I don't want to have a child now... I know I'm not ready for it, I'm far too young for that, but I OFTEN wonder what it would be like to have a baby and be a mother. My question is what age do most women find themselves thinking about these things... like a biological clock type thing.
2006-08-28 10:11:58 · 32 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Thanks for everyone's answers! I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I don't want a child, but I keep finding myself "daydreaming" about the day I do have one, holding it and having that moment. It makes me really happy thinking about it, and it makes me wonder if I am really wanting that or if I am just totally head over heels for my man and can't wait to start our future (I have discussed this with him).
2006-08-28 10:38:14 · update #1
Thanks... again! Also wanted to add that I am extremely driven for a successful future. At 18 I already have a good job as a billing clerk, and I am a certified massage therapist... I can't wait to run my own massage studio, I love everything about being a massage therapist, my career is already set... I'm just waiting for other things (a proposal, a home) before I have a baby. I wish there was a way to experience the joy of parenting for 1 day to decide wether I am ready for it for the rest of my life, but that will never happen... so for now I am definently waiting! I just wonder why it makes me so happy to think of the day that it finally happens. Does this mean that my boyfriend is definently "the one"?
2006-08-28 11:05:54 · update #2
what your thinking about is that you do want to start your future with your boyfriend and starting a family its normal but don't start having kids anytime soon just focus on your education and kids later the best age to have a kid is at 24.
2006-08-28 10:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do believe we have a biologically clock - but the alarm can start ringing way before time is up! LOL. I physically really wanted to have a baby at around age 20-21. I knew I was in no way ready to be a parent at that time. Being a parent and wanting a child are two totally different things. I ended up waiting until I was 32 and I'm glad. I'm a much better parent than I would have been.
2006-08-28 11:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by C C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it all depends on you. I am 19 and have a 4 month old son. My fiance is older than me so we just thought that the time was right. I have always been a lot more mature than my friends, and i alway knew that i wanted children early, but I tell all of my friends to wait as long as possible. you need to make sure you are settled and happy with your life first. being a mother is the greatest thing in the world, but just remember, you are not a mom for a few hours, it is 24/7, for the rest of your life, it is the best thing to see your little one smile for the first time, and stuff like that, but it is also getting up for the 2am feedings, he is the center of your life, teething, crying being fussy for no reason, and always needing you, but i guess to answer your question, it is a great feeling and hard work at the same time, and it all depends on how mature you are to know when you and your partner are ready
2006-08-28 15:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by CEM421 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
25
2006-08-28 10:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by dishwasher67 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is kinda girls question but still wanted to throw-in my 2 cents.
Medically the right age for giving birth to a child is between age 23 and 28 plus minus one year.
Emotionally speaking depends on where you are with your life at that moment and you may want to have a child when you are well settled both career wise and family wise.
Women do start thinking in terms of having kids around 25-26 which is the right time to increase the family size and your body is also in the best shape to handle it.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-28 10:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bramhastra 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have always though about it too, so I think that is completely normal. I didn't actually do it until I was 35. I think a good time is between 27 and 35, but after 35 the biological clock starts ticking in the true sense, meaning that you are running out of time and many more problems with pregnancy can occur after that age.
2006-08-28 10:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Margarita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends on what ya want in life, if you want a career then you are best having children at a later stage in life, but if you would rather have family then a career then whenever you feel you are ready. Most women do intend to have children between the ages 25-40.
2006-08-28 10:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never claimed to be normal, but here's my story: I got pregnant by accident at 24, and more-or-less by accident at 27. I didn't want to NOT keep the babies (and I can't imagine life without them now) BUT I never had a real hormonal-type urge to get pregnant until I was around 32. (I'm almost 36 and I have kept it in check, but I haven't ruled anything out completely.)
2006-08-28 13:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Goddess of Grammar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never even wanted to settle down, nevermind be a mom, until I met my husband.
I think I had a curiosity about what it would be like to be pregnant and have kids since the onset of puberty, but I knew I was too young.
I started going out with my husband when I was seventeen and he was eighteen and we were just having fun learning about each other, but after we had been dating for a couple of years I knew I wanted to marry him and have kids with him. But we still waited until we finished college to start our family.
It just felt right for both of us. I gave birth to our first child when I was 21, our second at 24 and our third at 28.
Just because you have the desire to have a family doesn't mean you shouldn't wait until the time is right.
2006-08-28 10:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well!whenever you feel that you are ready to become a real mother.Enough money & most of all psychologically.So the age is not a matter but also consider the limited period of being pregnant & better results of IQ in children with younger parents!25 is suitable!
2006-08-28 10:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by condy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its different for every woman. For me, I never even thought about a baby until I met my husband, then I felt this huge urge to have a baby because I found the person that was right for baby making with me.
There is no specific time when you 'feel it'. A lot of times, its society that makes you feel like you should be having a baby not your body. Because if it was your body, then after you started your monthly cycles, you should technically 'want' a child.
Its different for every person. Just wait for the right time. And remember, not every person even wants a child.
2006-08-28 10:15:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋