I am worried she might accidentally seriously hurt me.. She is a good girl, good student but has had a hard time handling her fathers and mine marraige breakup, he was abusive too. She has stress at school, working, and we have money problems. Seems she blames me for all of it.
2006-08-28 10:37:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is only displaying what has been modeled to her and she may not understand that she is acting badly. (Believe me, my sons were the same way) Seek assistance from your local Domestic Violence Center. They probably have assistance available for both you and your daughter. Seeing the world from a "healthy" perspective can change your lives. You are to be praised for showing your daughter there is a way out of abuse.
2006-08-28 10:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully it's just a phase. I know my brother went through some rocky times while we were growing up. He's the oldest of four and he used to boss everyone around. The penalty for disobeying - a beating. We even had a good family life. He's grown out of it for the most part. I think your daughter needs to take a step back and see her behavior as unacceptable and change it herself. All you can do is be supportive. Make sure she knows that you are always on her side and maybe recommend counseling or something. Also, if your job allows, take a day off and pick her up from school to go shopping and talk and generally just have a girls day but make sure to steer clear of topics that might cause an altercation. This will show her that she is the most important thing in your life and her happiness is top priority. I know it must be hard but you just need to wait for her to want to change her attitude. Good luck!
2006-08-28 10:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kitkat Bar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds similar to what happened with my sister. It turned out that she was/is bipolar. This is a physical, chemical imbalance that gets worse without treatment.
You said you have money problems so therapy might not be possible - if you have health insurance, a doctor might be able to help. If she's in school the counselor there might have some suggestions too. This depends on her age and how willing she is to want to get better.
2006-08-28 10:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is no excuse -- when she is beating you and angry - she is repeating the behaviors of her father -- and another generation of abuser is let out on the world.
Have you tried counseling for her yet (or an evaluation for her anger issues)?
Then if it continues -- the only choice is to file charges and call the police -- and keep calling the police. DO NOT touch her -- just call the police and let them deal with it. Sometimes we parents have to let our teenage children LEARN the hard way that this is NOT acceptable behavior to go beating on your mother.
2006-08-28 11:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs therapy and NOW. She seems to NOT have the skills to cope wth the stress in her life, and a divorce is VERY rough and confusing for kids. Please seek a therapist for her. It will help her relationship with you AND with others.
She might seriously hurt you OR someone else unless she can learn other ways to cope with stress.
2006-08-28 10:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for you to have to endure abuse from anyone. If your daughter can not act in a civilized manner in your home, kick her out.
Let her see how little her attitude will get her in the world.
2006-08-28 10:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is wrong to blame you She needs to realize that marriages do break up but she has to act like a adult and accept that which she can not change...Maybe you need to take her to a therapist...she needs to stop with the abuse ..Therapy will help her to understand that what she is doing is wrong
2006-08-28 10:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She need to cool down and handle her situations rationally, Getting angry can't solve anything, May be counseling will be good, for the whole family.
2006-08-28 10:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get couseling by a therapist, just be sure that they counsel her on her issues and anger management and not just medicate the problem.
2006-08-28 10:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by trickygirlb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see a therapist or guidance counsler of some kind. It could really help her and help u too so you will feel safer
2006-08-28 10:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by kala_softball16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋