This is means so much to me, i would really aprreciate an honest answer, thanks?

Question

i like this girl, but she was giving me some confusing signals, so i emailed her this ( read details)?
can we please talk??
I've got to tell you something, because, well, i just got to know.
I really like you, alot. And it seemed like you used to like me. But now, it just seems like you are really really trying to avoid me. I mean, i know youve been busy and all with swimmin, but like since carrowinds, we havent talked, barely any , at all. It seems like you just dont care about me. I mean, i feel so confused, because, for some reason, you just stopped talking to me. Why? I mean, are you trying to get me to take the hint? Or what? I mean i really dont know what to think. Tell me anything, tell me that you hate me, just please please be honest. Remember that thing at carrowinds, guys cant stand when girls beat around the bush? Well, if you dont like me, please just tell me straight up. My feelings wont be hurt. And if you do, but just arent sure, just tell me. I wanna be there for you, I want you to be able to trust me, and be able to talk to me, about anything

Additional Details

3 hours ago
i emailed this last night, and i dont think shes had a chance to check her mail yet, was this a bad thing to do? what will she think?

3 hours ago
I mean its not like a one time thing, the situation is she totally used to like me, well she has really backed off, over the past few months, and i have no clue why, wellim 15, and shes 13, and i talked with her mom, cause they are really close. and she said i need to talk to her, to find out what goin on. its not like she didnt talk to me one time and i freakd out, it like weve talked a total of 2 sentences to each other over the past month.

and i am not obsessing..me and her really had a connection..and i think she just got scared..will this make things worse? i feel so bad..cause i really dont wanna lose her

Answer 1

You've done what's necessary for the moment (writing to her), give her time to digest what you wrote.

In the meantime, try not to think about it so you can stop tormenting yourself. Plan your next move, regardless of the outcome of her reply.

Give it time. Be cool.

Answer 2

Honestly, you seem a bit clingy. This is the first thing that I would get from this. The email idea rather than talking in person should only be used when she will NEVER EVER EVER talk to her in person. Sending an email signals to her that you may be afraid to approach her and talk. Confidence is key to catching a girl. You must be confident and talk to her in person.

Secondly, you just put forward ALL of your feelings on the table. Dating is like poker. Do you lay your hand on the table, or do you bluff to win? To win a girl's heart, bluffing is often required. Girls play this game of feelings that go back and forth. They test us, and we must meet their "standards". You are no longer holding your cards. Instead, you laid them bare before her. Now, she holds all of the power over you. She has never shown you one way or the other, but I get the feeling that she is not interested.

This brings me to the third part. I doubt she likes you man, and your acting clingy will chase her farther and farther away. If she is a decent girl, she will send a response saying she is or is not interested. If she does not respond, FORGET HER!!! She will never talk to you again if you don't back off a bit. If she sends a response, I tend toward the response saying she is not interested, but if you get lucky and she is interested, you must learn to attract her. If she says she is somewhat interested, you are close to the doghouse, so you are going to have to work EXTRA HARD to win her affections. You cannot win her affections by becoming a leech. You must do it by flirting with her and driving the tension up between you. Flirt and then leave because you "have something better to do". After a while, she make take notice and the attraction will rise.

This should cover all the scenarios, but I am 99% sure she does not like you. I hope for your sake I am wrong!

Answer 3

You're obsessing. You are very young and chances are you will meet more girls in the future. Situations like these are going to happen for whatever reason, why we may never know but the key thing to remember is that it's not the end of the world. Life, as you will find out will have many twists and turns, ups and downs but the important thing is that we learn from our experiences and move on. Don't let things like this bother you so much, if it was meant to be, it would have. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

You're 15 and she's 13? Dude, you both are way too young for the type of relationship you are looking for. At 15 & 13 you have enough trouble figuring out who you really are let alone to wonder what she's thinking, what he's feeling etc... I was not allowed to date until I was 16 and then I wasn't going to date a 13 year old. There's plenty of time for developing a relationship as you get older. My advice to you and this girl is: concentrate on your studies and get a good education and the other will come in time and it will be much sweeter, I promise. Above all dude, respect your and your significant other's virtue no matter what. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 5

Well you guys are young and have a Lot of hormones. You too will be into each other one min then someone else the next ..... don't be upset but i think that she might just want to be friends and remember you too are young and you will date lots of people and you mostlikly will not find the person you should Be with until later on in life.... it could be her but you to haven't experience dating other people yet so you wouldn't know.
i know it feels like you need her and cant live with out her but after awhile the pain will just fade away or maybe she is really just busy then you too will get together once she has time
i hope i have helped you out a bit.
bye

Answer 6

I know you're pretty anxious to hear back from her. After all, you basically put your heart on the line and now you have to wait it out to get a response.
You might be right about her being scared...or she may have feelings for someone else and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I understand when you say you just want to know, either way...after all, if there's no chance with her, then you can move on and maybe find the right one for you. On the other hand, maybe she is just really busy or confused and needs time to think it all through.
I wish you the best...and remember, things DO happen for a reason, so if she's not interested, don't be too sad...there's someone else out there for you.

Answer 7

Cool out, you have not given her a chance to answer your email, And stop crowding her, You may have done the wrong thing by talking to her Mom, that may be the reason why you have not heard from, stop being so pushy. The next time you email, don't say so much, just how are you today? Or I hope this will be a great day for you today.

Answer 8

no that wasn't a bad thing to do at all. you let her knew how you felt and now its up to her to decide if she is ready to be in a serious relationship with you. just back off a little bit. don't make her feel like you is pressuring her into anything. give her time to think about what you said in your email and in a couple of days give her a call ask her if she thought about what you said and let things go from there. but right now she is playing a game of hard to get. keep your cool and don't seem so ready to get her. just act like your normal self and have the same conversations that you two been having.

Answer 9

OMG- you are SO obsessing over this or you wouldn't have added details 3 times before anyone could answer your question.
your letter may have been valid in your head, but the girl is going to see you as needy, and that's a turn off to girls. Guys don't seem to mind it as much in women, but girls hate it in guys.
If she's ignoring you then the best thing you could have done is ignored her. The more you show you care, the less she will...
it's just how it works with girls under the age of 24. They want to chase the guy. Not have him there, ready and waiting for her.

Answer 10

I think it's good that you're able to share your feelings. So, whether it turns out well or turns out to be a bad thing, I think it's a positive move on your part, not to mention quite mature. You have the ability to cut to the point, and demanding an honest response from somebody is never a crime.

I hope it works out well for you, but don't despair if it doesn't. In time, people will be attracted to your obvious no-nonsense approach to life and your willingness to share your feelings.

Answer 11

At age 15 and 13, anything can happen on a spur of the moment.

Most 13 year old girls are just understanding what boys are and they need time. Be patient. Enjoy the time while she takes the time to understand for herself. They need this.