my son is 7 and i found out he took $3 from my partners dresser! what is the best response?

Answer 1

make him return it and apoogise
explain why it isnt right
explain that if he needs something then he must ask you so you can work out a way to save money for it
explain how hard people work for there money and if he really needs some money then work out some jobs he can do to earn it
if this is the first time then dont punish him but tell him he will get punished if he does it again
my boys always hand in money even if they find it on the floor... sometimes i let them keep it sometimes i put it in my purse somethimes we put it in our holiday money box

Answer 2

Dont put him in a situation where he needs to lie. So dont ask did you take it? Tell him you know he took it, and ask why ? if he says he doesnt know then time out until he's got an answer. Most likey he wanted to buy something and dindt have the money. Or maybe he just wanted the attention. I would sit down and talk to him and then have him help you figure out a punshiment that is deserving fo the crime. Maybe do $3 worth of work ( still dont give him the money) or have him write an apology and explain that stealing is wrong, and especially from friends and family. Good LUck this is not easy to deal with

Answer 3

Don't freak out, first of all. Ask him why he took it. Make sure he is honest in his answer. It important to establish why he took it: for something he wanted or because he just wanted to have it? Use this as an opportunity to teach about the moral difficulty posed by the motivation. Do absolutely hold him responsible for his actions. Make sure he returns the money with an apology. And make sure he is punished in an appropriate way. Working off something equivalent to the debt amount would be a good punishment.

It may be best to secretly tell your parents what has happened and to expect this apology and explanation. Tell them that you are dealing with it (because you are the parent) and clear any reparation your parents may want to ask with you first. Take this very seriously but don't go into full panic mode or it may reverse the lesson you are trying to teach which is responsibility for his actions.

Answer 4

First I would talk to your son about why he took the money and make sure he understands that it was stealing - but find out what his motivation was. Then make him take the $3 back to your partner and apologize in person. (you should probably talk to your partner ahead of time so they are onboard with what you are doing and how to respond to your son when he does this).

Depending on your child and what his behavior is normally like- this may be enough to teach him the lesson - or you may want to have him agree to do some kind of work for your partner as a way of making amends.

Answer 5

He is 7 so he will do dumb 7 year old things. Your best bet is to talk to your partner so you're both on the same page and set up the scenario. Make the 7 year old go to your partner (without you in the room to make him feel secure) and confess what he did, take responsibility and return the money-NOT your money...his money with a dollar in interest. If he has spent it already he can work (and I mean chores that he will absolutely hate) to earn that money. Don't panic, present a united front and remain calm. If he has the 3.00 to return, he can work to pay the interest on what he has stolen. He won't want to do it again.

Answer 6

I remember my son was 5 when I got a call from his aunt asking me if he had seen a gold chain on her dresser when he used the restroom at her home earlier that day. At first my son denied it. Then he came up with a bizarre story involving high winds and a possible tornado. I called my sis-in-law back and had my son apologize to her. We gave it back to her the next day and I went to see the school counselor. She told me that my son should be held accountable for what he had done because he was old enough to know right from wrong. That evening I told my son that he would not be able to play videos or watch cartoons. Instead I had him tell me why he did what he did and why he would never do something like that again. He wanted it because it was shiny. He understood by the end of our conversation that what he did was wrong, why it was wrong, and I explained to him about how important trust was and is.

So, in answer to your question, I would hold him accountable and explain to him the virtues of trust.

Answer 7

Well Hez Seven Just Talk To Him Tell Him If He Needs Money Just Ask U Or Daddy Or If He Wants Money Tell Him To Earn It Like Clean His Room/Take Out The Trash/Help Mommy Cook/Vacuum/Clean...
And Every Friday Give Him Like 5 Dollars For Helpin Mommy And Daddy Out And Prolly He'll Stop Stealin For U...

Answer 8

My son took some money from his mum's purse, because he wanted to buy her a present, but didn't have any money. He was about the same age.

Obviously the talk about stealing and personal possesions is important, but maybe now is the time he can start earning some pocket money doing little jobs around the house. Be strict though, if it's not done properly, no pay.

Answer 9

Ask him if he took it, then confront him with the evidence. Explain to him that it is stealing when you take something that doesn't belong to you, and that's wrong. Then make him do jobs around the house to earn back the $3 so he can pay it back, and then make him say he's sorry. That's what my folks did with me when I took a candy bar from the store when I was 6 or 7, and I guarantee I never wanted to do it again!

Answer 10

Tell him it is wrong to steal no matter where or how much. Then in the privacy of his bedroom, pull his pants down and give him three hard swats on his butt. Tell him you are very disappointed in his behavior and that he will know now that it is much easier never to do it again. Explain to him that he can ask for money. Make him pay the money back with extra chores. This is a serious matter. You can not let him get away with stealing by giving him extra good attention. If he needs more attention, follow through with the discipline and then make it a point to give your child more time one on one doing something fun. Do not relate doing something fun from something he did wrong.

Answer 11

All kids make mistakes, that's why they are kids. Tell you son you know he did it. Hopefully he will apologize. It's a good time to talk about stealing. Make it a "teachable moment". Also, see if there was a reason he took money without asking. Maybe he wanted something and was afraid to ask for it. Most likely, he was just being an impulsive kid and saw the money and just took it without much thought.