Me and my boyfriend broke up a few months ago and i still have feelings for him and well we want to be with each others but the timing is not right and i want him to know that i do love him alot even after we broke up i tried moving on i even starting dating but i didn't enjoy the guy and my ex was always on my mind and i'm not a liar or unfaithful girl i'm very honest with him we agreed to just talk for now because i'm leaving for the air force and it's not a good time to be with each others he's sure he wants to be with me he's not sure we'll make it and i don't want to force his hand on anything but how do i go about letting him know that i'm always here for him and even though were not together he's my number one pick in any relationship and i do want to make it work but he's always pushing me out because he thinks i'll leave but i'm not because i've always been here for him since the beginning and i just want to be real with him
2006-08-28 11:18:55 · 13 answers · asked by USAF1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him once and for all how you feel, ask him why he is always pushing you away, that may be his feelings for you are not that strong. For the job that you will be doing, you need all the support you can get. If he is not into you like that, then you have to move on. Be strong, Be safe, and God speed.
2006-08-28 11:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just that.... You have to understand his position the one woman that he gave his heart to is leaving... Not leaving because he did something or the relationship is not working, but because you are trying to better your self.. Men don't understand that.. He probably thinks that it's his fault the reason that you are leaving... Just be patient with him and let him know how you really feel, and you never know what can happen until you try... You guys have not even tried being together while you were gone.. Have you guys talked about marriage? This man sounds like he really loves you and wants to be with you, so the little time that you are here make him feel special show him just how you feel.. Then he should be able to understand just what is going on.. I am sure you are going in to the Air Force to become a better person and not some garden tool, show spread your wings and fly... You go girl...
2006-08-28 18:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force it. He knows that you love him and want this relationship to work, he's seems to be the unwilling participate. Distances can bring two people together or ripe them apart. It all depends on the two individuals involve and how bad they want their relationship. Most men can't handle beening away from their girlfriends to long of a period of time. Their easy tempted and believe that we are too. So instead of beening faithful and wait for their mates return, they rather just end the relationship. Women have wait for their men who went off to fight for our country and stayed home. Anticipating good or bad news, they waited. Men can't do the same for their women. So honey go on and get your life in order and if he's around when you return that call it faith. But he isn't than call it a blessing, do you really want a man that couldn't be there for you while you do something as honorable as joing the Air Force.
2006-08-28 18:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by blackbery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you "need" to be in a relationship.
Go on with your plans to go into the Air Force and the two of you should keep in touch but maybe this separation is what you both need.
Space with clear the air and put things into perspective. If you're really meant to have a relationship it'll happen.
2006-08-28 18:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just scared to tell him. Call him up and set up an informal meeting, say breakfast at a coffee shop or donut shop. That way you can tell him how you feel and then move on. You don't have to wait in an awkward silence waiting for your food to come and it will come off better than telling him over the phone. Hope everything works out. :)
2006-08-28 18:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by n8dawwgg69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just sounds crazy. You don't need to put yourself through this. You are moving on with your life. Anything you're not married to that's giving you this much grief should be left in the dust without a look back.
2006-08-28 18:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by connie_mspt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him - (but don't try to manipulate or force his hand)...and wait...because you really haven't moved on too far if you've only been broken up a few months....things will be more clear a year from now.
2006-08-28 18:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In one. Short. Sentence. Preferably with a period at the end so we can be sure... The Air Force is gonna take you?
2006-08-28 18:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and talk to him because it takes alot of strenth and mind control and trust for u guys to have a distance relationship.So just give it time.Everything comes in time.
2006-08-28 18:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jilly Boo Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why all these girls are posting questions about having just broken up with a bf but now they want to get back together.
2006-08-28 18:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋