i have a boy frien for about 6 monthes.at the first he dint told me any thing for sex but then after 15 days as he told me alot that he loves me he kissed me.at the first he was intrested to see my family but after 6 monthes as my family wanteh him to marry with me the relationship between he and my family fiished.he tells me that he loves me alot but as he is only 21 years old he needs 2 or 3 years to save money and asked me for waith for him.but every day our sex is going to be more.how i can be sure that he really wants to marry with me?i really loves him
2006-08-28 08:16:35 · 16 answers · asked by naghmeh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its quite obvious he is using you for sex.If he was so sincere he must have approached your family in the first place and discussed about you and his future and ask them to fix the marriage at a later date as he is young and would like to earn before marriage.But what he does?He uses your love for him to his advantage and when your family wants the marriage,he made sure that the relationship between him and your family is over.If he was so sincere and honest he must have said to your family members to give him 2 years time and he will definitely marry you after earning and saving money.But all this he says to you and not to your family members.How can you trust him and allow him to have sex.Even now nothing is lost.Ask him to patch up and see your family members.Make sure he says the same thing that he said to you,ie he really loves you and needs 2 to 3 years to earn and save money as he is just 21.Its important that he makes up with your family because if he really loves you then he must also love your family and respect your wish to see them again.If he avoids seeing them,then he is not to be trusted at all.How come after seeing you for more than 6 months he thinks he needs more than 3 years to earn and save?.Also why should he strain his relationship with your family after all they asked for marriage in your best intrest.So stop having sex with him till he gives you and your family members assurance regarding his love to you.In that case you can wait for him.If he really loves and cares for you he will definitely see your family members again.Otherwise he is using you for sex.Till such time dont allow him near you and no more sex till the issue is settled.Life goes on.If he loves you he will definitely come back to you,if he does'nt then its not love and he was just using you.
2006-08-28 08:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 15 days of dating he asked you for sex? You don't mention how old you are and if your parents want him to marry you they must have discovered that you are sexually active with him.
Some parents believe that marriage will make everything right, but if he is only using you for sex, it won't work, honey. How would he have reacted if you would have said no sex until marriage....its not old fashioned its self preservation.
I hope you are practising safe sex. He asked you to wait for him, ask him if he is willing to do the same, in case you get pregnant, he's already told you he wants to wait.
Good luck sweetie, enjoy life, maybe you should cool things a bit until he is ready to commit ....to something besides having sex with you.
2006-08-28 08:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a real mess. You shouldn't ever have sex before you're married, and this is the only way you can tell if a man loves you (because most are purely selfish). Since you are doing it (and since he is doing it), the answer is probably no.
I wouldn't recommend wasting your life with him. I think you need to start over and only have proper relationships. You'll soon find out how many really "love you."
2006-08-28 08:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW i was reading your answers and people could be so harsh, LOL!!! But anyways, 6 months is way too soon and he is way to young. He is right he needs to wait and save his money. And you should not have sex for a month and see how he reacts towards you. You have to give him some test like that.
2006-08-28 08:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Oh Boy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to married life and love than just sex. A marriage based on sex CANNOT survive for long.
2006-08-28 08:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not a psychic information superhighway website. we are no longer astrologers. once you're with this guy, and you do no longer comprehend no count if he loves you or no longer and you're consistent with astrology to assist you to already know, you're in great hardship. And why do you elect for to comprehend "how lots" he loves you? Why does it is going to be a level of his love? Why does he ought to leap off a construction to instruct you methods lots, or does he ought to stroll on hearth or does he ought to drink poison to instruct the intensity of his love for you? would not it make experience to ask HIM no count if he loves you and how lots, No??
2016-10-01 00:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt tell you im a virgin but im only 15 too.. i say just fallow you heart and reach for your dreams if u feel like your relationship isnt gonna go too far than break it off but still be friends but honestly i do see his point he's finally ligel to PARTY
just enjoy your self with him and go have some fun togather!!if ...u drink that is!!
2006-08-28 08:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by LangryTang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you are too young (and not very intelligent it seems from your poor English skills) to be getting married.
Go back to school - get and education - then think about marriage at about 25.
2006-08-28 08:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get some more education ...find yourself a nicer, respectful man there. he just wants your sex. which isnt cool......you have a lot more respect for yourself girl .......take my advice and these other peoples advice and get out of that relationship or whatever you wanna call it......
2006-08-28 08:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he wants to marry you as much as he wants to have sex with you.
I would proceed with caution if I were you.
2006-08-28 08:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋