It seems to me that all my friends that have kids change. I know they have responcibilities now and I get that but why do they have to become replicas of their parents or at least lesser versions of themselves?
2006-08-28 10:15:37 · 15 answers · asked by Queen Fromage 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all I am already grown up and this is more of a provoking question than a ' I really believe this" question. Secondly, I am not talking about the respocibility I noted that i get that, what I want to know is why stop being YOU? Weren't YOU a person you thought would be a good parent? My example is Johnny Depp, he is from all accounts a fantastic father, in love with his children but he is still following his dreams and being who he is!
2006-08-28 10:37:52 · update #1
assuming they are "newbie" parents, who else do they have to rely on in terms of parenting? their parents. whenever situations arise that they are unfamiliar with, their first reaction is what would my parents or what did my parents do in this situation? assuming they had good parents then this is why some people turn into carbon copies of their parents, even though they may have said they'll never turn out like their parents.
as for being lesser people, they are just more involved now. they have this little thing that needs all their attention and the things they used to care about before kind of get sidetracked by the baby. it's not that they are lesser versions, generally speaking, it's just that their priorities have changed and most cannot indulge themeselves the way they did previously.
2006-08-28 10:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is necessary and expected that when one has a child that they grow up quickly, if they haven't already, so they can protect a human child that has no protective abilities built in. If they become replicas of lousy parents, the child is in trouble. They do not become lesser versions of themselves if they grow up and take responsibility. That is your view because you are still emotionally and intellectually not at a place of adult responsibility. You will change and become a replica of a good parent and you will look back and wonder how you could have ever been so silly and irresponsible as a single (young) person. If you don't have children you will still grow up emotionally or become a laughing stock. Think Michael Jackson as one example of everything going wrong vis-a-vis mature parenting. Sorry, but that is the way that it is.
2006-08-28 17:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not all the time. but when i think that coming from a parents point of view we have to take care of another little person so ur priorities change.u no longer get to stress about a little pimple on your face you have to worry about a child's needs. my cousin had a baby when she was 17 and left her with her mom and now her mom won't give her back because she abandoned her baby and now her kid is 7 and does not know her mother. so as a parent you have to make choices that make u grow up
2006-08-28 17:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by RocKsTaR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, having a baby changes everything for the mother. (I assume you are talking about a woman.) Even if they try not to let themselves change, they do. A baby changes the woman's perspective on life. The things that were once important, aren't anymore & new things are important. It's hard to explain, but once you've had a child you will understand. Try to be considerate and understanding of their situation and ask them the same for you............
2006-08-28 17:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by neyfamily 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A new factor gets thrown into the equation, so the sum changes. Like they say, "You don't know what it's like, until you have one." You go from doing whatever and whenever you want, to having no free time unless you find a sitter. Then there's soo much more.
2006-08-28 17:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. EVERYONE changes. There is nothing more life-changing than it - not love, marriage, loss, aging, pet ownership or wealth. You will understand when you have a child. Until then, it is hard to describe. Sorry.
2006-08-28 17:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by C C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you have a resposibility you can't go out and party all the time. You have to grow up you are resonsible for another human life
2006-08-28 17:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Queen...you really change when you have a baby..everything changes. Life's priorities change and you just can't be who you once were.
Lesser versions of themselves? Uh..no..GREATER versions of themselves..with a sense of a higher purpose. Your trivial worries are nothing compared to their worries..and you just can't hang with them anymore..they are out of your league.
2006-08-28 17:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by CuteChubbyGirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes everyone changes. you never have loved anyone or thing like your new child and it scares the hell out of you that this person is totally dependant on you. if you don't change there is something wrong going on.
2006-08-28 17:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by rinachick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you NOT change? Heck, I have been to some concerts that changed my outlook on life. You better believe that my daughter's birth has changed my outlook on life!
2006-08-28 17:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by norcalirish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋