I am 19 years old and have never had any sexual contact at all.i havent a clue what to do should i find myself in the situation,please help!!!!!
2006-08-28 10:27:56 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just take it easy. but dont expect to have sex on a first date! she will probably be as nervous as you,unless shes a slag, in which case,do her from behind!!!!
2006-08-28 15:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by david_c1980 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do not by any means enter into the date expecting sex. Sex should be something you partake in when the moment is right. Just because you fool around doesn't mean you'll have sex either. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. However, if the person you're on the date with does want to have sex you need to be prepared. Always wear a condom! No matter what, that is the cardinal rule. Take it slow, don't rush it. Don't be ashamed of being a virgin. Unless the person you have sex with is extremely shallow, it shouldn't matter. Pay attention to you partner, be aware of what they enjoy and what they don't enjoy. Make sure they are turned on as much as you are before you try to penetrate. You might even want to use lubricant just to make sure it is comfortable. If you know you're going to have sex, masturbate before your date so you won't ejaculate right after you begin. Don't focus on your pleasure alone, you also want to please your partner. Sex is not the same for everyone. Everyone has a different technique. You may want to put the control in your partner's hands, let them dominate you and teach you. If it starts to feel awkward, it probably isn't right-- don't force it. Enjoy your night and good luck.
2006-08-28 10:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Whitney B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going on a date, it's very unlikely that you'll find yourself in a sexual situation. So don't worry about being a virgin, the person who you are going on a date cannot see that.
Wait until you have a girlfriend to have sex, then you can tell her that you are still a virgin and you can try things out together.. And you'll end up with a nice memory of your first time.
2006-08-28 10:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by eufrosyne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take along a few condoms, try putting them on, carefull following the instructions. If you get too excited, just rememer to think abou the U.K's house prices, and that at 19, you are never going to own your own home- that should quell the excitment- making you last a few seconds longer before you cover the poor girl in your love juice.
remember to poke the right hole, the one at the front. If she makes a farting noise- don't panic! this is normal when being prodded by a geek's numbing affections.
She'll probably know you're a virgin, she'll be telling all her friends about what a loser you are and that she'll claim your cherry.
They'll all being watching you get all excited on a webcam, laughing at you and eating popcorn.
But hey, don;t worry! You'll be JUST FINE.
*lol*
2006-08-28 10:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by TotalBitch 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear Francia, first of all there is nothing wrong with being a 19 yr. old virgin. If you have intercourse with someone it could end up in pregnancy. This is just the first date, producing a baby with someone will tie you to them and the child support agency for at least 18 to life. And to make it worse many people get tied to someone they don't know or do not end up even liking. Not to mention the heart break involved. I always tell my boys about the "steak and shake" date. That means go out for a meal or snack and TALK to your date, have a nice evening in public places, then shake hands when you are saying good night. Please read some good literature on birth control too. You know, there is nothing wrong in telling someone you don't just want to use them for a warm body, you want to get to know someone before you decide to go this far. Respect yourself and others. Find out what kind of food they like and if they have compatible personalities first. And please learn about Sexually transmitted disease and birth control before your first sexual encounter. In the mean time just relax and be yourself and enjoy the conversation. Interested.
2006-08-28 10:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you're going out with a hooker, don't worry about it. If you are, the hooker will do all the work...that's what you pay for ;) Also, wear dark trousers in case of leaks.
Now to be totally serious. It's not that big a deal. Chances are the girl is also a virgin, not expecting sex and/or you to be a porn star, if she is.
Hey, from Dude to Dude, congrats on your virginity. I think it's noble. Keep your seed as long as you can.
2006-08-28 10:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the kindness and interest in what she is currently involved with (school, sports, etc.) A woman will take the lead if she is interested. Read it and abide by it. Try masturbating before going out?? And yes, stay in public places where you can talk privately. Have a great date! Good luck.
2006-08-28 10:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by HoneyBearCub 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and let things happen naturally. Try not to worry about it just enjoy it. One of the best nights of sex I ever had was with a virgin so don't believe all the hype about experience counting, it doesn't. As long as you go with the flow you'll be fine.
2006-08-28 10:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by JenJen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and don't worry.
also try these lines on her:
If I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you take off your pants and dance around a little?
I find the most erotic part of a woman is the boobies.
Taken from Captain Zapp Brannigan. (Futurerama).
Just kidding don't say those lines. Don't feel pressured to do something you don't want to either.
2006-08-28 11:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by doc_jhholliday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, I don't think you should have sex on the first date or the next few for that matter. Unless you are just looking for sex. You need to speak to the male figure in your life. This is not something i would ask a bunch of people with nothing to do. No offense to anyone, but sex is important subject, I mean you get AIDs or something else. You need to get educated on this subject before you do it. It is hard to believe that someone would even ask that seriously on this site.
2006-08-28 10:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by princess_julia_star 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best course of action is to tell the girl right away, then make sure she's aware that if you pay for dinner, she needs to pay you back in sex. Don't worry, if they pretend to be disgusted, it's just an act. Make sure you tell her you've got a pack of condoms in the car, just in case. Women like being reassured.
2006-08-28 10:32:01 · answer #11 · answered by Dan w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋