Ladies... She wants attention wht should I do?

Question

I have posted a question earlier about a chick I was seeing. (Check my past questions) To add to that story she has been hinting that she was pregnant. She said she thought she was last week when we were on bad terms. We made up in the middle of the week and she never mentioned it. Now that we are on bad terms again now she feels its important again. She claims she dosnt want another child and she wants me to pay for her abortion. However, she said she was pregnant b4 and supposedly got an abortion but I couldnt tell (No evidence of an abortion) She said last time she had so many people who offered her the money to get an abortion but now that Im working two jobs she feels that I should be the one to pay. To get the full understanding of the situation read my last question before you answer its titled "Am I wrong for dumping her"

I seriously dont think she's pregnant, I think its just a cry for attention or she's just golddigging. What do you all think?

I know she's not pregnant because we use condoms. One broke but I quickly withdrew and put on another.

Answer 1

She is playing you, this is emotional blackmail. She only becomes pregnant when you look like dumping her.
I heard about this girl who did something similar and the guy gave her $400 and said to her 'do the right thing' so she went out and bought a new sound system!!!

Answer 2

If she is pregnant and you are the father you do have a financial responsibility. If you dumped her, or she you, it doesn't matter. You are still the father.

I would ask for a paternity test before you do anything. If you are the father she should have no objection to that. She does have a right to an abortion. It is her body. But who pays for it should be the real father.

By the way how do you find evidence of a prior abortion? Are you thinking about a c-section? An abortion would be vaginally and it is not likely you could see any evidence of it. Just wondering.

Make sure your the father and then do the right thing.

Answer 3

OK first of all, i didn't have time to read the other ?'n but I can honestly say that ur gurl is playing with chu. Like u said and I quote "she said she thought she was last week when we were on BAD TERMS." She is just using that as an excuse honey don't be fooled. And about the abortion, is it even confirmed that she is pregnant?? Are u supporting her in her decision?? If u are; I think that u should help her, but if ur not she cant make u get rid of a little angel can she?? I personally think that's straight out stupid what ur gurl is doing. Those things aren't to play with. Now if that's her ****** up way of asking for att. she need to ****** grow up. Baby's aren't material things to be used to get out of tight situations. You need to put ur food down and set things on the table. Shes doing all this **** cuz ur letting her, think about that...

Your truly
Twilight

Answer 4

Why are you still with her? No your shouldn't give her the money. Your girl sounds like a bird to me. She doesn't work and she drives your car all day and now she wants you to pay for an "imaginary abortion", because if you ask me the girl was never pregnant, that's just some bogus story she made up to get you to take her back. And now that you did take her back she needs the money for the "abortion" aka clothes. I'm not saying she's a gold digger, but she ain't messin with no broke *****. Good luck

Answer 5

This is way out of hand. First of all, if she was pregnant "the last time" you both should KNOW BETTER than for her to be pregnant again?...maybe?...is she? Who the hell knows? Go with her to wal-mart, get a pregnancy test, and find out for sure. If she is, (and you think you're the dad but don't want to be "the dad") then go with her to the clinic. Whatever you do, don't:
1). Give her cash to go rid of her phantom baby
2). Let her use a child as a negotiating device
3).Don't, don't, don't date her anymore!
If attention is what she needs (I'm a female, we all need attention to some extent) then she should have been more mature about the situation....Don't you want to be with someone who knows how to say, "honey, you've been distant lately with your work schedule and all. I feel as though I'm no longer a priority in your life. Maybe we can have some "alone time" this weekend?" Rather than someone who says, "I'm preganant, and you're paying for it this time!!"

Answer 6

My cousin just got an abortion last week, If she got an abortion she should have a receipt, medicine for two weeks, and "shouldnt" go swimming, get in a hot tub, anything that can upset whatever it is going on up there and they told her YOU CANNOT HAVE SEX for at least 2 weeks... and if she can show you that then being as you are the one to get her pregnant then you should pay for it, i mean if she had the baby its much more expensive to support a baby then pay for an abortion...

Answer 7

my boyfriend just recently went thru a very similar situation...he cheated and the girl decided she was pregnant (i say decided because either A. she wasn't or B. that was any ones baby who would claim it) i told him to try to talk her out of an abortion...that we would take the baby in (we already have 3 kids together so really whats one more) but she claimed to have an abortion and said that he owed her $2000 (not $200.....$2000) to pay for it...we found out that a man is not in any way legally responsible to pay for a woman's abortion...there is no was to prove paternity so therefore the man is not in anyway financially responsible...
leave her alone...she obviously isn't stable...and screw everyone saying you made a mistake by messing with her...i am sure everyone on here has done sh it they are ashamed of

Answer 8

This lady is nuts. Also STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX! You guys aren't exactly romeo and juliet and bringing a child into the world just because you guys like the feel of unprotected sex is as selfish as it gets.

You did the right thing. This ladies nuts. Now go to the store and get some condoms, or call Maury Povich for the next "who's your daddy segment."

Answer 9

It takes two to make a baby. You did your part, and she did the hers. Based on that I think you should offer to pay for 1/2 the abortion. She also consented to sex, so she needs to accept that this is as much her fault as yours.

Answer 10

I think that either, she is trying to use you. Or she actually wants some attention from you!!!

Now that you have made your decision to break up with her then there is nothing that you could do about it right?!?!?

RIGHT!

Now if it just so happens that you 2 get together again, ****! Just ask her what is it that she wants from you. Baby talk her or something like that. Don't be rude or anything just be really nice to her. If you have get mean don't get too mean as to where she won't open up to you...

hit me back.....