my son is grown but lives with me...i know he smokes weed but have asked him to keep it away from home....but the fragrance i smell when coming in the door sometimes tells me he's not respecting my request..love him but don't want the stuff in my house!
2006-08-28 08:42:10 · 15 answers · asked by roobee52 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has shown himself unreliable and deceitful. Sorry....but kick him out. I love my son too but he was booted when he wanted to move his girlfriend in with us. They moved in together then married. That is fine...but not in my house. m
2006-08-28 09:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sometimes you have to resort to tough love and if your son has to learn that there will be consequences to not respecting your wishes. Since your son is grown you can't very well punish him, so your only option left is to kick him out. Let him know that you are serious about this. He'll more than likely come running back very shortly thereafter asking for your forgiveness. At that point you have to make the decision whether or not you want to give him a second chance, but he has to live by your rules while under your roof.
2006-08-28 15:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he's grown... it is ok to "kick him out" and let him literally grow up. if you've set the rules and he doesn't respect your wishes here's a few options:
1. let him know you're serious - change the locks
2. call the cops - you may have to do this after his response to changing the locks
3. pack all of his belongs and give him the boot
i'm sure you want to be a supportive and loving parent, but if he's disrespecting you (and he's old enough to live on his own)... it's probably time for him to start becoming responsible in more ways than one.
good luck to you!
2006-08-28 16:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by charwants2know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all where is his father? to discipline him? If he isnt around then you need to tell him to quit completly ,,,I dont know if you know this but if narcotics are in your home and the police find out, YOU will go to jail with your son. Marjiuana is against the law dear. If he dosnt like it kick him out for the tough love move.The reason why kids are doing drugs is because they are trying to fill the void which only God can fill.Drugs is a way of escape from dealing with responsiblity. Leadership is important in the home ,if its not there the kids will walk all over you.Find a youth church and ask them to help him.
2006-08-28 15:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose the obvious question here is Why would you want to keep a person in your home who both breaks the law AND disrepects your wishes?
This is a time when you may need professional help to come to grips with "tough love". In order to show your love for this man, you may need to get tough...kicking him out may be the best thing for him.
2006-08-28 15:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide - whether it's "don't use it in here" or... "I don't want to smell that on you", whatever you decide, the most important thing is to follow-through. There are no consequences if you don't say what you mean - and mean what you say.
Personally, that would be unacceptable behavior in my house. Since he is grown - I would say to him that since he's old enough to support his habit - he's old enough to take responsibility and get his own place. You say he's 'adult' so I ***-u-me that he's at least 21. You cannot control other people's lives - but you can certainly control what is unacceptable in your own home.
Tough love...... they come back eventually..... when they figure out you weren't as dumb as they thought.
2006-08-28 15:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect your home and you don't want to kick him out, you need to lay down the ground rules. I have sons so I know how difficult it would be to kick your own child out no matter how old they are. You have to talk to him!
2006-08-28 15:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by countrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, even though u love him, do what u think is best, i think u should kick him out, he'll understand because he will know u care about him and him smoking that...like u can say: you can't live here anymore cuz u smoke weed, ur supposed to be ubove the influence. mayb he'll quit or mayb mite just move out..do w/e u want........................thx for the 2 points.
2006-08-28 15:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by M S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a father i would have to say that you should kick him out and get dried out before he is aloud back in. you can get in alot of trould for letting him smoke in your house you can lose your house
2006-08-28 19:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by raymondj_c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he paying rent? If so, he has to have a lease, and you can specify no smoking or eviction.
If he is not paying rent, well, you are his mother, make him respect you or get the hell out.
If it continues, call the cops, scare him straight.
2006-08-28 15:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋