This is means so much to me, i would really aprreciate an honest answer, thanks?

Question

i like this girl, but she was giving me some confusing signals, so i emailed her this ( read details)?
can we please talk??
I've got to tell you something, because, well, i just got to know.
I really like you, alot. And it seemed like you used to like me. But now, it just seems like you are really really trying to avoid me. I mean, i know youve been busy and all with swimmin, but like since carrowinds, we havent talked, barely any , at all. It seems like you just dont care about me. I mean, i feel so confused, because, for some reason, you just stopped talking to me. Why? I mean, are you trying to get me to take the hint? Or what? I mean i really dont know what to think. Tell me anything, tell me that you hate me, just please please be honest. Remember that thing at carrowinds, guys cant stand when girls beat around the bush? Well, if you dont like me, please just tell me straight up. My feelings wont be hurt. And if you do, but just arent sure, just tell me. I wanna be there for you, I want you to be able to trust me, and be able to talk to me, about anything

Additional Details

3 hours ago
i emailed this last night, and i dont think shes had a chance to check her mail yet, was this a bad thing to do? what will she think?

3 hours ago
I mean its not like a one time thing, the situation is she totally used to like me, well she has really backed off, over the past few months, and i have no clue why, wellim 15, and shes 13, and i talked with her mom, cause they are really close. and she said i need to talk to her, to find out what goin on. its not like she didnt talk to me one time and i freakd out, it like weve talked a total of 2 sentences to each other over the past month.

and please dont say i'm to young, or i'm obsesing. If you loved somone this much, youd know exactly how i feel. I would do anything in this world to get her. I've been trying to get over her for a month, but i always every time do this please answer honestly

Answer 1

You sound like an obsessive stalker. It would scare the holy living crap out of me!

Answer 2

First of all you are trying way to hard. The fact that she is 13 is not s big help either. She does not have the capacity to committ in a relationship. What you feel is not love. It is the aminal instinct of wanting what is a challenge. Turn the table my friend. Be a challenge. Set a standard and you will be the desire of others. Her mom was sweet to you but she knows the truth. Her daughter isnt interested. Even a good friend would do anything for a true friend.

Answer 3

Believe me, I understand where you're coming from, and I symphathize. I would advise you to send no more emails. Allow her time to think and respond. And if she does not respond, or responds in a negative fashion, you have no choice but to let it go and move on. You can't "make" someone care about you, no matter how much you may care about them. From the tone of your email I get the sense that you and this woman did not really have a close relationship, so it is likely she will be a bit put off by your email (you seem to be laying a guilt trip on her). I know I would be.

Answer 4

Okay it is obvious that you have feelings for this girl, but you have to understand that you are going to have the same feelings for many other girls too. It is rare to marry someone down the road that you were dating when they were thirteen. She just became a teenager and may be going through a self concsious phase. Girls at that age are quite moody and I know this because I was one of those girls once. Give her some time to miss you. Try not to smoother her or you will lose her. I know that you feel like you are in love with her but when you get older and wiser you will realize that it was purely infatuation. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Wow- You really put your heart out there, Romeo. I don't know if I would of put all that in an e-mail. But now that it's out there I would let it alone. If she does not respond to you than you have your answer and you will just to work on respecting the fact that although what you had was special it is over. If she does respond and it's a positive thing for you best of luck. Just give her some space. Good Luck!

Answer 6

And no I’m not going to tell you to stop obsessing, but I will tell you that I think you answered your own question.

I’m sure your friend likes you, but probably not the same way you like her. She’s probably avoiding you because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

You’ve already tried to e-mail her…why don’t you just approach her? Just ask her straight-up, this way, you’ll know the answer sooner rather than waiting for a reply.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

You are too young, but besides for that... Delete that email if you can. Remove it from her inbox. I don't know if you can, but you should have talked to her. Emails are the cheating way out. Just remember once you turn 16, she is jailbait for you. You sound pathetic in the email. I would be completely annoyed and turned off by it. I understand that you were trying to get your feelings out but... Next time do it in person.

Answer 8

It was a good idea but it does seem like you are trying to hard she is 13 maybe she does not want a relationship right now maybe she just wants to see whats out there. If she wants to be with you she will be just give her time. If you really like her you will!!

Answer 9

I know you dont want to hear that whole " OBSESSIVE " crap, but because of how young she is that can be a bit scary to her, she may find it annoying. I know when I was that young that kinda stuff was very annoying.


Leave her alone, giver her some space for now, if you let her be, and she DOES like you she will talk to you, but if she doesnt then hunnie im sorry but she isnt interestead. your young you will find someone else.

Answer 10

You are such a sweetheart. Listen, give her some time. Maybe she's going through something that she just doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about. Be patient with her. If she really likes you then she'll come to you.

Answer 11

you are sounding really obsessive.. Just give her time to at least answer that stalker-ish email before you go crazy. If she is avoiding you let her... if she wants you she will come back and find you. If not then well now you know its time to move on.