their problems. If you can't keep a man, maybe it's you! if you can't make a woman laugh, maybe it you!! If you are bland and women only want to be friends, maybe it's you!!! If men use you for sex, maybe it's you...Why do we feel the need to blame the opposite sex for our screwups, insecurities, stupidity, promiscuity, being naive, etc???
2006-08-28 08:50:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL@Rena B....
See this is my point exactly...Why am I bitter or crazy or having problems with a man, LOL. I posted this question because of the common sense questions that are asked everyday on yahoo answers that people jump all off the handle for. LOL, if you got all worked up about this simple question then maybe you are one of the people who need to look within yourself to fix your problems, LOL.
2006-08-28 09:08:32 · update #1
Your points are well taken. I agree. It seem to be the fad of today to blame others for ones short comings. They fail to stop and take a good look at themselves. Its much easier to judge others and think of themselves either as being great or as victims. I look at many of the reality court programs. Its amazing to me to see how many people that refuse to see that they are wrong and are at fault.
2006-08-28 09:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What the hell kind of question is that? Are you feeling guilty about something? Let me tell you something, guilt is the most blatant waste of emotion out there. It serves absolutely no purpose. If you do something that you regret, and make no effort to forgive yourself or make it right then you are an idiot.
Most people have faults. Sometimes there are people in our lives that either bring out particular faults, or cause them. In these instances, you need to take a step back and find the source of the problem and not just identify the symptoms. Maybe you date jerks cause you feel like YOU have been a jerk yourself and deserve it. Maybe you are a ***** to men because you were hurt in the past and you are afraid to open your heart.
But sometimes, there is nothing wrong with you. It is the other person playing games with your head and your heart. Some people really get off on that. One thing I can say that I truly believe, is that there are not many trustworthy men on our planet. This is not insecurity but fact. Should we blame ourselves for their infidelities? Their insensitivity? Their lack of understanding or compassion? No. These things rest solely on their shoulders.
Now, how can one blame their own promiscuity on another? Unless of course it is caused by some emotional imbalance brought on by traumatic events such as rape or molestation. Even lack of a father figure has been proven to be a factor in female promiscuity. A better question would be why is it perfectly acceptable for a man to be promiscuous? Double standard. It's ridiculous. Why does a man cheat on his woman, but it's the end of the world if it happens to him? Why can men have female friends but don't want their significant other to have male friends? Because they know what is on THEIR OWN MINDS. Every man (heterosexual) has attractions to their female "friends." That is why he doesn't want you to have any male friends.
What is wrong with you, lady? I think that sometimes people can't make it work because they are barking up the wrong tree. Like if you only date bad boys and keep getting hurt, STOP DATING BAD BOYS! If you have a dry or sarcastic sense of humor, and only go after overly sensitive women, STOP!
2006-08-28 09:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by applegirl1976 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
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2016-11-05 23:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by fleitman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, anybody for any problems tries to blame somebody. Its way easier to identify who is different from you (in any way) and just blame them for everything. Its much much more difficult to accept some of the responsibility and blame, then place some of the blame, then try to reconcile with whoever we have identified as different and are blaming. Celebrating differences and working together is key.
2006-08-28 08:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. I don't blame men for anything. I just wish they were able to be more understanding of what I'm saying to them. And yes I have been totally understanding of guys, I have listened to all kinds of men's stories from cheating to doing freaky things all of it. But yet when it comes down to me expressing myself to them, I get this whole past girl's bad experiences thing that comes back to haunt them all of a sudden and they start accusing me of not listening to them and I really want this in a guy and I don't deserve a good guy and all this crap. So that is my grief with guys. But I don't blame them for anything but not giving me a chance that I give them.
2006-08-28 08:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.... it takes two people to make and break a relationship.
But most people cannot identify their short comings and in this day and age, it can't possibly be your own fault, always someone else's. When you start to accept your own faults, then you can begin to mature emotionally as a person.
2006-08-28 08:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, a women with her head on her shoulders!
I thought you were like a unicorn or an urban legend.
To quote a brilliant lyricists' ... there's no such thing, Like a Female with good looks that cooks and cleans.
2006-08-28 09:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by what it do 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blaming others is just some way people deal with it it's just easier for them . i've learn if anything needs to change let it start with I.IF YOU GO THROUGH what you go through & a lesson was learned it was worth going through. simple
2006-08-28 09:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by K-SOLO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned to always check myself before I go blaming others. One of my ex's was one of those people who always looked to place blame elsewhere when he really should've been examining his own behavior.
2006-08-28 08:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by tru_til_da_end 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats what is wrong with society and our goverment no one wants to accept responsibility for their f u ck ups! will live in a world full of cowards and pu ssies
2006-08-28 08:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by purpleartof5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋