Ok.... I just found out today that my 12 yr old friend got raped she didn't tell any1 but me and another friend and she got raped about 10 moths ago. She didnt tell her mom or any 1 else exept us. I told her 2 tell some1 and she said it was 2 long ago . What do I do?
2006-08-28 09:32:28 · 26 answers · asked by www.fantasygrrl 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Tell.
2006-08-28 09:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's never too late to report being raped. Even YEARS after the fact... and creeps are still convicted. If the concern is that it was someone she knew or a family member, it's still JUST as wrong and needs to be reported.
This is a lifelong burden for her... and if she doesn't deal with it inside and outside, with the support of her family, physician and a good therapist, she will only be in more emotional pain as an adult for hiding it.
Also, she needs to be checked for sexually transmitted diseases. Some can be transmitted and not even show symptoms right away but she could later pass the disease on to a partner or a baby or it could affect her fertility or overall health for years.
In a word... tell. Tell your mom. Tell a guidance counselor. Tell the police. Tell her that you are telling or that you told. She might get really mad at first... but you need to do the right thing for her. She's not able to choose the right thing for herself right now because of the pain of the experience.
Tell.
2006-08-28 16:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing as a kid and I didn't tell anyone until it was too late. he had done it to someone else. Now as an adult with children of my own, I would hate to think that one of my kids would keep something like this to themselves. People that do those kinds of things will make threats but they cant follow through on those threats from a jail cell. People like that are very weak and need help also.
I think that your friend should at least tell her mom.
This person can hurt someone else.
I also think that your a great friend! I am sure that your friend feels good being able to tell someone and have someone to talk to about it.
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2006-08-28 16:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never too long ago to tell someone. Granted, they will have less of a chance to catch the person responsible, but there is always that chance.
First you need to sit her down and talk to her about it, and have her confront her parents. Let her do it, otherwise you may break her trust and she may never confide in you again.
From there, her parents should take care of it. They should call the police, who will ask your friend if she knew what the person looked like, and to describe his details (Facial and body-Height/weight) to her best memory. After that, they may ask her other needed questions, and she may have to go to the hospital to be checked out for injuries cause by the actions..
I am very sorry to hear about your friend, and I hope that the....Well, I hope he gets caught.
2006-08-28 16:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Twitch 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious indeed. You should really talk to her about telling someone. Explain that you are concerned about long term affect this could have. You are probably also concerned about losing her friendship if you tell someone yourself but I think you should because like I said, it might not affect her right now (which I'm sure it is) but it will definately affect her in her years to come...
2006-08-28 16:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must go to a trusting adult be it her mom, or your mom, a teacher, school counselor, find someone its not to late. The person who violated her can't be stopped if she doesn't speak up.
Tell her you will be with her when she confides in that adult, she needs your help. Be a good friend and help her. I know its scary,but its the right thing to do, even if she doesn't want that person to get in trouble; what that person did was soooooo wrong!
2006-08-28 16:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lady X 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that she has nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to be scared of. This is not her fault. And that it's not too late! Tell her that by reporting this person she may be saving another girl from going through what she has went through. Offer your support, be there for her.
http://www.rapecrisis.com/
http://www.rainn.org/
It's so good to see that you are so concerned, a lot of ppl are so busy with their own lives they just don't care about anyone else. You are a good friend. :)
2006-08-28 16:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by ~♥Sasha♥~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its never too late. Remind her that the rapist maybe victimizing other innocent little girls and boys. It should be reported immediately. There is nothing to be ashamed about, she is not the only one. Tell her to go to group therapy. It will be very helpful especially if she gets involved in a future relationship.
2006-08-28 16:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by yumyumlulu 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is never too late. Be there for her and encourage to take a stand and be ready to hold her up to smack the bastard down. She will need help, and don't be too pushy or you'll lose her but if she doesn't act then he is going to do this again.
2006-08-28 16:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your mom or your counselor at school and seek advice from a professional or an adult. Your friend needs help and you are in a position to help her the best that you can.
2006-08-28 16:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by mandm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom or Caregiver. NOW! If they do nothing, tell her parents or caregiver ( unless, well, you know) if that's a no go tell a teacher, a councilor at school.. Just keep telling until something is done!
2006-08-28 16:42:04 · answer #11 · answered by Sulkahlee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋