Okay please dont give me any stupid answers.... well me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 years and are very sexually active but the thing is is that i do want to have sex a lot but when we do i dont climax and i have before many times but the past months i havent what do i do? I have tried many ways but dosent work .......?
2006-08-28 10:22:24 · 15 answers · asked by tootsie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a similar situation with my boyfriend. We have sex a lot and it's good sex. But when you get comfortable doing the same positions to climax, it becomes harder. More foreplay helps. Try taking it slower. Talk to your partner, have him talk to you. It makes a difference. If none of that works, try masturbating in front of him. It sounds uncomfortable, but it will make him crazy knowing he can't give you the pleasure you're giving yourself and you will be much more sensitive when you allow him to enter you. Plus you'll be tighter. I hope that helps you, good luck.
2006-08-28 10:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Whitney B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, did anything happen around the time that you stopped having an orgasm? Has the nature of the relationship changed? Aside from sex - is the love between you & him as strong as it used to be? Are you working a lot -new baby ? - are you tired a lot? Has sex become routine? Maybe you could hold off untill the weekend & then have a special romantic dinner & then be intimate & see what happens. Maybe he needs to do something different, is he taking sex as something granted & not something you have to work at? I know that if the man is sensitive to his womans needs without regard of his own & treats her like the most precious thing in the world then this will bring out the very best in her. good luck ......hope the fireworks return!
2006-08-28 17:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Try this It always works (unless they fake it ...lol)
Get some oil have him ma-sage your shoulders and back for a while. You can do the same to him for a bit.
Get some lube, guide his hand to stimulate your clit. Teach him how you like it, soft, hard, up-down motion, round and round. single finger or whole palm...you know what you like.
Without boring him to death IE after a reasonable amount of time jump on top. This is where he must keep completely still. Legs straight..you do all the work. oh its to complicated to type.. you'll have to do the rest on your own....
2006-08-28 17:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax! you are thinking about it too much. Maybe try getting away for a weekend to some place new. Explore new positions with him. Heck try reaching orgasm by yourself - if that works then you know it's not physical.
But most importantly RELAX
2006-08-28 17:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by trahub66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to stop having sex and masturbating for a week then when you have sex you will finish really fast ans strong.
2006-08-28 17:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may just be thinking about it too much. or stress, or a million other things. just enjoy the sex and company and they should return :)
As long as it's still enjoyable, even if no climax you should be fine
2006-08-28 17:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just step off of having sex. maybe thats why you dont climax cuz your having sex so much. so i would just lay off it it for a month.
2006-08-28 17:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by AdioSurfChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you, and this may be embarrassing, but my sister has this REALLY great book about that. Maybe you should go to the library and get yourself one?
2006-08-28 17:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try more clit stimulation. And it is normal for a women not to every time and some women do not ever.
No worries though, you will get your mo-jo back!
2006-08-28 17:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying different postions helps, have you mentioned this to the boyfriend,maybe he can help you find your "O" again-
2006-08-28 17:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Col 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋