Why do men lie about their age??

Question

I met a man recently, and i was brought under the impression that he was 6 yrs younger than what he really is! I mean, 40 is far from 34!!! i really liked him, till I found out, and now it feels like i cant trust anything else I've gotten to know about him. i feel deceived!
Guys... why do you lie about your age!

Answer 1

I'm not a guy, but I think it has a lot to do with what one feels is most appealing to those around them. Unfortunately, there are many stereotypes associated with age---a 40 year old is perceived much differently than someone in his 20s or 30s. If you're a younger woman it's very likely that he lied as a means of presenting a 'more attractive' image of himself---one that, in his eyes, was less threatening and more inviting.

I understand your concerns. Lying isn't a very attractive feature. I hope all goes well :).

Answer 2

i don't have an answer. I am wondering the same thing. I am only 24, but i met a guy who told me was 22, and then i found out he had just recently turned 21. it's small, but it isn't cool because it makes you feel manipulated. whether or not it would change things is beside the point. it's a lie and it sucks and makes you not want to trust them anymore. and it's weird because it shouldn't have been a big enough deal to lie about in the first place.

Answer 3

Guess I m the few hundred that don t lie about my age .. The dude must be really young looking for 40 to get away with 34.

Answer 4

I have never lied about my age and any man that does is a disgrace to the male gender. From the only grown man I know who has lied to chicks about his age, the diminished reference is my first hint. I speculate he lies about his age to swim in a pool of potential dates young enough to be his daughter. Four years ago, myself and a mutual acquaintance found this lie he pitches both amusing and a bit sad for him. He does not know I m aware of this. Another trusted friend/co-worker told me he not only did this again with a female guest he brought by, but requested he go along with it if the subject comes up. My colleague responded quickly that he wouldn t lie for him. This fellow lying about his age has graduated to Creep in my book. He is well into his mid-forties, and I m disgusted for the male gender by any male who does this. The only time lying about my age made any stupid sense was when I tried buying booze a few times as an adolescent. To you younger ladies in your twenties who do not start friendships/relationships with a colossal infantile lie like this - drop these guys the moment you find out you were lied to. He is so full of himself/and/or so immature that he does not deserve an honest woman, or even and honest younger chick . The use of this term from any male over forty is a slam-dunk indicator this person deserves no one s trust. On the other hand, if you lie about simple things like your age, then you deserve each other so neither can, for the meanwhile, infect honest daters with total turn-off BS. What I also despise is that by this guy trying pull his male colleagues into his spring-break-first-beer idiocy, he is so narcissistic that it doesn t occur that the males that lie for him, as well as the organization we all work for, will risk an extremely embarrassing image of themselves and stain the industry in which we are employed. To top it off, I have a grown daughter a few years his junior who could eat 10 of these guys alive. Ladies, I don t care how desperate you might be - continuing on with any male you after you confirm his first lie - especially age - indicates your self-esteem is even lower than this fellow - and find yourself a good therapist to enter a loving relationship with your self so you can trash these man-children for a real man. To wrap the why , my best guess is severe insecurity, double-standard hypocrisy, fear of every woman who is emotionally mature, and just plain dishonest. Dishonesty might be pitched as a social norm, but real people have nothing at all to lose by holding out for authenticity.

Answer 5

I would never lie about my age. Heck lying to someone just to start a relationship is a really bad start to a relationship. You definitely shouldn't ever trust a man like that.

Answer 6

Its probably going to be difficult to trust this guy in the future, but it doesnt mean that he is a bad person. Its quite possible that he liked you enough to be insecure about how old he was.

Talk to him about it. Decide if you want to give him another chance. Maybe he lies about everything, but maybe he just made a mistake by lying to you that once.
Good luck!

Answer 7

if he is 40 and you feel that there is an age gap between you and him too big for you to accept, then why bother...
staring of a relationship with a lie is never a good start anyway.

Answer 8

Because some women immediately turn their noses up when we say, "I'm 40." before they've even gotten to know us. Some of them have this bias against anyone who is 40 or older, just based on the number itself.

Answer 9

Impression is the key word. Did he lie? What do you want? I mean when he is 140 and you are 134 will it make a differnce? If he has faults, blame them on him but age has nothing to do wih it

Answer 10

I've never had that happen to me. I dont see why a man would lie. It doesn't matter to me 40 is not that old.