We are moving to Texas one week after the party and do not want to be packing more toys and/or clothes. How can I politely ask people not to bring bulky gifts and that we would prefer gift cards or money(if anyhting)?
2006-08-28 08:04:56 · 35 answers · asked by mmay89120 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Honestly....it's fairly rude....
2006-08-28 08:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
First of all it your Birthday and I feel that you should be able to ask for what every you want if they are true friends of yours. That is how I feel I would send out are word of mouth that You are moving soon and that it would not be a good idea to bring gifts just let them know that if they give you a card with a token in it that would make you so happy because that would be less work for you to pack up more stuff before you move to Texas. Every one should understand if its only 5 dollar that is still a token of love for you to have on your birthday.
2006-08-28 09:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, if it's mainly immediate family that's coming, they probably know you're moving and understand your reasoning for asking for money/gift cards. If it's school friends/parents of your child, it is sort of rude. I personally wouldn't do it. I'd just pack the toys and clothes I wanted to keep and hope that the rest of them give gift receipts!
It's easy enough to go to Wal Mart, The Home Depot, etc. and buy one of those large Rubbermaid tubs and throw all the toys in there.
2006-08-28 08:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression "Looking a gift horse in the mouth"? Well, anytime you tell what you would like without being asked is a little rude. People get you things because they want to, from the goodness of their hearts. That's the bottom line. What you could do is ask the gift-givers to keep in mind that you are moving. Don't tell them what you're willing to accept.
2006-08-28 08:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's never polite to ask for any kind of gift. If you've only invited close family members they would probably understand but if this is more than that just accept the inconvenience of having to pack anything that they might be generous enough to give. This kind of reminds me of when people complain about having to write thank you notes for gifts.
2006-08-28 08:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Daphne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems unpolite, but in your case, since you are moving, I would suggest you get with a friend who could stress your point on your behalf and who could maybe start a money tree for the party or something instead of the gifts. Just try and not make it seem like totally your idea.
2006-08-28 08:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Alisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you really can't. you can only volunteer that if someone actually asks you what you'd like. yanno? if i were you, i'd just hope that people give gift receipts if you really think you are going to get so much stuff that it will be difficult to pack it?
i never got so much for my birthday that it was difficult to pack it all up. but i mean really, what does it matter? these people care enough about you and yours to come to the party and give a gift, so i'd accept it graciously and then deal. :) gl with the party and the move.
and holly's idea of asking people to mail gifts is fantastic. that way it won't matter.
2006-08-28 08:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's probably not considered polite to put this on an invitation, but if people ask, of course you could say. Also, I'm sure your close friends would not mind if you told them what you'd really prefer. They should realize the last thing you need is more stuff to pack.
2006-08-28 08:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could just request that people not bring gifts at all - just come and enjoy the party that way you won't feel uncomfortable asking and people won't feel obligated to bring something. Just a thought/idea. Good luck with your move!
2006-08-28 08:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Weasel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell them the party won't be held until after the move & make it a birthday,housewarming party,then you will get something not only for your birthday but maybe a nice housewarming gift?
2006-08-28 08:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by fairy53042000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in cases like that, yes, but otherwise, its just tacky to ask for specific gifts. You might suggest they supply gift cards, and specify what they would like you to buy the childwith the money.
2006-08-28 08:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋