My boyfriend is always bringing up these girls names that go to his school [he goes to a different school in the region] and he says that she tries putting her hands on him and stuff, and he tells me all these girls say stuff to him..tho he tells me he loves me and only me.
what do you think he is doing?
making me jealous?
showing off lol??
i dunno anymoreee!
2006-08-28 09:13:04 · 17 answers · asked by HotChick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he's trying to find out how much you care about him, or he's just being honest with you.
2006-08-28 09:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are a number of possible reasons a guy would do this...
1: He's wishing YOU would do the sort of things he's describing.
2: He's really getting this sort of attention, and he wants to know what he should do about it.
3: He's not getting this kind of attention, but he's lying so you'll get jealous and put out or something.
4: He's saying it because he wants you to get jealous and dump you.
5: He's saying it to cover his tracks because he's done all that AND WAY MORE with the girls.
6: He's thinking about having an affair, and wants to see how you might react to rumors about it.
7: He's showing off, trying to let you know how "faithful" he is by resisting the temptation to get with these other girls.
8: Some retarded combination of one or all of these ideas plus others I can't think of.
Pretty much whatever he's doing it for is stupid, and you should tell him right now that you don't want to hear it... After all, if he really loved you, your sweet loving would be way more memorable than all these stupid things other girls are doing to flirt with him... AND if he really loved you, he wouldn't risk loosing your trust by letting these dumb s-l-u-t-s touch up on him like that.
But if he does't really love you, then testing the waters, and sampling the wares like he's doing makes perfect sense, and you'd be a stupid fool to let him get away with it... Yep, somebody should tell him that you don't want to hear it, you sure don't want any of it to be true, and if he keeps letting those dumb.... young women... do that sort of stuff, he can forget about doing that sort of stuff with you ever again.
2006-08-29 01:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be all of the above. If he has a good friend he would tell him this but if not you are elected. It makes him feel good to know he is in demand, real or imagined.
No doubt he cares for you and he may feel that if he tells you these things and you are okay with it that he won't feel so guilty when a girl does these things. Kind of like making sure that you hear it from him first and not someone else.
If he starts not going out with you as much or letting you know how much he cares for you then you need to worry. But for now just set him down and tell him how you feel about it.
2006-08-28 16:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a classic case of wanting to fool around and the way he justifies not fooling around is to tell you something that may simply be an exageration or fantasy of what really happened - the good thing is he would not be telling you this if he was truly fooling around - but the concern is that he is toying with the idea mentally.........which is not to fear as long as it stays mental - after all, we all have mental fantasies, even if we are in loving and commited relationships - its normal.
I would just mention to him nicely that you love him and you trust him and he doesn't need to tell you about girls wanting him - after all - its a two way street and you don't bother him when every guy winks at you or makes a suggestive remark.....that will get him thinking about cutting it out and know that 2 can play the cheating game if they want - it puts you on equal footing if he seems obsessed with what other girls are doing to him.
2006-08-28 16:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities: one is that he's trying to make you jealous. Two is that he is really idiotic. One of the rules of dating or jobs or other such things is that you don't bring up the past unless necessary. You don't talk about other girls unless necessary. It is just plain inconsiderate.
Talk with him. Find out. If he is being inconsiderate and continues after talking with him, then ask yourself if you wish to continue to be treated like that.
2006-08-28 16:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure to me. Talking about the other girls in hopes of you wanting him more because he has you thinking that the others do too. I'd watch this guy. He does not sound like he is totally committed to you. Good luck to ya!! GaryT
2006-08-28 16:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably just showing off that he's a desirable guy. Nothing more serious than that. Except for the fact that his ego is obviously more important to him than your feelings. But that's most guys for you :)
2006-08-28 16:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a female and i know guys my husband used to do this to me all the time!! he wants to make you jealous. are you not paying a lot of attention to him? when i dont pay attention to my hubby he starts talking about the women at work when i act like i dont care he gets really butt hurt!!
2006-08-28 16:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to make you jealous. Do the same thing to him and see what happens.
2006-08-28 16:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's jealous of you, maybe you talk to other guy or girl friends, and he gets jealous. He just says those things to make you jealous.
2006-08-28 16:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by tsolworldwar3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋