My daughter can't get into preschool because she is to smart, should I put her in kindergarten?

Question

My daughter is 4 and she wants to go to school realy bad. I had her tested to get into preschool and they told me it would not be good for her to go because she is too advanced and assosiation with the other kids could make her regress. Should I enter her into kintergarten or would that be too much for her?

Answer 1

no, put her in kindergarden.
there's really not that much of a drastic difference in terms of curriculum. preschool is kind of like day care. kids just learn to work with others and to be around others, to share, to have a schedule, to be away from their parents, etc. since if they have never been to school, they might just think the world revolves around themselves at home, you know?
if she is ready, i would definitely let her start kindergarden =)

Answer 2

If you are considering entering her into kindergarden, maybe you could talk to the teachers in the school where she would go and ask questions about the types of stuff she would be doing, and then you can consider if you think the work is too much or not. But I think that if she is too smart for pre-school, then why not try kindergarden? If it ends up to be too much, you could maybe pull her out and wait till next year. I skipped a grade, and I luv it! Before I skipped, the work was SOOO easy that I finished early and just sat there being bored.

Answer 3

Your four year old daughter should be able to enjoy her childhood and her preschool experience. Learning to make friends, to share, and to be independent is all apart of growing up. Often a very bright child needs a school that offers lots of social time, dramatic arts, music and perhaps even a language program. This preschool probably said this to you because they cannot offer enough stimuli for her, and they were honest enough to tell you. Breezy Point Day School in Langhorne, PA is a wonderful preschool, if you are near there.

Answer 4

No. Do not confuse intellectual intelligence with emotional maturity. The two are not synonymous. Get her into a school where she will be challenged intellectually but kept on grade level for her age. These are tough years you think, but put a child in social environments that are not comfortable for years will create a whole set of unnecessary problems. Sounds like these teachers just don't want the challenge of such a bright child. Pity. She should be a wonderful asset to any class!

Answer 5

She should enter PS for the social experience before attending Kindergarten. By putting her in Kindergarten she will always be the youngest in her class. Wouldn't it be better if she were the same age or older than her peers. Then she would have the advantage of more social experience and be physically stronger and more coordinated when it comes to athletics.

Answer 6

I do not believe she would regress being around other children her age. Remember, there is always a mix of children in a pre-school, at both ends of the spectrum. She needs social exposure, as well as the time to mature. Don't worry, she is still learning. Exposing her to life events, giving her puzzles to put together, taking her on excursions to the zoo, involving her in sensory integration activities, such as playing in the sand, pool, or with Play-doh, swinging on play equipment and going for walks in and outside all stimulate her senses and awaken her curiosity to learn. Her corpus callosum, the mid part of her brain, is growing fibers, connecting the left and right brains together, which it will do throughout life, well into the fourth decade of life. Put your worries aside, and don't push her. Feeling a sense of failure at an early age may damage her self-esteem and not encourage her to want to learn. Good luck.

Answer 7

Try a different pre-school. How could your child "regress" as long as she is stimulated by what's going on around her? It sounds like the preschool are concerned that she will challenge them too much.

Answer 8

take her to a child psychologist or what ever they are called. they will do a few tests (ex. see if she can write her name, or some tests through playing, etc.) and the person will decide if she is ready or not. its the best way because if you put her too early she will have problems and if you put her a year later she will be smarter than everyone. of course its better for your kid to stay with people their own age but if you and the psychiatrist think she can handle it, then go ahead.

Answer 9

I think you need a second opinion. I've never heard a school psychologist tell a parent to not let their kid go to school because of fear of regressing. Preschool is about developing social skills - you don't want to isolate her from her peers do you?

Answer 10

I don't know what the policy is at your school district. wouldn't. You could try a private kindergarten or look for a Montessori preschool. They are academically oriented and give individual attentions.