Ok..basically over the last year or two my sister who is 19 has started hanging out with complete wastes of life..total addicts..etc..My mother has done nothing short of provide a very nice life for her and while my mother does have a bit of an anger management issue, she makes sure you have everything you could need and then some. Lately my sister has been blowing up at everyone she knows basically, she has told my mother that she never was a mother to her and told my father the same, shes made it so bad that my mother is near a breakdown, my father just wont take it anymore, and everyone she comes in contact with eventually cant stand it either. She tells all kinds of people how bad her life has been, how bad my mother abuses her verbally and physically etc. I have even heard she told some people some things about me that made them think I was "creepy". We are seriously beginning to beleive she is really mentally ill, but we dont know what to do. Any suggestions?
2006-08-28 10:27:22 · 12 answers · asked by kaosvarkas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you considered that your sister may be on drugs or drinking alcohol? If her behavior recently started I would have to consider what she is doing with her new friends. She may not admit it. Talk to your mom and dad about the possibility and suggest that they no longer enable her to continue to hurt the family. Be there for emotional support when she needs it but nothing else. Don't help her financially, don't let her live with you, make her get a job and get out on her own. She will either fall and ask for help or continue until she falls and fails. my prayers ar with you.
2006-08-28 10:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister may have a cumulative anger because a lot of things happened to her and she did not have a chance to get it out until it is too late. Blowing up at everyone probably doesn't mean that she is mentally ill. Her feelings were repressed and she knew it'd be wrong to take it out on people. But holding down is also wrong. She is 19 and she is very ready to open herself at the point where most of people at young age tend to do the same. It happened to me before and it took a long time to calm down as years passed.
2006-08-28 16:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your mother has anger management issues, it is no surprise that your sister has them too. Living with someone with these issues is abusive. Sounds to me that your sister is the only one in touch with the fact that her homelife was less than ideal and was in fact abusive. Your sister is trying to find a way to deal with her pain. But it is coming out in unhealthy ways.
Having said that, it sounds like your entire family needs some healing. Try family counseling. Your sister is 19 and can't be forced to go, but may be willing to participate once she realizes that you are all coming out of denial and willing to deal with your family issues.
Good luck
Edit: Several people have suggested that your sister may have a drug problem, if this is the case, it is another way in which she is trying to deal with the pain of her family life. She will not be able to overcome it until the core family issues are dealt with.
2006-08-28 10:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just trying to find herself. Sometimes it takes a while for a person to do this at that age......if she hasnt been this way then i'd say that that is probably it. Or the other thing is that she could be using drugs. Some drugs can cause a person to act this way. I woulld definately try to talk to her and find out for the sake of everyone why she is acting this way......Good Luck!
2006-08-28 10:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, yet in keeping with risk you may seek advice from her approximately it. in keeping with risk she's dealing with some issues and desires to think of approximately them. I easily have OCD and intermittent melancholy and each so often i don't experience like talking the two. If it concerns, you, seek advice from her approximately it and doubtless she'll say what's occurring. I additionally urge you to placed up this interior the psychological well being or Psychology section so which you will get extra knowledgeable solutions and much less trolls. additionally i pick to propose which you Google those warning signs like "social withdrawl" and notice if she fits the define of any melancholy or stress illness. desire this helped, and God bless! Pray!
2016-09-30 02:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's hanging with addicts,then the drugs are causing her neurosis.I can't tell you what to do ,she's nineteen.You can only suggest to her, to get help.Usually they run into trouble with the law.
2006-08-28 10:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get her away from those people. Next you need to get her some professional help. That isn't normal at all normal people tell people good things about there life's and there family's. Normal people don't make up stories about there family to make people hate them.
2006-08-28 10:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she needs to be commited to a rehab hospital. Sounds like her problem, not the family who is trouble.Drugs can do that.
2006-08-28 10:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by cdpaso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big drug habit!
Get her some help.
2006-08-28 10:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by маұа 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she might have a drug habit.
2006-08-28 10:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by A N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋