i have these 2 girls that really like me...one is my ex-gf who i broke up w/not too long ago...becuz she cheated on me...but i can't make up my mind as 2 which one to go for...the one i know i can trust completley and my ex-gf i cannot fully trust at all...but i feel like i just can't live w/out my ex...i mean i really like this other girl too but man i just feel i can't live w/out her...we were together for a long time..and i just feel like i need her back in my life...and she says if i go for this other girl that my chances w/her are pretty much over...and it's the same way w/the other girl...so idk what to do at all
2006-08-28 09:15:56 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow your heart....not your little head!
2006-08-28 09:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing that I have learned from past experience is that once the trust is gone from a relationship, it is extremely hard to regain or for that matter even get back. If you can't trust your ex-girlfriend, then what type of relationship can you possibly have with her that isn't tarnished by lack of trust and your worrying about the sincerity of her intentions? I have recently gotten out of a marriage with someone who was a compulsive liar and who cheated on me and unless they want to change for themselves, they most likely never will. What you are feeling about not wanting your ex out of your life is definitely stemming from emotions that are still there and most likely the familiarity and comfort that being in a relationship had. However, if you look at it in the context that you don't trust her at all (which I am assuming that there is something that she did to you to cause this), do you really want to take a chance at getting hurt again or do you want to begin anew with someone who doesnt create a world of suspicision and distrust for you? I would say that the new girl seems like the better option if you feel that you must have at least one of them in your life, however it does seem like you are not over your ex either and because of that I am not sure how much you can really give to the new girl or a relationship with her. I think that your best bet is to take some time for yourself and decide what you really want out of a relationship and think about if you can actually have it with either of them. Secondly, I think that you should also spend some time on your own because you need to get over your ex and find happiness without the necessity to have a woman in your life. Once you are able to get to that point, you will be able to have a healthy and happy relationship with someone and even if it is neither of them, someone will come around to treat you with the respect and love that you deserve. Good luck to you and I hope that everything works out.:)
2006-08-28 09:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go back with the ex.. Most likely she would cheat again, but if you cant choose between the 2 I am thinking that this new girl isnt going to be the one for you in the longrun. If you really loved this new girl, there would be no doubt in your mind that you would choose her. So until you meet a girl who really blows you away you might still feel your having feeling for your ex. I think you will know when the right one comes along.
2006-08-28 09:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your ex where she belongs......... in the past....... you can live without her and you need to muscle up some back bone and show her that. This new girl you said you can trust deserves a chance.......... your ex had her chance and she blew it, so blow her off........... she is no good. This new girl really likes you and you need a fresh start in your life and someone your not worring about all the time if shes cheating or not. I say the answer is easy....... ditch the ex and take on the new girl that really wants a chance with you....... Be smart, not stupid. BLessed be.
2006-08-28 09:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the new girl, trust me. You feel to comfortable with the ex and all the old emotions are getting in the way. Trust me try the new girl. At the very least your ex might feel how you did when she cheated on you....
2006-08-28 09:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Relationships need to be based off of trust otherwise you have nothing. I'm a firm believer in the fact that you break up with someone for a reason. Give the other girl a try.
2006-08-28 09:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on you once, she will do it again. I would go for the other girl. Hopefully she will help you get over your ex. I don't think she has a right at all to tell you that your chances will be gone if you go for the other girl. She betrayed you first.
2006-08-28 09:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your ex girl broke up with you then u shouldn't go back with her but then it depends on the feelings you have towards her. Do you want a new relationship or keep messing around with old news
p.s If your ex-girl loved you as much you would still be with her
2006-08-28 09:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by ashlye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your heart is never going to change the way it feels you probley love your ex and there is nothing wrong with that but for you life then you need to ask yourself what you want trust or untrust life style if you can't fully trust someone then you can't fully be with them now can you? no you can't no matter how you change the words or no matter how much you think you can YOU NEVER CAN sucks i know but love is blinding and some people don't see it... so let me help you out! go with the new girl! go with the new girl!!!
For me cheating is unforgiveable what she trip fell landed on his... get the point! it was her choice she would do it again! so the choice is yours but go with the new girl go with the new girl!
you deserve the new girl! you deserve to be with someone specail,,, someone specail needs to be with you! THAT NEW GIRL should be dating you now!
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Good luck
Mad luv
the new girl!
2006-08-28 09:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex cheated on you once she will again. forgive her if you want but do you really want to go there again.
You trust your new girl, do you love her? I don't think so if you are still that attached to the cheater. leave them both to stew over you and find someone that will make you forget both of them. Ultimatums in love don't work. Go with the flow
2006-08-28 09:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the new girl. Forget your ex. Trust me I've been there and done that. Once a chic cheats on ya its all over. She'll keep doing it over and over again. Everytime you see her talking to another guy you'll be thinking "Is she ****ing that guy?" Go with the new girl and never even talk to your ex again, just totally ignore her. That'll drive her crazy.
2006-08-28 09:20:16 · answer #11 · answered by diggerfloyd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋