I know the guy really well, he has been in jail for 4 months now, I have visited him twice and think that I would like to maybe pursue a relationship with him. He's in jail for a DUI and possesion. Im a pretty innocent girl and not into drugs at all. I dont know maybe I just like bad boys. Should I date him?
2006-08-28 10:31:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't if I were you. Chances are, he'll probably get back into the same old stuff again, and it'll be a lot harder for you to pull away from him by then. Like right now if he was to try to get you to do this and that, it'd be easy for you to say no and walk away. But once you get closer to him and get more feelings for him, it'll be a lot harder for you to get away, and you'll end up in jail eventually too.
But then again, people can change... But I wouldn't jump right into a relationship right away. Just stay friends for a while, give it time and see how his behavior is. If you see an improvement, then your decision to date him will be a lot easier on you. Make sure you've given it enough time though, don't give him a week or two, but maybe after a few months, and then make your decision.
Hope that helps. =)
2006-08-28 10:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Punky Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUH? What if I asked you this one.
SHOULD I FLUSH MY LIFE DOWN THE DRAIN? SHOULD I BURRY MYSELF ALIVE BEFORE GETTING A CHANCE TO LIVE HAPPINESS?
Think well of the things you do and the decisions you take. Some women are not as strong as they think they are and maybe after seeing him for a while you won't be able to quit and he'll abuse you and abuse you. You don't want to see yourselft working hard for 2 or 3 kids while your husband is in jail or even dead. You deserve much much better than taking a chance. Don't take the chance cause it is your future you decide on today. He could be an ok person just like he can mess up again and again.
2006-08-28 10:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO No No No No, no good will come of it. Unless you want to get hurt and turn into a druggy than I guess yes. But when bad crap happens to you don't cry because you only did it to yourself, you know what this guy is capable of so be prepaired if you end up in jail because he is drunk driving and kills some one, it doesnt matter if you are only a passenger now a days you will be considered an accessory. But if you want to ruin your life go for it
2006-08-28 10:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question answers my question nicely, YES you are NUTS.
You are an innocent girl and not into drugs, how long do you think that will last. You become one of the crowd you hang with. Ask yourself this question, When I was younger and thought about guys did I see myself with a drunk, druggie, jailbird? If that answer is no stay away. If yes go become one.
2006-08-28 10:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... how well do you know him? because DUI, as commonplace as the term is, is pretty dang serious. so I wouldn't, unless it was the whole "he made a mistake" thing and he's never done anything like this before. I'm like you (not into drugs, etc.), so that's why I put my two cents in LOL you sound like a nice person, and I don't like seeing nice people get hurt
2006-08-28 10:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves a second chance. That said, you should wait and see if this guy deserves you. He needs to get a job first thing. If he can prove that he is willing to make an honest life for himself and you really like him then he's datable. Just go slow and watch for warning signs.
2006-08-28 10:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are the one that just told someone on another question that she could do better? So my question is, can't you do better than that? How desperate are you? I can see if it was someone who got our a long time ago and he had turned his life around, but this guy needs to prove himself for a couple of years before he is worthy of a fine princess like you. Seriously.
2006-08-29 10:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by nuclear_science 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are why men complain about women. "Where are all the nice guys?!" while you date an ex-convict. Sure, date him. And after he cheats on you, hits you and so forth, you'll be back on Yahoo answers asking why there are no nice guys out there. And then you'll go out with another scumbag and the cycle will continue. Sigh, it's actually funny at times.
2006-08-28 10:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by eskimo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck No!! I dont care if it's just a DUI.....Dont put your self in dangerious situation. I'm sure your a beautiful girl and you dont need that ....Find your self a good man that can treat you right.
Girl, if you have any since you would RUN!!!!!!
Love your s elf and you'll expect more from your man.
2006-08-28 11:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some people do make mistakes. I would as long as he doesn't make those mistakes again. Plus if he starts getting back into that life style then that could effect you. What if he gets caught again and you are with him? Then you would be going down for his s**t too! Just think about it.
Good Luck
2006-08-28 10:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋