Is it possible to be accepted for who I am ? Really?

Question

Okay, Let’s say I have been on a few dates- because I have... I never mislead anyone by saying I am an atheist and that I am just waiting for the right man to come along and convert me, cause it’s not gonna happen!
I am very open and up front about who I am, in fact I think I am pretty okay.
So why would someone be attracted to the person that I am and then want to change/convert me?
On a grander scale why would God (if he is the big Kahuna) create me in his likeness, give me an inquisitive, doubting nature than punish me for it?
Hardly seems fair…

You know after reading the answers I probably sound a bit like a ninny for even asking, I guess my basic point was if you like me because of who and what I am and then I change to suit, am I still the person you want? Well, not you individually- but the all encompassing you. Still sound a bit needy but maybe you can see where I am going…

Answer 1

Absolutely!!!

I'm already married but if I wasn't I'd date 'ya in a second...

Answer 2

I agree entirely. Why should it be that there is only one right answer? Why are people so dogmatic? There are many answers and none of them are exactly correct. I have a reverence for life but I am not religious. Religion doesn't have a monopoly on goodness. Clarence Darrow was an agnostic yet he was a kind man and a great man.

There are many more important things in life than whether you believe in God. Like whether you are kind, generous and help people. Whether you have a good ethical code. I have friends who are both religious and non-religious. I don't try to convert anyone to my beliefs ... or lack of them ... because that is a personal thing which is at the essence of us all. I think that it is possible to be truly accepted for who you are .. really. And I hope that you find someone who does just that. If we were all of the same beliefs life would be real boring.

Answer 3

Only the Holy Spirit can "convert" you. Christians can only tell you about God. The old adage, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. You sound like a lovely person. Change (if for the better) is not a bad thing. It seems like maybe God keeps sending people into your life to share the Good News w/ you. Yet, you keep shooting Him down.
We are made in God's image so we are eternal beings. Is it your inquisitive/ doubting nature that's keeping you from Him? Is there anything in your life maybe keeping you from Him like a particular sin? Have you prayed to God (if He is the big Kahuna) to show you the truth? You are the one rejecting Him. He loves you. He loves you so much tht He died on the cross so tht you can have eternal life with Him. What more can He do? I think God is trying to get your attention by sending you friends tht actually care about you.
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Answer 4

Anyone who wants to change you is doing it for their own ego and does not have your best interests at heart. They care more about appearance than the actual raw person in front of them. Yes it is possible to be accepted for whom you are but you have to weed out those that won't. You are worth more as a person than compromising your principles.

If there is a God, how do you know that it isn't ok to be inquisitive and to think for yourself. After all if you read the bible didn't Eve have enough inquisitiveness to do something she was told not to; and if God is what it is said he is then he would have known she was going to do that. So don't ever feel punished, curiosity is a good thing.

Answer 5

Goodness..where did you hear that God gave you an inquisitive,doubting nature. God only gave you freewill or should i say everyone freewill meaning to do the right thing or the wrong thing.
I don't know why you said you can not be converted,you would be surprised,but don't be angry at some of your partners for wanting to convert you,they are only doing what the word of God said and in their eyes showing how much they love you so much and are serious about the relationship

Answer 6

why are people attracted to you and then want to convert you? maybe because either they can see what makes you beautiful but can't phathom that beauty in a person can exist without believing in god, or they like you but they need to be with someone who shares the same beliefs as they do in order to forsee a future with that person, or maybe...if you are telling people up front that you area an atheist, you could be posing a challenge and men are attracted to challenges. these are just guesses. you may try asking them directly your question next time it happens.

i don't think there is any kahuna out there punishing you. there are plenty of hot men that aren't the converting type. maybe you just need to get out into the world a bit more and diversify your range. i'm pretty unusual to the masses myself, and i have been able to find someone who is attractive, suits my ideals, and accepts me for the free thinker that i am. so, i'm proof it is possible. you may just need to believe that it is possible for yourself instead of holding onto a doom of never finding a partner who won't be able to love you unconditionally.

Answer 7

Why would someone want to change you
Well If you are going out with a Christian then with you being an Atheist the term for that is called "Unequally Yoked" so if the Christan really likes you then he wants you to change or if you really liked him in the end you would want him to change to your side of view.(I'm trying here) Although you say you may not want to change him in lets say 20yrs of being together with all the discussions on Religion you would or he would try to force their side of view.

God created us all with an inquisitive mind and a Free Will of Choice. As far as punishing you if you have kids and they do bad do you not punish them or let them go and keep doing bad.....
Life itself is not Fair and never will be..........Man is to busy fighting for Authority because He cannot stand for any one over him including God.

Answer 8

Part of it might be an honest wish to save you from whatever fate they may see awaiting you, but more than likely it is a vanity that sees themselves as something of a savior figure who can rescue you from your own devices. The first option, though naive, is understandable. The second is less so, though probably more common. There is also a sexist nature to many relationships, in that the man likes to dominate and make the relationship more to his liking, and weak partners have a way of losing themselves to become what ever piece of sculpture that the dominant partner sculpts them into...

The best kind of relationships (warning - this is akin to a leper giving a health symposium) are when two strong independent types play off each other's strengths, shore up each other's weaknesses and respect each other and build upon those strengths. Their independence repels controlling bullcrap, and keeps the whole relationship more on an even keel. Though choosey (discerning is a better word) people may find it difficult to find that "perfect" match, but they also avoid the pitfalls of crappy relationships by not pursuing ones that show obvious early signs of trouble. By being strong and true to who you are, you can give signals to those looking for the shy, retiring wallflowers to continue their searches elsewhere, as well...

In Christianity, I am sure that you would receive a response that God has given you free will to be who you are and to determine your path. There is the concept that there is more rejoicing in heaven over the conversion of one who does not believe, than over a bunch of those who believe staying on course. Also, God gives a number of opportunities in one's life to assess their current and future status, and evaluate where they are headed. These opportunities may or may not be viewed as punishment, or simply forks in the road that may be taken or rejected as one sees fit. The ultimate "punishment," of course, would be hell, which is eternal, but on the bright side, you don't need a day planner to figure out what you'll be doing. See "Far Side" cartoons for all the various opportunities awaiting you in Hell...

Your inquisitive, doubting nature has tremendous potential. Life is a journey, and we all go in different directions, but ultimately - no one gets out alive. We have ourselves to consult for our ultimate fate, though many of us defer to God for directions and consultations along the way. In the end, we will all find out, won't we?

Answer 9

It sounds to me like you still sort of believe in God. Only once you shed all fear and belief in him will you come to love yourself. You will actually start to look down on those that doubt your beliefs. Religious people are taught by the bible to preach and try to convert people so they are only doing what they are told to do. Being an skeptic makes you better than them because you are not blind and willing to accept any cocmainian story that anyone hands you. The God of the bible doesn't exist, man created him and it is a simple as that.

Answer 10

That's what we do, try to help save souls before it's too late.. Be happy someone loves so much about you, without even knowing you.

I accept you and accept that you don't want to change, I would encourage otherwise and to find God.

People can't change other people... we have free-will to do what we want (a gift and a curse for some people). Do you feel punished?

If it bothers you that people want to see you go to Heaven, then stay away from them... if that's your wish.

Answer 11

We can differentiate between accepting a person vs. accepting their beliefs. for example, I accept you (you seem like a nice person), but disagree with many of your beliefs.

Also, I don't think G-d creates "doubting natures" -- though he did create people with the ability to reason and to think. What we do with that is our own decision.
moving along, I believe that we're here as a test to see if we choose to do the right things. we're never punished for things beyond our control.

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