thoughts foreplay??????????????????????????????????
2006-08-28 08:28:58 · 28 answers · asked by classiclady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it may be your parnter's fault - especially if he's male
2006-08-28 08:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Plum 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow!
that sucks huh.
Okay......How did you orgasm before with other partners. Were they smaller or bigger than your current fling? That may have something to do with it.
Foreplay is always good.......the more that merrier. However that may not be your magic pill. Try more foreplay and see what happens.
Talking about how your feeling and what feels good and what isn't working should be your first step. If you open about what you need I'm sure he will be open to give it.
If all else fails.......go buy a bullet and keep it handy. It works really well in the "Doggie Style" position.
2006-08-28 08:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by hisgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer is not from me its from website
http://www.indiana.edu/%7Ekisiss/questions/OrgasmDuringSex0502.htm
Only about 1/3 of women can have orgasms during intercourse, so you're definitely not alone in that. Women's vaginas are not their primary sex organ, the clitoris is. And the clitoris often doesn't get enough direct stimulation from intercourse. Using a vibrator gives more direct stimulation to the clitoris.
Another thing that might make it difficult to have an orgasm with your partner is the feeling like you HAVE to have an orgasm. Having an orgasm is a little like trying to squeeze a wet bar of soap - the more you try, the more difficult it becomes. Feeling like you ought to have an orgasm and you're letting your partner down if you don't is a lot of pressure for your genitals! They respond by inhibiting arousal.
There are several things you can do to start having orgasms with your boyfriend. The first and most important thing is for BOTH of you to let go of the idea that you're SUPPOSED to have orgasms with him and if you don't you're broken or he's a bad lover. It's just not true. Forward this email to him and talk with him about it, because it's very important that BOTH of you understand that your not having orgasms does not mean that he's inadequate or that you're dysfunctional. It just means that if you want to have orgasms with him, you need to learn a few new skills.
Next, if you've had an orgasm with a vibrator, why not use the vibrator with your partner? You can use it on yourself to show him what you like, and then he can use it on you. While you're doing this, your goal is NOT orgasm, it's just to share pleasure and to show him what kinds of sensations your genitals respond to. While you're at it, let him masturbate for you, so that you can learn what he likes! It's important that you both pay attention to his sexuality as well, or else you might end up feeling pressured and he'll end up feeling neglected. Keeping it balanced helps you both get your needs met.
Also, spend time exploring each other's genitals and touching them in lots of different ways. Let your boyfriend explore your genitals without the goal of giving you an orgasm or even arousing you. Give him feedback about what he does - you can rate sensations on a scale of -10 (intensely painful) to 10 (intensely pleasurable).
I hope this helps! Thanks for the question, and good luck.
more info about female orgams you will find on the
http://www.indiana.edu/%7Ekisiss/questions/FemSexQuestions.htm#orgasm
2006-08-28 08:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by mrangelosd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you have orgasm with other man?
The inability to have orgasm is called anorgasmia, or inorgasmia. In situations where orgasm is desired, orgasm is mainly thought of as being caused by an inability to relax, or 'let go'. It is closely associated with performance pressure and an unwillingness to pursue pleasure, as separate from the other person's satisfaction.
A recent Redbook survey shows that 52% of women regularly fake orgasms. Only 17% of women are likely to have an orgasm during sex. 43% of women report “some kind of sexual problem” – like inability to achieve orgasm.
But orgasm is so pleasurable that it is worth an effort to achieve it.
2006-08-28 08:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first question you have to ask yourself is, Does your current partner care about you having an orgasm? If you think he does then talk to him about it and get his/her input on what they think you should try. Then get creative, read books, buy porn, lots of foreplay seems to prep my GF alot better than when I just rush right in.
If they don't care if you orgasm, then its time to find another partner.
2006-08-28 08:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by CrashCondon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its actually almost impossible to have an orgasm while having sex. men/women just aren't built correclty. foreplay, toys, etc. help in that arena. Women need much more stimulation than a man does, especially a young man! lol
2006-08-28 08:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, the achievemnet of orgasm lies in your hands too. You need to let go and get into a zone... Your technique is just as important as his is in achieving your orgasm.
2006-08-28 08:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by donniebrasco_06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More foreplay. Maybe a glass of wine to help you relax beforehand?
2006-08-28 08:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by luckyaz128 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's more what he may be doing wrong or not doing that is causing you not to orgasm.
2006-08-28 08:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by RedEye 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not what you are doing wrong. You need to tell your partner what you want & how you would like him to do it.
2006-08-28 08:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Elliem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should spark up your sex life and bring toys into the bedroom! Trust me, he'll enjoy it just as much as you do!
2006-08-28 08:31:17 · answer #11 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋