How do I tell my family Im depressed?

Question

Im sad most days and Im thinking it may not be normal. I stay secluded most days and if and when i see anyone i say im ok. Im really struggling to tell anyone because I do not want to burden anyone with my problems. I also worry no one will believe me and dismiss me.

I dont know what I would be asking for anyway... what anyone could possibly do for me....

I just rather not say anything because I dont want to be exposed.... I am very ashamed to be depressed so I keep it to myself

why am I depressed? I think about my failures and regrets and mistakes.. I think about how I could have been so much more in life.. I think about how I feel so wasted and stupid.

also i dont have the means to see a doctor so i would not be able to do that.

I always hope one day I will wake up and I will feel great full of motivation with a desire to live.

Answer 1

Just tell them that you have sad feelings and want someone to support you by listening.

You are on the right track... one of the best ways to recover from depression is to get the support of someone who loves you.

Btw.
Many county (government) health departments have mental health clinics that can give you medicine and doctor appointments on a "sliding fee scale" which means you only pay what you can afford to.

PS. Your past does not determine your future; I sense your future will be better than your past.

Answer 2

The best thing you can do is tell anyone that you need support. Its hard, almost impossible to get through things like that alone because you are thinking too much and in a place where you cant exactly see things clearly. The last thing you should do is be ashamed. Depression is so rampant and not enough people want help. You should be able to be happy and enjoy life because you deserve to. And don't feel like you are burdening anyone, when someone needs love that should never be a burden. Just trust in someone you care about. The biggest step is realizing your unhappy. Now you just need some support to help you through it. You could also get a few books and maybe take a yoga class. Don't worry!!! You WILL be happy again :)

Answer 3

I've been through a similar kind of situation. My depression stemmed more or less from hearing the information that my biological mother was dead and who I thought was my real mom was my grandmother. And then there's my real dad's fam who I live with, who are all crazy. It's like we're living in medieval times where the girls have to do chores and can't do anything while the boys can do whatever the hell they want. I've gotten death threats from my father, and there have been times where I've purely hated him. I had to go to a psychologist. But you know what, I realized that in a year (I'm also 16, turning 17 in 2 months), I won't have to deal with them anymore. The best thing is to just say it. Sit them down and say how you feel. If they don't react/shows signs they care, then you must be strong and find help yourself. Independence. Self-reliance. Do what's in favor of your future. I would have moved out of this house had I not realized that if I could hold on for a year, then maybe I can leave on a good note and not completely sever the relationship. Sometimes you have to sacrifice things to move ahead.

Answer 4

I've found that one of the most effective means of informing the family of an individuals depression is to either 1) sit down with the members that you are most comfortable telling, and inform them of how you've been feeling, or 2) have them come with you to a family therapist and inform them in the comfort of that environment.

I'm not sure what you mean by not having the means to see a doctor. If you mean money-wise, then you can always see a clinical psychology doctoral student for free. They will give you the same treatment as a licensed psychologist, as they are supervised by such psychologists who work with them on your case.

Staying secluded and dwelling isn't the most fun, nor the healthiest manner of dealing with depression. You truely should contact a university that grants doctoral degrees in clinical psychology to attempt to locate a mental health facility where their students work to secure your free treatment. Also, informing a close friend or even a relative like a cousin or uncle/aunt can be helpful for a support system to be created.

The bottom line is that you are not alone, and you have many options available to you which will cost you next to nothing. A life without depression will be most fulfilling for you, and I truely hope that you consider these and other options to obtain a happy, healthy life. Good Luck!

Answer 5

There is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of being depressed . Depression is an illness that we know how to deal
with . I also suffer from this and it comes and goes for me . Right now is not a good time I have had to go on meds. again . However since I started taking them 3 wks. ago I feel more like myself and can now deal with everyday life better . I no longer spend my days either crying all day or sleeping it away. I don't know your situation so it is hard to tell you who to talk to. But you sound like you are getting despite . You need to tell a family member ASAP . This can be a very serious problem . Tell who ever it turns out to be that you are scared , and really need some help. Maybe between you and them you can come up with an answer . I also know how it feels not to have the means to pay for help . There are government run places to go to. Oh I know ,if you go to the emergency room of a hospital they have to get you help. I have done this years ago ! Don't worry about the money right now just go get help sweetie before it gets the better of you !
I also want you to know that you are not alone . I care about you , and hope you get help soon . PLEASE DO IT FOR YOU !

Answer 6

First and formost, talk to someone, because keeping things inside is not healthy for any relationship. Even if you can't talk to your family, try a friend, if you are religious(i don't know) you can even talk to your pastor, and from the way some of the answers are on this question I am sure some if all of them would be willing to talk to you via email, including myself. From some of the things I have seen why you are depressed. All I can say right now is to hang in there, you may percieve things as failures and mistakes but I'm sure there is positives in there as well and that is where you need to focus your attention. We all go through a period in time that we all hope we are in a bad dream and that when we wake up things are going to be better.

Answer 7

Go up to your parents and ask that you would like to see a counselor or psychiarist because you are sad all the time and want to get better. You know you need help and are asking for it. Also tell them that this is just between the three of you and something you really need/want to do. Good luck

Answer 8

Maybe you could just sit them down and say "We need to talk...Tell them everything you have told us." They are your family and I can almost bet they probably already have a good idea. Don't be ashamed... Just look at how many people on this have depression....LOTS!... it's so common now it's like asking people "Have you ever been to McDonalds and ate a cheese burger?" at some point everyone suffers some sort of depression!

Answer 9

Just tell them that you need to talk to them about something really serious and important..

You shouldn't be ashamed to be depressed - it happens to a lot of people. And it's a condition that can be treated.

Answer 10

Im sorry to hear that, but if you came here to ask, you did the first right move.

You should tell your parents, Ifyou can't break the news to them tell them your going to the doc becuse your not feeling wel.. no special reason when your at the doc. tell the doc and allso tel the doc that he needs to tell them. good luck