Is this normal 2yr old boy behavior?

Question

My son has a thing for womens breasts! He always wants to touch and grab mine and he tells me I have nice bo-bo's (thats what he calls them). They other day we were sitting on the couch while I was feeding his 2 month old sister.......and I bottle feed her.......I never breast fed her.......he started squeezing my breasts and he was all giggily about it and saying "Mommy your bo-bo's" I feel weird cause why is my son grabbing up on me and I have no clue why.........its just weird and embarassing.......he did it to my mom too and it front of people he wants to touch them........we were even in church talking to the pastor about baptizing our baby and out of the blue he just comes up to me and tried to grab me.....I WAS SO EMBARASSED but I think I stopped him in time before the pastor realized what he was trying to do! What do I do? Or am I doing something wrong?

well i didn't name them for him...as i give him a bath i tell him what his body parts are and he asked what his were and i told him that they were boobies........well he was barely 1 but he remembers......he even tells his dad that he has bo-bo's....it helped him learn.......he just turned 2 and he knows eye brows, armpits, today he learned forehead......he knows his knee's , toes, feet..........you get the picture.......

and it is not an everyday thing.......he'll just do it out of the blue one day......i was starting to think that maybe he see's his dad kissing me and his dad likes to touch them too! I tell him he can't be all touchy feely with me when the kids are around......even if you think they are not looking they are.......but i will talk to him about it.......hopefully he will stop soon.......

Answer 1

My daughter is also two, and fascinated with my breasts. Every time I am changing clothes or getting into the shower she wants to feel mommy's "boops" (her word for it). This is perfectly normal behavior. I have taught two-year-olds for 14 years now, and it never fails that children will come up and put their hands on my chest, pull out my shirt front, or just stick their hand right down. You just take their hand out, and say, "Hands to yourself, please", and laugh to yourself. This phase passes... right now they are very interested in bodies because this is the stage where they are realizing that boys and girls are different. They are beginning to classify people as according to their gender, so it is only natural curiosity that fuels them to inspect everyone. You'll also find this is the stage where the most "playing doctor" occurs, so don't be surprised if your son and a little female friend do some "investigation" one day. Always talk about body parts (all of them) in a very matter-of-fact way, using the correct terms, so that your child sees that there is not a need to be embarrassed about his body. If you keep the conversation mild and toned down, he will follow suit. It's just another part of growing up- and he's got a lot more discoveries to come!

Answer 2

It is normal behavior for some kids especially boys - they are different from what they have and they are interested. My son was around 2 when he first started showing interest in my anatomy. I do think it is VERY important to teach your child the proper names for body parts and explain the differences between boys and girls - even at 2. He is now starting to realize there are differences in boys and girls and you should explain those differences - he needs to know that those are part of your private body parts and that it is not appropriate for him to grab at them. When it comes down to it he just needs some boundaries, because they are your breasts it makes it embarrassing but really if he kept running up to you and grabbing your nose or ears you probably get irritated and tell him to stop that it isn't okay behavior, treat this other behavior the same way.

I have found that in teaching my son the proper names and teaching about privacy that he talks about those body parts far less than other children his age (age 3) whose parents try to ignore the topic and or teach their kids cutesy names. Good luck! This too shall pass and soon you will have a new and fun behavior to conquer :)!

Answer 3

This is COMPLETELY normal behavior. He's at the age when he is starting to realize that certain body parts are kept under cover and he's getting a rise out of you with his behavior. It the same thing as a child learning that the word "poop" will get a reaction out of people, so he will keep saying it for the attention. I actually read about this in Parents magazine recently. They said that the best thing to do is to not make too much of a fuss and say something like, " Don't touch..those are mommy's." He'll eventually get bored of it, if he's not getting a reaction anymore.

Answer 4

My four year old son started doing the same thing when he was almost 3. It's no big deal. He is just getting to know his body and sees that you have breasts that are more noticeable. Don't be embarassed. It's natural. Women and especially mothers have seen this for years. You have done nothing wrong. Your pastor has probably seen things you can't imagine, trust me, he knows what boobs are, don't worry about it. He will outgrow it, or he'll just be a boob man. Best of luck. Congrats on the baby girl!!

Answer 5

Nah - it's perfectly normal, my daughter did it too.
I'd advise you not to make a big thing of it, or he'll know he gets attention that way and do it more. If he's curious let him have a little feel when you're at home, but explain that it's not the kind of thing people do in public.
If he's seen other women breastfeeding, or if you breastfed him, maybe he's a little confused about seeing you bottle feeding, and is wondering why some people breast feed and some people bottle feed babies, so you could do a bit of explaining.
Anyway, don't worry about it - he's a normal little boy!

Answer 6

It's not weird - he's getting attention from the reaction. You need to be a mom and explain that some things are private and not all touching is allowed. It's never too soon to start to teach about "bad touching" - there are so many pedophiles out there. He should learn that touching private parts are only allowed for mommies and daddies during bath time (and diapers if he's still in those).

Answer 7

Hi - If he has seen his Dad do this then he may see it as normal behaviour. You may need to ask hubby not to in front of the little one:-)
Because kids will copy their parents and other adults. So it there is something you dont want them to do - dont let them see it!
Probably best not to make to big a drama out of it though as this may prompt him to keep doing it. Just next time he does, stop him by taking his arm and saying very firmly - NO.
Then go onto to do something else.

Answer 8

Be sure to explain the boundries we all have. He is not too little to understand this. Does he see anyone else talking about or acting like this at your household? My son went through something like this before too, set the boundries and let him know that it is inappropriate to touch or talk in that manner. Should correct itself in 4 days with the constant reminders...hopefully.

Answer 9

my 2 year old is obsessed with boobs too- all kids think rude things are funny- when they start to learn the names of body parts they get a different reaction from you when they point at an arm to when they point at a boob. don't worry. don't make it a big issue and he will stop
your pastor probably would not bat an eyelid especially if he has kids
all my friends' kids are obsessed with boobs too

Answer 10

Every time move his hand and say no that is inappropriate. Don't make a big deal about it. Watch the movie, " Meet The Faulkers" with Ben Stiller, Robert DeNiro, and Dustin Hoffman you will love it.