wrong.

Remember this verse: Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV) "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

The two that this verse is talking about is a healthy relationship. The third person is Jesus wrapped between the two, strengthening the cord, or the relationship. Always putt God first in everything, including relationships.

Know that God never meant for us to be alone. There are those who have been able to stay single. Regardless, you need others in your life to encourage and strengthen your walk with God.

Also, ask your youth pastor about being "equally yoked". A relationship with someone who is not following God (regardless of what they claim to be) will end in frustration and dissapointment. I won't get into all of that, mostly because I can't remember where it is talked about in the bible, and I don't talk about something w/out backing it up. Ask your youth pastor. :)

Answer 2

First of all, God loves you and wants a good life for you. May I make a suggestion? Take some time and really think about your priorities in life. Remember that Jesus said "seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all things will be added to you". If you put God first, and truly devote your heart to Him, God will give you a life more beautiful than you can possibly imagine. This means bible study, going to church, fellowshipping with other believers, really putting Him first in your life. Allow Him to order everything else. And He will; perfectly.

By the way, there is no way anyone can "disappoint" God. Disappointment comes from a failed expectation. Since God knows everything we will ever think, do or say, He is never surprised at anything.

Answer 3

Dear Queastion:

God is never unhappy when His Children share and focus on life together. He wants His Children to be happy. Traditionally speaking, Brothers are meant to be a joy to each other. "The Holy Spirit would not deprive you of your special relationships, but if they begin to be . . .[ less] than a thing of joy, He would enter into your relationship and transform it." This means: He would restore to them [ relationships] the function given them by God. " The function of relationships is to make happy. And nothing else."

It is the QUALITY of the relationship - that the Holy Spirit looks upon.

The whole reason for isolation when growing into your Relationship with Jesus, The Holy Spirit and God is that there is nothing else to focus upon. It is a time of stillness and total focus upon the Trinity. We make great strides in this during our periods of isolation. That is why men become monks and women become nuns and others shut the door upon their past life for a period of alone-ness - to emerge again - into deeper, more harmonious relationships. A higher quality of living.

God is not a jealous God. That is Ancient Man's observation. Jesus would tell you a loving Father is not jealous. God does not have human emotions. If the relationship does not continue, it is not God's doings - it simply did not continue. Unless, He had a plan for you that you know about - and you have suddenly taken a left turn, within His plan for you, and detoured. For instance, if you were serious about becoming a teacher for Him : Some plan was in effect and you were being Guided ? Only you can know of this.

Human relationships are time consuming. I do not know the plans you had for your spiritual life, but if your relationship with the Trinity is important to you, you should ask the Holy Spirit to Guide you on how to set things up so that there is time for both. He is your Guide and Comforter. He can show you how to enjoy your relationship fully, and the best time of the day or night to make a space for yourself of "stillness" that you may read and ask Them questions, listen for Their Answers, or contemplate or meditate. Give yourself time to just talk to the Holy Spirit for a few minutes. Acknowledge the Father, tell the Holy Spirit about your bf - activate Him into that relationship. Let Him share it with you. That's what Christians should do.

Don't feel badly. They understand the demands of the human experience. Putting Them at the center of your relationship with your bf is the true experience of a God centered and based relationship. If the bf has no spiritual interest - and does not desire to know about your studies and thoughts - be careful. Don't give him power to remove you from the most important focus you can have.

Teachers and Ministers, Pastors, always make their relationship with God number one. They love their spouses and children secondly. That is the correct balance - believe it or not. It's the balance that keeps the entire WHOLE functioning for everyone's best and highest good. Good luck !

Answer 4

God is The Most Kind, The Most Loving. He is not mad at you--God only wants what is BEST for you. Those feelings you have might be your own inner voice warning you are in danger with this boyfriend of yours.

God does not want you to destroy your life..So many bad things can happen with your BF--pregnancy, HIV, STD's--many things..God put you here to accomplish certain goals...You will make your own choices-and you might get hurt by your BF. In the end, God will be there. He forgives agian, and agian.

Peace

Answer 5

Why would he be mad at you for having a boyfriend. I think you answered your own question as to why it's not working out with your boyfriend. You're not making much time for him anymore. If the relationship does not work out, then don't blame God. What happens in a relationship is a product of our own free will. God will not interfere in your free will. Maybe it's not God you're feeling distant from. Maybe you just feel guilty about what's going on with your boyfriend and you are just assuming that if things go wrong it's because you're sinning. Things happen. Life goes on. If things don't work thengo to God for comfort, but don't blame what's going on on Him.

Answer 6

There was a great missionary one time (1800's) and he fell into love with this woman, but certain things prevented it from working out. He committed it to God and waited. The results were miraculous. A book was written about it. If you could find that book and read it, it would really help. The book is called 'Hudson Taylor and Maria' Look it up on the net and read it.

Answer 7

yes, yes, God hates you and you will go to hell.

Come on people!, do you see what religion is doing to humanity?. Religion is a plague and needs to be stopped.

Kid, they've brainwashed you, if you believe in God and the Bible says God is love doesn't it mean he is cool with you ALL THE TIME no matter what, even if you forget about him for a lil while?, he is cool, learn by example and be cool too, do whatever you want to do but 2 rules: don't kill or hurt anybody and don't get an STD use a condom!.

Answer 8

First of all if God loved you as a sinner, he loves you as a christian....now there is a little something to think about,.....God does need to be the all of your day.......if you have been having relations with God on a regular basis then I just think that you need to think about how you would feel if a family member or friend that you spent loving time with everyday in depth,....how it would feel for that person to suddenly just stop cuz they found another person or thing to attract your attention,.......I only think of it as how would it make me feel and I know that I would be left feeling alone and deserted in some way.....maybe that is how he feels ,it is possible.....so what you could do is talk to him about it and maybe even put the same effort that you have given him as always and then your boyfriend could just be added to you as an enjoyment not a distraction......I think you do care for our living God so you are on the right track girl. just be careful he is a jealous God, i don't say that to scare you I say that for you to treat him with care.

Answer 9

God is love. If you are righteous, he is on your side. Even if you kick him, he will love you if you were righteous. The sole reason of reading the bible is to remind you the life of christ so that you will be as good as him.
In case your boy friend is a real bad guy then god will be angry on you for that one reason of making a bad choice. Else if he is good god will bless you for chosing the right guy and it also results in synergy.
Also remember god is great

Answer 10

Don't feel guilty if anyone had said to you about spending too much time with your boy friend. It is more healthy hanging out with the one you love than spending time reading the Bible.

If you think God is mad at you, then get out of relationship with God because it's not real.