(Remember it's easy to judge when it isn't you, so don't.)
I met this guy at work that I am completely, utterly in love with. We have had a relationship. However...he is married.
Don't tell me what I did was wrong. Just advice on how to get past it and move on, because everything I have tried is not working.
2006-08-28 08:55:50 · 24 answers · asked by aimeelopez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is love and though it might not have been the best thing to get involved in it hurts. I was with a man for 12 years, married 3 years. He left me for another woman and at first I thought the whole world was crashing down. It took me months to get over it. I couldn't eat, was always crying etc.. but then I started to do things for myself, talking to many different people and all of a sudden I realized that being with him wasn't all as great as I thought it was. If he cheated on me I could never trust him again, and if your "friend" cheated on his wife, you probably wouldn't be able to trust him ever. I met a great guy and have never been happier. Just keep an open mind and do things for you... You will get over it.
2006-08-28 09:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all I want u to think; close ur eyes and think. Do u honestly think that he is going to leave his family, kids (if any) for u? If so well keep on going with the relationship, and if not honey move one as much as u feel u love him. You have to understand that he is married, has a responsibility and most of all he's out of reach for anyone else. He's just searching for an adventure, nothing else. Find the courage from deep in ur heart and move on. You'll soon find someone that truly loves u and will only be dedicated to u and u only.
2006-08-28 09:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in is probably the best thing for you. I would suggest spending time with friends. Get a bunch of girls together and go clubbing. I also find that going to the gym helps me feel better and more alive. Embrace your independence. You don't need a "tied up" married guy, single guys should be chasing you down. Walk tall, be confident. Eat lots of chocolate (but watch the scales!)
2006-08-28 09:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by blandnamenotworthremembering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think that there is a way. I think it has more to do with self control than anything. All you can do is will it away. Yeah, maybe it was wrong of you to fall for a married man, but in all actuality, sh*t happens, and it is more his mistake than yours. He is the one that cheated, and he is the one that should have not let things go further, or lead you on the way he did. I would do your best to get a new job... Out of sight, out of mind works the best. I am sure that one day you will find someone better than him.
2006-08-28 08:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that he is very likely to remain involved with the other person and you will always be 2nd best as far a commitment. Even if he did break up with his wife would you want him if it meant he would be likely to cheat? Do you best to not think about him at all and keep an eye out for other men. sooner or later there will be a man you will come along and you'll forget all about the married man.
2006-08-28 09:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by trentmrlowe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is WAY hard to do! believe me, i've been through it tons! try dating around, try finding someone new! maybe even move to a different job! this guy has to get his things together and think about what he really wants! so you've had a relationship? do you mean a "friend relationship" or an "intimate relationship?" if an "intimate relationship" this guy really needs to get some help and needs to find out who he wants: her or you. but if i were you, try dating someone different! it just might work and who knows, maybe you'll fall in love with a single, sweet, romantic guy!
2006-08-28 09:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by love_me_4_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard if you truly love him. Maybe the best way is to think about what a jerk he is for having an affair with his wife. Could you ever trust a guy who would break the oathes he took when getting married? Lying probably comes very easy to him.
Also finding someone else is a good way to forget about your past.
2006-08-28 08:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by CrashCondon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound very arrogant and self absorbed. Your with a guy and you dont' care about his family, you just care about you, and they you only worry about you moving on and don't want to hear that you did something wrong.
You are so about you I think you should suffer without anyone helping you. Then maybe you would see that it's not all about you.
What comes around goes around.
2006-08-28 09:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's marred its not ur wrong remember that he is a man that cant stop cheating and he is not good for u. think of him as a friend one u like alot but don't want to be with. pray that he is a fly and is not a person u would want to date.
2006-08-28 09:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by mommy to be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout...find out how things are goin with his wife...if theyre on a rough patch and are considerin divorce..wait it out ...and if hes interested ull be there. I know its hard ..TRUST ME ..i do...but things happen for a reason, i believe. If not, dont be around...dont you want your own husband? i know itll hurt but keep your distance and soon youll be over him and if not, hell always have a place in your heart and just think of that.
2006-08-28 09:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋