Giving birth scares me so much...?

Question

I dont know what Im in for. Im 32 weeks along with my first child. Just thinking about giving birth scares me, knowing that I will have a baby going threw a small hole. Anything I can look forward to? Anything?

Answer 1

It's ok. You have a right to be scared but you really shouldn't be. Our bodies are made to handle this. Our brains are trying to rationalize a biological function and that's what feeds our fears. Just try to think about the end result and the baby you'll be holding before you know it.

Answer 2

I can understand why you will have fear about giving birth. It is something somewhat scary to bring a new life into this world but remember that it is also very natural. You have been getting ready for this wonderful event for 9 months and your body will pretty much take care of things. The first thing you must know is that the baby tells you when he or she is coming. Your body will start having pains which are called contractions and they will start coming closer together and a bit stronger each time. The water where the baby stays sometimes breaks and sometimes the Dr will have to break it. It feels like you are peeing on yourself but remember all of this is totally natural. When the contractions starts, you will start to dialate, which means slowly your vaginal opening will start to loosen up to allow the baby to come out. Remember, the wall of your vagina has muscles that contract and these muscles do not stay small, they stretch to make room for the baby to come out. The Dr will tell you when to push so the baby can slide out. The Dr. will also make a small cut if needed to help the baby come out. It might required a few stitches. Nothing major. Sometimes you might have to have an operation called a C-section if the baby cannot come out through the canal. The most important thing to remember is that although it might hurt and for the most part it can be uncomfortable for a bit, at the end of this process, you will be able to hold the most wonderful miracle in your hands. The miracle of life. Your own little baby boy or girl.

Answer 3

Every woman has some dread about child birth. You will be fine. You probably have experienced Braxton Hicks. They are a hint (and just a hint) at what you will feel like as you begin labor. As a new mother, that's as close to what you can relate to it at this point. You will feel a tightening that starts at the top of your abdomen and moves down. It's like a wave that builds and then fades. That small hole will become larger to accommodate your baby. Yes it is painful but you will have options for medications that are very safe for you and your child. Concentrate on the work that needs to be done and not on the pain. Take a pro-active attitude, it helps. First time child birth is frightening mostly because it is a new and unknown experience. Your body will do what is necessary for you to have that child. Don't be afraid and if you need help with the pain, take it.

Answer 4

I had my first child 20 months ago and I was completely terrified of labor and delivery. So terrified, in fact, that it put a damper on my entire pregnancy. I was a few days past my due date, but when I finally did go into labor, I was more excited than anything else. Educate yourself so you know what to expect. If you have a plan in your head about how it will go, don't set it in stone because you really need to wait until you 're in the situation. Anything can happen. I've known people who planned on getting an epidural, but missed the window(Don't worry, this is rare). I also know women who swore off the drugs, but ended up getting them later. I ended up having an emergency C-section after 23 hours of labor. Bring lots of comforts of home along with you, (for example, I bought a CD player and it really helped) along with something to focus on(I brought a picture of my dog) make sure you have someone there to support you, whether it's a hubby, BF, sister, Mom, doula, whatever. Breathing really helps, so make sure you take classes. Keep in mind that at a certain point in the delivery, your body will take over. I couldn't wrap my head around that idea when people suggested it, but it is true. Ask a lot of questions if you have any concerns at the hospital; be an advocate for yourself. It is truly an amazing experience, kind of a rite of passage. You will get through it...just keep your eyes on the prize. If it were that bad, everyone would be an only child! Good Luck to you!

Answer 5

Okay well the baby will not be going threw a small hole, it actually opens up to accommodate your baby it's called "dilating". If you are that scared then I highly recommend any kind of pain medication early on. I've had a c-section on the first but went all the way to 9cm before they decided to do a emergency C due to the umbilical cord (it was around the baby's neck), then I had an episiotomy on the second, he was kind of big, had demerol for him but it made me really sick, didn't like the meds. and made labor go on for 48 hours because i also was scared. Then by third baby i was so tired that when I went in i delivered in 2hrs with no meds, same for baby no. 4, no meds and very quick delivery. It really depends on your state of mind, the calmer you are and the more you concentrate on just getting the baby out the quicker you'll allow your body to dilate and deliver. Just be calm and stop watching all the ugly delivery movies that are scaring you. You'll be fine if you stay calm, of course you'll feel pain but the quicker you deal with it and ACCEPT it then the quicker you will be done, TRUST ME!! Mother of 4 deliveries kids are now 12,10, 6, and 19 months :) Good Luck,

Answer 6

I was in the room when my wife gave birth 22 years ago. There was lots of screaming involved.

I was also in the room when my daughter-in-law gave birth about a year ago. She was in some pain but was carrying on a conversation with some occasional wincing. Then they did something to her and she actually dozed off about 10 minutes before the baby was born.

I'm not saying it's going to be easy but I do know one thing, worrying about it and getting yourself all worked up is not helping anyone. Just concentrate on the fact that you are bringing a new life into the world and nothing worth doing is ever easy. Besides, it's gonna happen so you might as well chill out instead of worrying.

Answer 7

Honey, its all scary till ur right in the middle of it. You're best bet is to take the lamaze classes, those breathing exercises really do help!

Find a favorite something to focus on while in labor, this helps you not focus on the pain but on the breathing. A coach is a HUGE help too to keep u on track.

Walking is a big help as well, keeps the lower half of your body strong.

When the time comes to start pushing, tell them to help u sit upright, this way u have gravity working with you not against you, birth is wayyyyyyyyy easier this way. I did it like that w/ both mine.

Do u plan on nursing? You really should as its best for the baby and creates a bond between you that is undescribable.

Answer 8

Have you taken a childbirth class yet? It may be a little late to start one, but maybe you can find an "crash course" that is just one or two classes.

Read "Birthing From Within" by England. It's very good for dealing with birth-related fears.

Consider hiring a doula to help you through the birth.

Read some good birth books -
The Birth Book by Dr. Sears
The Birth Partner by Simkin
Husband Coached Childbirth by Dr. Bradley

Answer 9

Get an epidural. Also, it's not so bad. Just think of it as something that has to be done and treat it like a job. Chances are, you won't be in active labor for no more than 9 hours or so. That's only a small fraction of your day. And my mom always said, "It hurts, but you get a prize at the end." And it's amazing how quickly you forget the pain. If you remembered the pain, there'd be a lot more single children out there! Good luck. You'll do fine. Millions of women do it all the time. :)

Answer 10

every woman is different. did your mother have complications when she gave birth to you and your siblings? ask her. ask friends who have experienced child birth. Some women have a very hard labor, others breeze right through it. I'm going on 27 weeks this week, and it still has not set in. I know that I am going to be passing a baby through a small hole, too...but I can't seem to put it aside that it won't be such a bad experiecne... ,maybe because my mom had no complications while giving birth to me or my sister. but again, just 'cause your mom didn't have complications doesn't mean you won't. Like I said, EVERY woman is different!

you'll be great...don't be scared!